My husband and I welcomed a beautiful baby boy to the world on Saturday, April 19th this year. His name is John Paul, but we call him Jack, in proper Kennedy form...
My husband and I decided to circumcise our son... stupid me did not research anything about it... left it to the person that has a penis, he must know best.
After my son was born, the nurse said that it looked like he had a birth defect called hypospadias, which is when the opening for the urethra isn't where it outta be, either it's somewhere else on the head of the penis, on the shaft, or beside the anus. I did not know this either, until yesterday... again, stupid me.
The hospital personnel had said they did not want to circumcise him, because with hypospadias, usually re constructive surgery is required, also sometimes plastic surgery as well. They referred us to a pediatric urologist and sent us on our way, my son still intact.
Fast forward 3 months... with the new mommy still not researching anything... like a complete moron...
We see the pediatric urologist yesterday, where he told us that our son doesn't have hypospadias, in fact, his foreskin just is not attached underneath, making it kind of like a cape instead of a tube... if that makes any sense. Great! awesome! Our son isn't going to need re constructive surgery!
What about the circumcision?
The doc tells us that in order to circumcise our son, we'd have to wait until he's 12 months old, he would be placed under general anesthesia, and they would surgically remove his cape, with stitches to follow.
My husband and I decided to let Jack decide if he wants it done when he's an adult. I'm not going to sign a paper for them to anesthetize my baby to do a procedure that isn't medically necessary. It just didn't make good sense.
After our appointment, I took my son to my parent's house, they watch him for a few hours on the days that my husband and I both work. I filled my mother in on our decision, and she and my father took turns "trying to be helpful" and telling me that I outta reconsider. Qua? you want me to sign a paper and have them anesthetize your grandson???!?!? to do something that has no impact on his health or well being????!?!?
Seriously... took turns, for minutes, telling me I should seek a second opinion from someone who isn't quite as "anti- circumcision" ... just to make an informed decision.
I have since researched circumcision and hypospadias thru and thru. The more I read the more nauseous I become. I was going to let them hurt my little guy. I wasn't going to stop them. I was going to PAY them to do it. Jesus, what is wrong with me???! I love this child with almost everything that I am, and I was going to hand him over for him to be, for all practical intents and purposes, mutilated... at only a day old.
It makes me sick.
I'm trying really hard not to cry writing all of this out.
So, I cannot even describe the guilt I feel over this. It was an enormous wake up call to me as a mother and as a person in general.
The next undertaking is to research vaccinations...
My husband and I decided to circumcise our son... stupid me did not research anything about it... left it to the person that has a penis, he must know best.
After my son was born, the nurse said that it looked like he had a birth defect called hypospadias, which is when the opening for the urethra isn't where it outta be, either it's somewhere else on the head of the penis, on the shaft, or beside the anus. I did not know this either, until yesterday... again, stupid me.
The hospital personnel had said they did not want to circumcise him, because with hypospadias, usually re constructive surgery is required, also sometimes plastic surgery as well. They referred us to a pediatric urologist and sent us on our way, my son still intact.
Fast forward 3 months... with the new mommy still not researching anything... like a complete moron...
We see the pediatric urologist yesterday, where he told us that our son doesn't have hypospadias, in fact, his foreskin just is not attached underneath, making it kind of like a cape instead of a tube... if that makes any sense. Great! awesome! Our son isn't going to need re constructive surgery!
What about the circumcision?
The doc tells us that in order to circumcise our son, we'd have to wait until he's 12 months old, he would be placed under general anesthesia, and they would surgically remove his cape, with stitches to follow.
My husband and I decided to let Jack decide if he wants it done when he's an adult. I'm not going to sign a paper for them to anesthetize my baby to do a procedure that isn't medically necessary. It just didn't make good sense.
After our appointment, I took my son to my parent's house, they watch him for a few hours on the days that my husband and I both work. I filled my mother in on our decision, and she and my father took turns "trying to be helpful" and telling me that I outta reconsider. Qua? you want me to sign a paper and have them anesthetize your grandson???!?!? to do something that has no impact on his health or well being????!?!?
Seriously... took turns, for minutes, telling me I should seek a second opinion from someone who isn't quite as "anti- circumcision" ... just to make an informed decision.
I have since researched circumcision and hypospadias thru and thru. The more I read the more nauseous I become. I was going to let them hurt my little guy. I wasn't going to stop them. I was going to PAY them to do it. Jesus, what is wrong with me???! I love this child with almost everything that I am, and I was going to hand him over for him to be, for all practical intents and purposes, mutilated... at only a day old.
It makes me sick.
I'm trying really hard not to cry writing all of this out.
So, I cannot even describe the guilt I feel over this. It was an enormous wake up call to me as a mother and as a person in general.
The next undertaking is to research vaccinations...
to MDC
So many moms only find out after the fact and cant fix what was done. You were spared this thank goodness as was your ds.
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