Originally Posted by Marsupialmom
I would make copies of these. They look bad because she is still underage but they might not hold much because you had the baby or a responcible person did.
Hi. I'm a CSW (Clinical Social Worker). I'm a child therapist who has worked with ACS (DCFS in New York State).
I'm so glad you decided to call. If your BF wishes to have custody, and is shown to be in good character, he will probably be given 100% custody by family court at the time of the DCFS/Family Court hearing. There will be a DCFS hearing if there is a finding of abuse or neglect. Given the information you've passed along, I'd say there will be a court hearing. Family Court Judges, Social Workers, and DCFC case managers know how terrible it is to put a child in the "system" and will do EVERYTHING to avoid it. I'd cross my fingers that your BF retains custody.
My heart goes out to you. Stay strong but please realize that this ultimately is not your responsibility and that you deserve happiness in your life. I am saddened that some people suggested you simply leave your BF---That's difficult and I can tell how attached you are. Even if that is the "right" thing to do, or the "healthy" thing to do, it doesn't mean it's easy or that you're ready.Oh, and btw, the journals and myspace pictures are not admissible in family court. I've never seen such things allowed. They can be used during the INVESTIGATION. You can show them to the DCFS workers and anyone else who is assigned to the case (clinical social worker, psychologist, law enforcement). However, the judge will not allow them in court for a variety of legal reasons.