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im still around adn this has NOTHING to do w/ the fact that im 40 but man, having 2 little ones and tandem nursing is HARD. seriously. what was i thinking?
post #223 of 407
Hi all I want to join too !!! I am 42, and trying to conceive my 3rd DC I have been trying for 3 months and nothing yet I do have a 13 yo and a 9yo.
post #224 of 407
Welcome to all the new mamas!!!

lovbeingamommy We ot back home on thursday. the trip was long 28 hours frome door to door :

It was very warm. Ash had a great time playing on the beach in the sand. She LOVED it! I had fun with my family. I just couldn't make my mother understand why I wouldn't be more comfortable nursing in the bathroom or under a cover. That caused some problems. She kept saying "but I can see your browns" I told her to quit looking then. She just doesn't get bfin'g. Oh well I am home now and I can bf as I please without feeling stared at by her. I love her I just can't be around her for to long
post #225 of 407
Hi Y'all, can I join? I'm 39.5 with 2 magical boys - 5yr old who is right now wearing a mask & bells & dancing wildly about the house singing his self-made song: "I am a circus perfoooormer". 3 month old mildly fussing & squirming in my lap as I write. Teething already, I think. Anyway, I was just feeling all sad & mournful this morning thinking that DS2 may be my last (getting too old, yk?), looked at MDC & found you all. Yay, MDC saves my day again, bringing hope for the future. So I know I don't officially meet the criteria, but will soon...can I come play too? Please?
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lovbeingamommy- Its another healthy girl: Thanks for asking

Now that that is over (and the holidays and birthdays) I guess its time to concentrate on the new arrival. My dh was very worried about AMA and birth defects and is now breathing easier.

PassionateWriter- Can you elaborate more on the tandem nursing. I am still nursing our 2yo and she doesn't show any signs of weaning so I expect I will be doing this soon. I can't figure out how Im going to nurse both at night. I will be 42 in june and still suprised we are pregnant again!
post #227 of 407
beloved K, hang in there. hope its soon..sending you sticky vibes.

jezzy, thats too bad. oh well....glad you are home and dont have to deal with that again.

skymomma, of course and welcome!

very goddess, well, its a bit tough right now, is all. its certainly a HUGE commitment that i never realized before. ds3 is 3 yo now and nurses MORE than the newborn at times. i dont have issues at night b/c ds3 STTN now but daytime is a bit tough. i normally dont recommend weaning to anyone but im wondering, in my case, if it wouldnt have been better to have weaned ds3 before ds4 got here. i dont know though and dont have a crystal ball...maybe things woudl have been just as hard and i wouldnt have had nursing, who knows?? im just having a hard week! lol!

AMA - i cant stand that term. they always are making it lower and lower. used to be 40, then 35, some dr's want to say 30. whatever! lol!
post #228 of 407
Hi mamas! I'll be official in 2 days! (officially 40, that is!!!) :

I wanted to share that I have "decided" (with deference to the fact that real life sometimes goes differently than what I decide) that I want to try to have another baby in a couple of years. I'm a single mama, and I was thinking I wouldn't want to do another solo, but I've changed my mind on that! Ever since I brought my daughter home from the hospital I've wanted to do it again! (When I was in the hosp., though, recovering from the c-section, my thoughts were something like "I'm never having sex again") Anyway, I was thinking of trying again when my daughter is about 3-ish, or when I have a feeling that I could take care of her and be pregnant again. I'd be 43 then. I just wanted to share these thoughts with you all, thanks for listening!!!!

Man, I love my little girl! Even if she did steal the show at my birthday party!
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Alright, no lurking allowed Come and join us : it's more fun that way
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Welcome to all the new mamas!!!

lovbeingamommy We ot back home on thursday. the trip was long 28 hours frome door to door :

It was very warm. Ash had a great time playing on the beach in the sand. She LOVED it! I had fun with my family. I just couldn't make my mother understand why I wouldn't be more comfortable nursing in the bathroom or under a cover. That caused some problems. She kept saying "but I can see your browns" I told her to quit looking then. She just doesn't get bfin'g. Oh well I am home now and I can bf as I please without feeling stared at by her. I love her I just can't be around her for to long
WOW!! That's a long trip...glad everything worked out, well, except for the bf'ing issue. I know what you mean though my mom and dad were the same way...like I should be ashamed or something. Even my sister acted so embarressed because I bf. :
post #231 of 407
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Hi Y'all, can I join? I'm 39.5 with 2 magical boys - 5yr old who is right now wearing a mask & bells & dancing wildly about the house singing his self-made song: "I am a circus perfoooormer". 3 month old mildly fussing & squirming in my lap as I write. Teething already, I think. Anyway, I was just feeling all sad & mournful this morning thinking that DS2 may be my last (getting too old, yk?), looked at MDC & found you all. Yay, MDC saves my day again, bringing hope for the future. So I know I don't officially meet the criteria, but will soon...can I come play too? Please?
to our tribe. We're glad you found us : As far as getting too old, heck no, my first DS was born when I was 40, then 2m/c's last yr , but I'm going to keep on trying until meno hits, probably around 50 at least that's when my mom had hers. So just eat healthy food, exercise, take prenatals, and keep on trying.

I'm being really proactive now so when we start TTC again in mid-Mar (waiting because DH had a stroke in Nov.'08) my body will be in optimal shape. I currently go to a ND/midwife that has a lot of knowledge about things you can do increase your chances and have a sticky babe.

Sending some good baby :
post #232 of 407
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Hi all I want to join too !!! I am 42, and trying to conceive my 3rd DC I have been trying for 3 months and nothing yet I do have a 13 yo and a 9yo.
to our tribe. : Glad you're here. Don't get discouraged...keep up the hope. Here's some sticky baby vibes for ya' :

Also, I think you are also on the other over 40 thread that is uber active with TTC. I'm sure they would have lots of tips to help out with TTC. Good Luck!
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Hi mamas! I'll be official in 2 days! (officially 40, that is!!!) :

I wanted to share that I have "decided" (with deference to the fact that real life sometimes goes differently than what I decide) that I want to try to have another baby in a couple of years. I'm a single mama, and I was thinking I wouldn't want to do another solo, but I've changed my mind on that! Ever since I brought my daughter home from the hospital I've wanted to do it again! (When I was in the hosp., though, recovering from the c-section, my thoughts were something like "I'm never having sex again") Anyway, I was thinking of trying again when my daughter is about 3-ish, or when I have a feeling that I could take care of her and be pregnant again. I'd be 43 then. I just wanted to share these thoughts with you all, thanks for listening!!!!

Man, I love my little girl! Even if she did steal the show at my birthday party!

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Great!!! You should definitely try again...maybe even before 43. I wish you could talk with my sister, she just turned 40 and is single. She desperately wants a baby, but feels it's only achievable if she's married I try to tell her that there's all sorts of options, but she doesn't seem interested. I just hope that when she's over 50 or so she doesn't look back with regret.
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ok nuf late night posts for me. I don't think I'll ever get that done.
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Alright, no lurking allowed Come and join us : it's more fun that way
Didn't want to intrude, since I am ONLY 39 this year.

But wanted to hang out a bit since I am a GMPofAMA! Seems like I don't really fit anywhere else. You know the old, too old for here, too young for there, too many children for here, not enough for there!

This looks like a fun thread.
post #236 of 407
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Didn't want to intrude, since I am ONLY 39 this year.

But wanted to hang out a bit since I am a GMPofAMA! Seems like I don't really fit anywhere else. You know the old, too old for here, too young for there, too many children for here, not enough for there!

This looks like a fun thread.
already added you to the front page, Jenny!

Are you planning to TTC again soon? You are my hero, you know. If I could change just one thing in life it would of been to start having kids right when I was married. Yeah, it was 29, but geez I could've had about 7 or 8 already. So now that I'll be 44 in a few weeks I guess I'll settle for three more . Of course, that's MY plan...but someone higher up, He may have a different plan...we'll see But I really want write that book titled, Four in my Forties:
post #237 of 407
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already added you to the front page, Jenny!

Are you planning to TTC again soon? You are my hero, you know. If I could change just one thing in life it would of been to start having kids right when I was married. Yeah, it was 29, but geez I could've had about 7 or 8 already. So now that I'll be 44 in a few weeks I guess I'll settle for three more . Of course, that's MY plan...but someone higher up, He may have a different plan...we'll see But I really want write that book titled, Four in my Forties:
Thanks for the nice welcome! It is great to have a place to call your own.

Funny you should ask about TTC. My DH just asked me today if I wanted any more after our very early mc for new years. (Since we are QF, we don't TTC, but we also don't TnTC.) And of course, I can't think of never having another baby. So, he just said to wait until after vacation (in April)! (Last time we went of vacation I was 7 months pg, and not much fun!) Besides, we can't leave it at 9, can we? I really like even numbers, especially "10's" (a possible OCD thing).
post #238 of 407
lovebeingamommy, thanks for the birthday wishes and the encouragement! I did the math again, and I'll be 42 when my LO is 3, so that's what I was thinking, then I'd be 43 when I had my second. Maybe I could have TWO more babies!!! I just want to make sure I can take care of my dd. If I were to get pregnant right now, for example, it wouldn't be fair to her. (Unless our family suddenly expanded and there were people to help with things.) I'd be happy to talk to your sister if she wants to talk to someone! I was going to adopt about five years ago, and I specifically didn't want to be pregnant and unmarried (by myself, that is.) The adoption idea got put on the back burner, and I ended up single and pregnant anyway! We broke up when I was about two months pregnant, and we were only together for two months. It was fine! I should have just gotten pregnant way back when! But I'm so glad things turned out the way they did because I know Hannah and I were meant for each other!

I wish I had started sooner, too!
post #239 of 407
Hrsmom,

sorry that I missed your birthday! A very happy belated birthday to you!:
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I'm glad you're here, Jenny! But what do these letters stand for? --

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But wanted to hang out a bit since I am a GMPofAMA!
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