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post #21 of 407
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Thank you for the welcome.

My older kids are having so much fun with the lo. In fact, my ds#1 has joked that when he goes to college next year ds#2 will have to go with him, b/c he can't leave him. (awww)
I am the one leaning towards having another (kinda) b/c I was 16 yrs younger than the youngest on my siblings and I hated growing up "alone".

to lovbeingamommy: Prayers and good baby thoughts going your way. Keep us posted.
What a blessing that DS1 and DS2 are so close

Thank you for the good thoughts. I'm really feeling hopeful...
post #22 of 407
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Yeah, good luck on the TTC!!! : I know when I was TTC for Ember, it was the longest 9 mos. of my life!!! I had one m/c, and the next month, BAM... baby Ember. :

My kids are all across the spectrum: old, middle and baby... I love it. They have each had their OWN time being "the baby". I hate to mess up my pattern, but I'd not be upset if we were graced with another lo sometime in the next 2-3 years.

I had progesterone with Ember for the first trimester. I hated the gooey mess (suppositories) but after the m/c, I was willing to try it. Dunno if that was the trick, but here she is! (I've had 4 m/c's total... Ember was the first time I tried with progesterone.)
Thank you!! Wow you got pregnant one month after m/c...that's great!! I wish I would have TTC after my first cycle, but I listened to my OB when he said it takes two or three months for the lining to build up :

What dosage progesterone did you take with Ember...I love her name by the way

babydust coming your way
post #23 of 407
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Thank you!! Wow you got pregnant one month after m/c...that's great!! I wish I would have TTC after my first cycle, but I listened to my OB when he said it takes two or three months for the lining to build up :

What dosage progesterone did you take with Ember?

I did get pg. the very next month, and glad to have her... However, I often wonder if that is why I ended up with a retained placenta. (retained placenta=hemmorage & manual removal=ouch & ick) I had a midwife that was concerned when I told her I got pg. immediately that it might be the case. I ended up on hosp. bedrest anyway when my water broke at 31 weeks, so when she did come at almost 35 weeks, I was already in the hospital. My other babies were homebirths, so this was NO BUENO for me. It all turned out, obviously, but if it happens again, I won't TRY the next month... I really will wait at least one cycle. I don't want another hospital birth if I have more and will do ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING in my power to prevent it. I was just so darned determined to get pg. I didn't want to wait even ONE MORE MONTH

I don't remember what dosage, they were pre-filled suppositories, if that's helpful.
post #24 of 407
I didn't "try" not to conceive after my miscarriage in late March -- it just doesn't seem to be happening.

Are any of you ladies coffee drinkers, like me? I don't completely give up caffeine during pregnancy -- I just keep my intake down. But I guess after the miscarriage, I've started wondering if there's anything I might have done to cause it.

But I also think my fertility's significantly affected by full-term breastfeeding. And I have no regrets about that.
post #25 of 407
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Thanks for the info, Julie. It does help very much :


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Are any of you ladies coffee drinkers, like me? I don't completely give up caffeine during pregnancy -- I just keep my intake down. But I guess after the miscarriage, I've started wondering if there's anything I might have done to cause it.
Yes, I'm a coffee drinker. When I had my first LO in Nov. 2005, I specifically remember my doc telling me that one or two cups of coffee a day was fine. And that's what I drank. Then when I became pregnant with my second this year in Feb., I thought I'd stick to that same advice. However, when I went to my OB in Mar (at 7wks-the 1st visit) he told me to cut out all coffee : Really, I wondered, why the different advice from 2005. He told me that there was a recent study (published in 2008) that linked coffee drinking with increased m/c rate. Oh great, so now I wonder if that caused my m/c. After some intense searching I found that study on the internet - I'll see if I can locate again and post. Sure enough, that's what it said, but if I remember right it was a slight increase and I think the amount was more on the moderate range of consumption. Really, only God knows why this happened and I can only speculate; I'm at peace with it now though.
post #26 of 407
Hey everyone. I thought I had subscribed to this thread. Guess I need to take a look and see what I did suscribe to!

I took progesterone with the last two pregnancies. I took 200 mg once a day orally and both times it was only until my first lab work came back and looked good so I was told to stop. My little sister took it vaginally for her last two pregnancies but I dont' recall how long she had to take it.

Re coffee - yes, I still drink it. I typically drink about 8 ounces each morning during the week and that or maybe 10 on the weekends. I don't think there's that much caffeine in it to worry me but I understand your being concerned and wanting to do what feels right to you. I also drink a nice cold coke from time to time too.

It is hot here - wicked hot. I'm already so tired from being in the first trimester and having a little one who doesn't sleep well and this heat is really zapping me. I feel so worthless sometimes. I need to clean my house, there's always laundry and yard work and on and on and on. I work outside the home full time too so I just feel drained. I remember my last pregnancy I did get a wonderful energy boost during the 2nd trimester and I hope it happens again.

Guess I'm feeling a little chatty...
We weren't trying to conceive...but weren't trying to prevent either. I had one post-partum period as I was breast feeding too. My milk production took a complete and total nose dive and now my little guy is on formula. I hate it. He even had his first ear infection last week. He doesn't seem bothered in the least not to nurse and I've had no engorgement or leaking...just incredible sadness coupled with pregnancy hormones. I envy the mammas who can maintain their supply.

I believe that's it for now...hope everyone is feeling well and staying cool!
post #27 of 407
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Hello Everyone -

GOOD NEWS ::: I'm pregnant again...for the third time after 40! I sure hope this baby sticks, the second one didn't I just barely found out yesterday and good thing I did because I needed to have a mammo done that same day. Luckily, I found out and did an u/s instead. So I'm one month today. My naturopath is going to put me on natural progesterone cream sometime soon and is having me get my hcg and progest. checked at the lab.

I hope this post finds everyone well and staying cool in the hot month of Aug. KATE
post #28 of 407
congrats!!!!!

ive been feeling kind of drained lately. im 33 weeks this week. i definitely had much more energy having a baby at 22! lol!
post #29 of 407
Congratulations, lovbeingamommy!
post #30 of 407
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Ok, this thread hasn't seen any action for two weeks. It seems like there's a flurry of 40+ threads now on here so I guess I can blame it on the competition

Oh well, good luck to all the mamas with little ones and hope to see you posting somewhere soon.

post #31 of 407
compeititon? where?

i have been sooo drained lately.
post #32 of 407
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http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=891679

http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=930694

http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=896399

Here's some...These few seem to be frequented fairly regularly. This thread just seems to be drying up which is sad because I needed it especially now since I'm newly pregnant. It's a whole different world being over 40 and pregnant - everybody's perception about it is different and it's nice to be able to talk candidly with older mamas. I lack that IRL. In my profession, education, most of the mamas are in their 20's or early 30's and can't be expected to understand what it's like to be pregnant one or two decades older than they are.

PassionateWriter - I hope you starting to feel a little better. You're so close only a few more weeks to go... I just hope and pray I can be where you are in 30 more weeks or so

I subscribe to this thread so it's easy to check if it's had posts, so I guess I'll try and keep high hopes...
post #33 of 407
i know what you mean. i get so tired of hearing "oh i bet they are monitoring you so much closer b/c you are so much older" and i cant stand that. its hard to explain natural child birth to the younger crowds who are so mainstream. im lucky in that i dont have anyone in my close circle that is skeptical (at lesat i dont hang out w/ them during my pregnancy! lol!).

35.5 weeks now....it is close. baby is posterior now but im trying not to worry about it too much...all my other 3 were posterior so i guess its just what my babies do.
post #34 of 407
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It's a whole different world being over 40 and pregnant - everybody's perception about it is different and it's nice to be able to talk candidly with older mamas.
I was hoping to hear more about that too ... I actually tried to get a discussion like that going ...
post #35 of 407
Hi there! In the interest of limiting FYT to subjects not hosted elsewhere on the board, we have moved your tribe here. You're still a tribe, which means you're still support-only. If you have any questions about the move, please do not discuss it on the boards. Rather, contact an administrator or start a thread in Questions and Suggestions. Thanks, and happy posting!
post #36 of 407
good luck to all you mamas! see you around!
post #37 of 407
Hi! Can I jump in?

My name is Sharun I am 40 yo I have 1 ds 15, 2 dds #1 is 13 and #2 is 7 mo.
I am an American living in Germany and have been here for 16 years raising Bi-lingual kids with duel citizenships!

I am not sure if we will be ttc'ing again. My dh is gone so much that I am practically raising my baby alone

Congratulations on your pregnancy lovbeingamommy!!!

Hi Julie!
post #38 of 407
I think I should join too (if you'll have me)
I'm Pauline age 46
Mom to three ages 20, 14, and 3.
As my siggy says, I'm done, I'm now having fun clearing out the baby stuff. Theres so much of it it's taking me a while.
My new worry is, I'll be the old lady with a kid in K and the other moms won't invite Dd to play dates (I seem to be making up worrys lately)
post #39 of 407
Me too, if it's ok.

I'm Beth, age 40. My sister referred to it as 20/20 so I'll use that for a while. I'm mom to a four-year-old son and foster mom to a 18-month-old bundle of energy.

I never planned on adopting a child. I was foster only. But then Chris moved into my home and my heart. Becoming his forever mom the most important thing I've ever done.

Today was my kids' first day of Pre-K for my big one and child care for my toddler. It's very quiet. Much too quiet.
post #40 of 407
ooh me! me!

I'm 40 and have a six month old son.

I totally dig it. I didn't like being seen as a medical curiosity by everyone in the universe while I was pregnant, but all's well that ends well.

however, no one told me that motherhood would be this hard on the knees. has anyone had good luck with not-so-medical interventions for creaky crunchy joints and achy muscles?
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