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post #1 of 14
10/22/03 at 12:50am
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Just wanted to comment of how our dh's and dp's have supported our bf decisions. My dh at first didn't want me to bf (at first i didn't even know there was another option than bfing!) He said it would "ruin 'em". LOL But it didn't take much at all for me to show him how much better it is that I am going to bf. Now he's so glad I am, we have a perfectly healthy little guy. and he supports my plans to him ds self-wean at whatever age (as long as it's past 2 y/o). But what I really wanted to comment on is the guys that convince thier wives to give it a try. I have a friend that before she got pg hadn't planned on bfing. Her husband wanted her to, and now she bfing her 8 m/o and is pg again! Great for her. Also my cousin wasn't going to bf, but she is because her husband felt "adamant" that she at least try it. Yay for you husbands out there that encourage us to do what's best for our children!
post #2 of 14
10/22/03 at 1:42am
Yeah, and thank goodness in that case they actually listened to them! LOL:LOL
post #3 of 14
10/22/03 at 2:15am
This is my favorite nursing story!!!!

My birth experience was horrid, and culminated in my being unconscious after an emergency c-section (I guess I reacted too strongly to the meds?). Anyhow, the nurse told my husband that our big baby (9lb 7oz) needed a bottle. Dh said "No, I went to the breastfeeding class with her and I can hold the baby up to her while he nurses". The nurse was horrified and said no, so dh demanded a LC. Of course that would've meant a great deal more work on the nurse's part, so she gave in. I woke up just as Andrew latched on , even though the anesthesiologist expected me to be out for hours.

After that, the next couple weeks were awful due to a lot of things that I hear from other mom's made them quit nursing. Evertime I wanted to quit, dh told me that I really wanted this, and I should not quit. He even read the bf books for me to help me figure out what was going wrong. He's awesome.
post #4 of 14
10/22/03 at 2:38am
What a great story Angie! My older sis had something similar happen but the nurse was on her side. Emergency C, and she was just out of it. At some point one of the nurses came to my BIL and said.. she wanted to breastfeed, right? BIL says, YES! "Okay, well, if we don't get that little girl latched on now they will insist she needs a bottle and you don't want THAT complication!" So the nurse and my BIL got the baby latched on.
post #5 of 14
10/22/03 at 3:51am
My DH ROCKS!!!! He is SO supportive!

One of his former co-workers formula fed her baby and asked him if I was FFing as well. When he said no, she asked why not. He told her all about the benefits of breastmilk and the relative ease of BFing. She said, "Well formula is free if you get on WIC." He said, "Yeah, well, breastmilk is already free!"

When I read posts on here about nasting comments towards nursing moms or see things like the stupid JCPenney ad I always tell him about them. He gets almost more outraged than I do!!

I love that guy!
post #6 of 14
10/22/03 at 9:50am
I agree While my dh is pretty reserved and I don't really see him advocating breastfeeding, he is totally supportive here at home. Ds will be 4yo in a few weeks, and I think its safe to say that all three of us are happy with "our" nursing relationship.
post #7 of 14
10/22/03 at 10:23am
Wow! Those are some great stories!

My husband has come around to breastfeeding slowly. He was certainly supportive, don't get me wrong, and quite integral to getting breastfeeding started in the early days. However, I do think he thought my sister was a bit weird for nursing her daughter so long (3.5 years), and I bet he sort of expected me to wean Karen at the 12 month mark. Now, however, it sounds like he's thankful that I've stuck with it and recently said that he can't imagine how things would be if we couldn't calm those toddler tantrums with nursing.

He's a great guy and I'm not sure where our nursing relationship would be without his help. We may not have even nursed past the first few days without his support, patience and encouragement.
post #8 of 14
10/22/03 at 5:41pm
My dh is very supportive, too. He was FF and didn't find out until we were pregnant - boy, was he pissed at his mom!

There is a 6 yr old boy that comes with his mom to our LLL meetings, and he is so informed about BF, he even tells his mom "some people say that you should just FF, but they are wrong" - he is going to be quite the catch someday, already an advocate!

post #9 of 14
10/22/03 at 10:21pm
my dh is quite the advocate, as is my ds....

we were at inlaws recently, they kept talkin bout things myy dd can have for thanksgiving coming, and ds looked her square in the eye and said "babies only get mommy's milk cuz thats whats good for them."


i was so proud
post #10 of 14
10/22/03 at 10:51pm
Dh has always been probreastfeeding, though I don't think he expected it to be this long lol. He wouldn't voice an opinion to others though, unless he was asked.
post #11 of 14
10/23/03 at 9:24am
DH has always been really supportive of my breastfeeding DD. He's also become quite the advocate himself... He teaches college level introductory psychology to about 800 students a semester, and as part of the course he talks about the research on attachment (in the context of the nature/nurture debate). He typically lectures about how the research suggests that CIO is a bad idea, and this year he added some information on the benefits of breastfeeding for forming a secure attachment He loves that he may be influencing future parents to at least think about these issues.
post #12 of 14
10/23/03 at 10:26am
Lisa,

Give that DH a pat on the back! Wow, he's got quite the audience. I am constantly recalling college psychology when raising my daughter. Tee hee, Phil and I actually went through one of my textbooks last week to read up on language development! These are likely all people thinking of having kids in the next few years. What an optimal time to discuss these issues from an academic standpoint!

Bravo!
post #13 of 14
10/24/03 at 1:12am
my dh used to say when i was pg that he was not going to pay for formula, so i'd better bf or the baby would starve. : i had every intention of bf'ing anyways.

now he is awesome. if people comment on how cute or chubby or healthy jas is, dh always says it's coz she's breastfed. for someone who knew nothing about bf'ing, he's become quite the advocate, and always sticks up for us that way. and when his mom eats a nestle kitkat, he tells her she's killing a baby! : (i may have created a monster LOL.)
post #14 of 14
10/24/03 at 1:27pm
Goefizz,

He's really hoping that there'll be lots of people like you who try to recall info they learned in psych courses when they have their own babies

I'm impressed that you still have a textbook around--I sold all of mine at the end of every semester when I was an undergrad!
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