Has your partner been helping out as much as you'd like? - Page 2

[ryansma]

Yep! Mine is awesome too. He is all over anything I ask him to do and he made more dinners than I did last week and never batted an eye when I said I wanted to go out - : instead of cooking.
I him.

[MySunflowerBoys]

Sounds like a lot of great hubbies/future daddies here!

My dh has also been working his butt off this summer, which I appreciate but miss him at the same time. He was determined that this would be the year we replace the deck on our house & I agreed it needed to be done. Once he got into it, though, we realied it is a bigger project than we planned and we also decided to upgrade the deck materials from treated lumber to Trex (a recycled product) and the cost of the project doubled. He took on several extra summer work projects to pay for the extra expense, so not only was he spending every minute outside of work on the deck, he also worked longer.

My boys really missed having daddy around and I did too. No foot or back rubs this pregnancy. He has gone to just a few of my appts with sonos. He feels really disconnected from this pregnancy. Don't get me wrong, he's happy about it & can't wait to meet his dd, but it's just different this time. I've done all the baby planning & prepping on my own. I know the stress of the pregnancy expenses has gotten to him too. We certainly didn't expect to have all the extra sonos and dr appts.

Well, I know he's a good daddy and will be there for me and the baby when we need him. There's just so many hrs in a day!

[~Megan~]

I'm slightly annoyed that he just invited his brother over tomorrow. We will be gone all day for a funeral. I would like to have a reasonably clean house when his brother gets here which means I'll have to work all morning to get it done while I'm getting myself and the kids ready for the funeral or I can do it late tonight after we get home from the funeral.
Either way, its not fun.

[mama parrot]

My husband has been great! He works night shift, so he gets home at 7:30am which is when our son gets up, so lately he's been letting me sleep in while he takes care of the morning stuff. SO NICE!!!
We've had a custody issue with his daughter throughout this pregnancy, so that's added a lot of stress and time consuming meetings for him. We are finally done with that though, and we will get to have her here with us more, so that is awesome.

[foogoomomma]

Well yes and no lol. I admit he's been a lot nicer about things since our midwife appointment. She was very clear about how my diet needed to be and she saw me one day when I wasn't feeling well and was so concerned that I think it was sort of a kick in the pants for him lol. He's been more attentive lately which has been really nice and he won't let me lift things anymore which is a big change. Overall though I am very happy with how he is right now

[redebeth]

Originally Posted by ~Megan~

I'm slightly annoyed that he just invited his brother over tomorrow. We will be gone all day for a funeral. I would like to have a reasonably clean house when his brother gets here which means I'll have to work all morning to get it done while I'm getting myself and the kids ready for the funeral or I can do it late tonight after we get home from the funeral.
Either way, its not fun.

Will he help you? Our rule is if he invites someone (even family) over, he has to help clean. Sometimes he does it all. Is this a possibility?

[greenmom4]

Uh, no.

I'm the primary breadwinner in our family and my h works part time as a cook at a local bar and grill (which I have no problem with - I like to work and we don't need childcare because of the flexibility of his job). But if I hear him say that he's tired one more time, I'm going to f'ing sock him. And he has a habit of hanging out after work (ie, sitting at the bar) and I have no way to get ahold of him, which in this stage of pregnancy is a little disconcerting.

To be honest, he's never been the super attentive type while I've been pregnant. He's great with the kids, but sometimes I just need someone to take care of me! :

[~Megan~]

Originally Posted by redebeth

Will he help you? Our rule is if he invites someone (even family) over, he has to help clean. Sometimes he does it all. Is this a possibility?

He did help today and yesterday. I still ended up doing most of it. It was stuff I needed to do anyway to prepare for birth but having bil over put me on a bigger time crunch than I wanted.

Originally Posted by greenmom4

and I have no way to get ahold of him, which in this stage of pregnancy is a little disconcerting.

The bar doesn't have a cell phone? Do you have one you can send with him?
Perhaps make your wishes clear so that he knows you want and need him. Men are generally not as intuitive as women when it comes to others needs.

[jule924]

He did vacuum last night which desperately needed to be done. He does pretty well once he gets his momentum going. It's just getting him going that can be a challenge (and makes me feel like a nagging mommy ). He hasn't been as attentive this pg - kind of like he thinks since I've done this twice before I should be fine and it's no big deal. He will always run out for my cravings which is nice, though. I can't complain too much, but it's annoying how he always has to remind me "how good I have it". (How much he helps with the kids and *mostly* does things when I ask, etc.)

[Shiloh]

Mine's been good by proxy..
he's paying for the nanny and he's been around somewhat...but emmotionally....I say he can do a lot to be unsupportive but not much to be supportive...really he's so uber pragmatic problem = solution....that I just about give up on expecting sympathy, empathy and pray he doesn't stick foot in mouth.

But he's a great labor coach for me probably as I tend to loose it and panic..
he can keep his cool for the most part...

the cool thing is he's considering delivering this baby himself (midwife asked if he wanted to play catch) ....its an offer he cannot refuse although its a story I WILL NEVER HEAR THE END OF

[triana1326]

DH has been putting in 60 hr workweeks for the last two months, but he's planning on utting way back about two weeks before I'm due. He's been great around the house, and since I can't cook to save my life, I do all the food prep and he cooks the dinners at night. Usually by then, I'm too tired beccause I've been cleaning or hanging laundry or paying bils, or working at my job. He's been a lot more attentive in the last few weeks, to the point where he shaved my legs for me on Sunday because it makes me lightheaded to bend over now. And not one nick!! He's just great...: