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Originally Posted by suprgrl 
This is all so new to me. Prior to this I could have counted on my fingers how many times I had seen a doctor in my whole life, and I have never dealt with specialists of any kind. So this is a whole new world to me. And it is very overwhelming. I am trying to learn how it all works with referrals and insurance and seeing the right person since my ped seems to have no clue and won't give me any real advice. Like yesterday on the phone when I asked about seeing a specialist she was like, "well, who would you like to see?"
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okay first off hugs hugs and more hugs for what your son and your family is going through right now, I have no advice on specifically what's going on... way off of what's going on with our little guy, he's low weight and low height but that is a feature of is genetic issue, a skin disorder, and your son certainly doesn't have the one my son does, (there are no bumps an red spots to his skin) so you can easily mark 1 of many things off your list...
Okay here is where I hope I can make your life a little less hectic...
it may be a good thing that she was was like, "well, who would you like to see?.... it would be nice if she was wiling and able to say "he needs to see X dr who is a specialist in Y and his office is located Z) but if you have gotten over the hump of getting her to write referrals and she's willing to send you wherever... just say the word and her office will get the referral to them... it's more leg work on you trying to figure out things but it means when other specialists say to you go to a X Dr. all you have to do is call and get the referral sent over It's nice because if you have a problem with a certain dr in particular it s sooo much easier to change to another Dr. because your primary has no real bone in the pot so to speak...
Also, find yourself a notebook, leave the first 10 or so pages blank so you can go back when you have time and chronologically list what doctors have been seen, procedures done and tests have been run... start today and carry that notebook as part of your life. Don't have to put the whys and the results of the testing in it, but keep track of where you go, who you see, what tests are run, get a couple of folders or a 3 ring binder, whenever you see a doctor or have something done ask that test results and office notes are sent to you, put them in the binder, ...................
company coming, will continue later............... I'm back.
If you call an office, write it down, who you spoke to if your supposed to follow up or what the are supposed to do. Basically keep a journal of your sons medical history.
Sometimes it's easier to ask for a business card at the appointment and just tape it down so you have the office #, address, fax # all that stuff.
The purpose behind this is it gets pretty difficult to keep up with everywhere you have been, what has been done and even if you do ask for the office notes/reports not all doctors offices will send them with this you may not have the actual results but you can say hey he had that or this done and when.
Call your insurance, whether private or state based and ask for case management, it is it's own special little office within the insurance company that will kind of work as a go between between your primary care dr and the specialists, they will make sure you have the referrals you need and all the paperwork is lined up. They can sometimes get you into see someone sooner rather than later. (Thy are wonderful at cutting red tape.) Key words to use when asking for case management is multiple issues, multiple specialists, so many appointments that it is difficult for you to keep track and on top of the referrals. Sound overwhelmed not incompetent.
Have you contacted your state early intervention program? They work birth to 3 years of age. they work more in lines with education.... therapy, is what I think of most, OT, PT, speech... but I think if there is any developmental delays at all they will help you identify them and get your child the help they need. They can work with you too on scheduling drs appointments, making sure the referrals are set up, they can request the office notes and get them to you (will have to sign a waiver for them to do that). It's a real in person face to face type service.
Check with your local health department also to see if they have a children's special service or something similar that might be called something else. Tell them your sons issues and that you need help figuring out all the ins and outs of having "so much medically going on"... similar to the early intervention system in the help they can provide but sometimes they can help in other areas where EI can't and vice versa.
That's all I can think of for now, it's really difficult keeping up with all the doctors but it's doable.
Hope you guys figure things out! Hugs again.
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