NEW: at & over 40 with little ones Tribe UPDATED

[lovbeingamommy]

Hey Everyone - This is such a great thread it just seems like it's getting super long. It started in 2004 WOW!! So I thought I'd see if there's any interest in a new thread Hope that's ok with everyone.

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Let's share a little about ourselves (name/age) and our LO's and I'll keep us all updated : with info here...sound ok? I also checked out the other earlier thread for discussion topics. Education and difficulties/successes with being an older parent were two I saw, also older moms wanting to TTC again in their 40's. So we'll see how it goes and hopefully this thread will last a few years too

AT & OVER 40 with LO's TRIBE MEMBERS

lovbeingamommy Kate - 44 DS 3 yo and two babies in heaven. TTC #2 in April '09 (hoping Apr. 25th is a miraculous day with a BFP)

mammal mama -44 Lover of Jesus, Wife to Dude, SAH Unschoolin' Momma to Roo 4-25-00, Boo 3-10-05, and at least one precious Soul in Heaven.

chattie67 Julieanne - 40 SAHM and have a DS that's 20 and a DS that is 10 months

mamasgroovin - 40 I have 4 kiddos...ds1 is 16, ds2 is 12, ds3 is 7 and dd is 3.5...so I do not have any SUPER little ones, but quite the spread. I have been a SAHM for 16 years now.

yankeeterrier - 45 DS almost 9M, WAHM with a website for maternity, infant and childrens resale items and a hyena cart store for cloth diapering items. I am cloth addicted!

Kira's mom - Hali - 47 Dd 5 1/2

salt_phoenix - Julie

PassionateWriter - 40 Due in October # children ages 17, 10, & 2.5

2goingon2 - Janet - 40 Mother of 3; expecting 2/09

ricemom3 - Muriel - 43 married with 3 kids - ds 17yo, dd 14yo, and ds 1yo

Jezzy - Sharun - 40 I have 1 ds 15, 2 dds #1 is 13 and #2 is 7 mo

MCR - Pauline - 46 Mom to three ages 20, 14, and 3.

BethNC - Beth - 40 I'm mom to a four-year-old son and foster mom to a 18-month-old bundle of energy.

SaneMarguerite - 40 - Mom to a six moth old son

claras mom - 44 - Dd is 3y8m. She's scary smart and very high energy. It's a wild ride.

mamazee - 40 - I have a 6-year-old and I'm expecting another in early Feb.

ssh - 48 - I have a 22 year old DD and a 33 month old DD

avivaelona - 41 - Erica - currently pregnant. I have a 3.5 year old too.

mbbinsc - 47 - with 10yo DS and 34month DD. She still nurses.

AkRotts - 41 - proud mother of a 23 yo, 2 yo twins and a 16 month old I am also guardian for my 12 yo neice.

lara1828 - 40 - Lara - I'll be 41 in November. I currently have a 2.5 yo and a 4.5 yo

Materfamilias - 44 - I'm 44 (just turned) with a 15 yo stepdaughter, a 5 yo adopted son, and a 9 week old baby girl.

MaxMommy - 43 - ds 4.5

ewink - 41 - 4.5 yo DD and 3.5 yo DS

hrsmom - 40

Anglyn - almost 40 four kiddos 17,5,3 and 1

noordinaryspider - 43 - Three DC 19, 16 and 1

Treasuremapper - 48 - DD's 5 and 7

Verygoddess - Jennifer - 41 - due in May with #5. We have an almost 14yo, almost 12yo, 9yo and almost 2yo.

athansor - Sue - 41 - birthmom of a dd who is 21 (she was placed for adoption as an infant) and have two ds's at home, one just turned 4 (on the 4th) and the other one is 6 months old today.

kbhlmh - Karen - 47 - DH Larry (51), DD Lorraine is 20, DS Winston is 18, DS Kevin is 2y10m, DSS Chris is 23 and DSD Michelle is 20. We are currently TTC a younger brother or sister for Kevin.

being - Be - 44 I have one dd 3.7 yo. I miscarried last year at almost same time I conceived again naturally this October . I'm dueJune 30 ish/early July and am soooo excited

libba - 45 - 8 year old DD and one angel baby

Barab - 46 - I'm going to be 46 soon and I have 20 y/o, 17 y/o and a 2 1/2 y/o.

Shahbazin - 41 - with 2 DDs - almost 1 1/2, & a little over 2 1/2 years old.

uptowngirl - Jillian - 46 - I have a 4 year old daughter and a 6 year old son. My dh is 60 and these are our first (only) children.

Close2Me - 42 in Jan. - with a 3 mo. old and a 7 yo.

intentionalmama- Lesley 46 - with a 5 1/2 yo ds and looking to adopt another child.

ElliesMomma- 40 - DD 2.75 and newly pregnant with #2 EDD Sept. '09

BelovedK- 42 -TTC #3 13yo and 9yo

SkyMomma -39.5 5yo and 3mo

Kidzaplenty- Jenny - 39 Helpmeet + MOMYS = #1 ~ '90 + #2 ~ '94 + #3 ~ '96 + #4 ~ '97 + #5 ~ '00 + #6 ~ '02 to '06~ + #7 ~ '04 + #8 ~ '06 to '06~ + #9 ~ '08 ----> My Blog . . . Josh24:15 . . .

THANKFULFORFIVE - Billie - 41 My gang....kid-luvin' Dh-42, ds-20, ds-15, dd-14, dd-11, dd-14mos, hoping for #6 next year

CathMac - Cath - 43 1/2 - 4 1/2 yo DD and 2 1/2 yo DD

ZanZansMommy - 41 - 3 yo DS and 5 yo DD

allgirls - 42 - my youngest is 3 and my oldest is 18 and expecting her first in September...so I will be a grandma soon

jrabbit - 42 - 3 girls ... 9, 4y11mo, and 10 days

smibbo - 42 - I have 4 kids. Three boys: 18, 16, 13 and an awesome little girl (18mos)

Pookietooth - Jen - 43 - and I have a five year old (who will be six soon). I'm also TTC, and hoping for #2.

ktmama - Kate - 43 with two dds (3.5 and 11.5) and one baby on the way. I'll be 44 when s/he is born in June.

Miracle and Wonder - Candida - 45 I had a miscarriage in February of 1983 (at 19) and I have two living babies, Isobel (who will be one at the end of the month) and Ianto (who was born 21 December). Ianto also had a twin, annalisa, who passed away at the beginning of this month.

contactmaya - Maya - 42 I have a 10 month old and a 3 1/2 year old. Both boys.

SuzymomofLaura Suzy - 42 - mother of two: my sweet Laura, now 4,5 yrs old already, and Lucie, our 20 month old (and not yet STTN at all), gluten/lactose intolerant VBAC miracle. And there's DH, aged 50, plus one cat, 11 months old, in our household. We BF, co-sleep and I recently summoned up the courage to pull out my CD stash again

Let me know if there's any corrections or updates that you'd like

[mammal_mama]

Count me in!

[chattie67]

Looks like a great time to be joining!

I am Julieanne, I am 40yo SAHM and have a DS that's 20 and a DS that is 10 months.

[mamasgroovin]

Hello, I am now officially 40...as of July 24th!
I have 4 kiddos...ds1 is 16, ds2 is 12, ds3 is 7 and dd is 3.5...so I do not have any SUPER little ones, but quite the spread. I have been a SAHM for 16 years now.

I'd like to add that I find it difficult finding older moms to hang out with. We've recently moved and the moms that I generally meet are MUCH younger. It is hard to find moms with preschool aged kids who aren't in their 20's, YK? I also think I am bit lazier as a parent this time around. :

But for the most part, it rocks! I do have a lot of fun dragging my little clone around with me!!!

So...can I hang here now?

[mammal_mama]

Sure! I guess I'll share my bio again. Well, wait a minute -- I guess it's all in my siggy! Except that I'm 44.

[yankeeterrier]

I'm 45 with DS almost 9M:, WAHM with a website for maternity, infant and childrens resale items and a hyena cart store for cloth diapering items. I am cloth addicted!

I have become proficiant at one handed typing and have grown the mysterious 'eyes in the back of my head'.

[lovbeingamommy]

to all the new mamas! I've updated everything through 7/27 @6pm.

Would anyone like to propose a discussion question? Or, we can talk and encourage each other on this wonderful journey as "mature" mamas. I'm just so thankful that there are other 40+ ers here and active. I'm on another forum and when I started a 40+TTC thread - the only people that responded were 20&30 somethings that sure made me feel OLD.

[Kira's mom]

Hi I'm Hali and have been posting at 40plus for a while. This is the 3rd revision of this thread as far as I know. Dd was not even one when I found this thread! She is now 5 1/2. I just turned 47. We nursed for almost 4 yrs.(CLW) In the past 6 mos she has decided she madw a mistake and often tries to latch on!!

[salt_phoenix]

I'm here!!! My 47 y.o. sister just recently commented that I was both the first and last of the siblings to have a baby... My answer?

SO FAR!!!

[mammal_mama]

Originally Posted by lovbeingamommy

ould anyone like to propose a discussion question?

Well, when I was pregnant with my second baby at 40, I encountered some negativity from relatives -- and I felt the negativity was mainly because I was so happy and this clearly wasn't an "accident." I think that because I already had one healthy child, people felt like I was crazy to intentionally have another at my advanced age.

And when some people realized that I'd decided to sidestep the medical route (unless I felt strong indication that I needed to see a doctor), and was just going to an independent midwife (which I didn't even start 'til the 3rd trimester) and planning on homebirth (which worked out wonderfully) -- well, I realize that's a choice society frowns on for women of any age ...

But I felt like with me, there was somewhat of an attitude that, "If you're dumb enough to intentionally get pregnant at 40, then you should at least have the sense to treat yourself as 'high risk,' and you should at least be 'socially responsible' enough to submit to all the risky testing to make as sure as you can that you're not bringing a handicapped child into the world," and so on.

I'm not criticizing any mama who decides for herself that she wants to treat her pregnancy as high-risk, or who decides for herself that she wants to get certain testing done. But I wondered if we could open a discussion about dealing with others who'd like for us to treat our pregnancies as high-risk, regardless of our feelings on the subject?

I'm 44, and I recently miscarried, so I'm not sure at this point if I'll be able to carry a baby to term. But if it does work out, I'm thinking I'd like to do things similar to how we did with our second. Except, of course, that I'd seek medical attention if I sensed that something wasn't right, as I would have before.

For those of you who've had babies at my age, how well does it work with the medical system, if you want to pick and choose your interventions, and don't want to be labeled 'high risk' just because of your age?

[PassionateWriter]

ive never seen the tribe before.

i have 3 children, am 40 and due sometime in October. (kiddos are 17, 10 and 2.5).

mammal_mama, you sound exactly like me. everyone thinks im insane.

[mammal_mama]

Originally Posted by PassionateWriter

i have 3 children, am 40 and due sometime in October. (kiddos are 17, 10 and 2.5).

Congratulations! :

mammal_mama, you sound exactly like me. everyone thinks im insane.

Then I'm glad we've found one another!

[lovbeingamommy]

Hali, Julie and PassionateWriter. Glad you joined us all :

I'm here!!! My 47 y.o. sister just recently commented that I was both the first and last of the siblings to have a baby... My answer?

SO FAR!!!

So Julie, I'm curious, are you TTC? Right now, I'm in the TWW phase :

For those of you who've had babies at my age, how well does it work with the medical system, if you want to pick and choose your interventions, and don't want to be labeled 'high risk' just because of your age?

Well I was 40 when I had my DS. I did everything (during the pregnancy) the conventional route because I didn't know any better. I remember being offered additional tests because of my age and just turning them down. Never had any pressure or negativeness from anyone, I think part of that was because of our families anti-abortion stance. Other than testing I don't remember anything else that I needed to do because of my age. However, when #2 comes along I will probably have some difficulties since I do plan to use a midwife for homebirth.

[2goingon2]

Hello all. I'm Janet, 40 year old mother of 3 with a surprise little one on the way and due in February. Looking forward to getting to know every one. I'm not the best at posting a lot but will try to keep up!

[ricemom3]

Can I join?

I am 43, married and have 3 kiddos. ds#1 is 17 and a high school senior. dd is 14, going into high school. and ds#2 is 1(7/02). We got some grief from family about that when I was pregnant, but they all seem to be fine now. Now the talk is if we are going to have another one so he diesn't grow up alone.

[salt_phoenix]

Not currently TTC. Not preventing. I have an EBF lo & little time & energy for dtd for anything but occasional recreation. Just coasting ATM. We will see what happens.

[PassionateWriter]

Originally Posted by ricemom3

Can I join?

I am 43, married and have 3 kiddos. ds#1 is 17 and a high school senior. dd is 14, going into high school. and ds#2 is 1(7/02). We got some grief from family about that when I was pregnant, but they all seem to be fine now. Now the talk is if we are going to have another one so he diesn't grow up alone.

my ds3 was a complete surprise and its funny b/c we are prego w/ #4 for this reason..however, my 10 yo and 2 yo are very close so there is nothing that says the youngest will be "alone"....but it is fun (and interesting) to have a 17 (almost 18 yo) and 2 and baby. lol!

[lovbeingamommy]

Janet and Muriel

congrats to all the expecting mamas...

I'm crossing my fingers as I'm officially in the TWW. I'm nervous because this is the first time TTC since my m/c in Apr. Has anyone taken progesterone while pregnant? My OB/GYN suggested it but never even did any test to see if I needed it. I guess he's just trying to be extra cautious...but is it because of my age or the fact I had a m/c earlier ??

[ricemom3]

Thank you for the welcome.

My older kids are having so much fun with the lo. In fact, my ds#1 has joked that when he goes to college next year ds#2 will have to go with him, b/c he can't leave him. (awww)
I am the one leaning towards having another (kinda) b/c I was 16 yrs younger than the youngest on my siblings and I hated growing up "alone".

to lovbeingamommy: Prayers and good baby thoughts going your way. Keep us posted.

[salt_phoenix]

Yeah, good luck on the TTC!!! : I know when I was TTC for Ember, it was the longest 9 mos. of my life!!! I had one m/c, and the next month, BAM... baby Ember. :

My kids are all across the spectrum: old, middle and baby... I love it. They have each had their OWN time being "the baby". I hate to mess up my pattern, but I'd not be upset if we were graced with another lo sometime in the next 2-3 years.

I had progesterone with Ember for the first trimester. I hated the gooey mess (suppositories) but after the m/c, I was willing to try it. Dunno if that was the trick, but here she is! (I've had 4 m/c's total... Ember was the first time I tried with progesterone.)