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post #41 of 407
9/2/08 at 12:06pm
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My new worry is, I'll be the old lady with a kid in K and the other moms won't invite Dd to play dates (I seem to be making up worrys lately)
Actually, as kids get older they pick their own friends, and playdates have less and less to do with whether the mamas hang out ...

But, also, mamas tend to get less cliquish as they get closer to 30, so I think age gets to be less and less of a barrier as time goes on.

Sane Margeurite -- steering clear of the medical community during my pregnancy at 40 helped me avoid being treated as too much of a curiosity. But I wonder what it might be like if I'm blessed to conceive again, now that I'm 44.

I'd still want to do a homebirth like I did last time. Last time I went unassisted for the first 2 trimesters, then started seeing a midwife in the last trimester. If there's a next time, I might go unassisted all the way. I love Laura Shanley's Freebirth site!

http://www.unassistedchildbirth.com/-19k -

Edited to add: I keep messing up the link somehow!
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post #42 of 407
9/3/08 at 4:08am
SaneMarguerite I am having problems with my joints too. My mw said that I am probably not drinking enough. I have started drinking more and it hasn't helped :
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post #43 of 407
9/3/08 at 12:26pm
Hi, All -

I've been a very occasional contributor to the other threads. Time gets away from me. I'm 44. Dd is 3y8m. She's scary smart and very high energy. It's a wild ride.

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Not currently TTC. Not preventing. I have an EBF lo & little time & energy for dtd for anything but occasional recreation. Just coasting ATM. We will see what happens.
Well, I'm here to tell you that the method works....for getting pregnant. My first appointment is today. If all goes well, the babe will arrive in April.

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Sane Margeurite -- steering clear of the medical community during my pregnancy at 40 helped me avoid being treated as too much of a curiosity. But I wonder what it might be like if I'm blessed to conceive again, now that I'm 44.
I'm curious about that too. I was pregnant with dd just before 40 and had her at 40-1/2; didn't seem to be a big deal at all to the medical profession. Now...we'll see.
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post #44 of 407
9/3/08 at 12:30pm
I'm 40, and I have a 6-year-old and I'm expecting another in early Feb. I don't know if the 6-year-old counts as a "little one" yet, but she sure seems little to me. And the new baby will certainly be little.
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post #45 of 407
9/3/08 at 12:39pm
HI JEZZY!

Finally saw the elusive PPAF. Almost 2 weeks to the date after starting solids with Ember at 6 mos. It will be interesting to see what my cycle starts doing.

I sure am loving this baby tho... I feel so fortunate to have her. :-D
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post #46 of 407
9/3/08 at 1:54pm
I have a 22 year old DD and a 33 month old DD and I'm 48, so count me in too. I was so excited while I was pregnant I didn't notice if people thought it was weird.
Jezzy and SaneMarguerite I've had some problems with my joints too. I think some of the causes are falling asleep while nursing, not moving while I'm asleep (cause we cosleep), spending more time sitting on the floor, and extra nutritional needs from nursing. For the first two issues I use pillows to relieve pressure on my hips and knees while nursing laying down and make a point to move to a comfortable position before going back to sleep. Walking seems to help for stiffness. And for extra nutritional needs while nursing I eat foods that are higher in nutrients, and take a supplement.
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post #47 of 407
9/3/08 at 3:55pm
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Congratulations on your pregnancy lovbeingamommy!!!
Thank you!!

I guess Parenting is where this thread really needed to be to survive...
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post #48 of 407
9/3/08 at 4:22pm
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post #49 of 407
9/4/08 at 3:59pm
Me too, I'm on the "competitor" thread in pregnancy...since I'll be 41 in 10 days and am pregnant. I have a 3.5 year old too though so I think I belong here as well I think moving to parenting is a good choice, because I never thought to check FYT and well, most of my issues with my age are really in reference to parenting.

Mostly this pregnancy I actually feel younger than my last pregnancy at 38 but there are some things about age that are a problem. I am on bedrest and I worry if I am going to bounce back from that as well as I did at 38.

I'm less worried about the other parents than I used to be, for a while I just kept meeting other moms in their early thirties or younger, but at my son's preschool there are a lot of moms who are my age or close, yeah for some of them their little one is their youngest and not their oldest, but it just doesn't feel like as much of a difference. Its nice not to stick out with being the only one whose grey shows
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post #50 of 407
9/4/08 at 6:07pm
I have been looking for y'all. I am 47 with 10yo DS and 34month DD. She still nurses. Anyone dealing with perimenopause and breastfeeding? My DD has severe food allergies so I am hoping to nurse for awhile. Just don't know if I can deal with hot flashes while nursing!
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post #51 of 407
9/4/08 at 7:09pm
Hi everyone

I am 41 and the proud mother of a 23 yo, 2 yo twins and a 16 month old: I am also guardian for my 12 yo neice.
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post #52 of 407
9/4/08 at 9:16pm
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Me too, I'm on the "competitor" thread in pregnancy...since I'll be 41 in 10 days and am pregnant. I have a 3.5 year old too though so I think I belong here as well I think moving to parenting is a good choice, because I never thought to check FYT and well, most of my issues with my age are really in reference to parenting.

Are you on the, Over 40 thread in the Jan. DDC? I'm also pregnant (6wks) and started the May DDC and I'm older than EVERYONE!! I thought there would be at least 1 or 2 others
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post #53 of 407
9/5/08 at 3:01am
Sorry about the bedrest avivaelona!
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post #54 of 407
9/5/08 at 1:25pm
I had bedrest for a month before Ember was born. I can tell you it sucked and I felt VERY weak and out of shape from so little activity after that time.
Hopefully you will do your bed-bound exercises better/more than I did.
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post #55 of 407
9/5/08 at 6:16pm
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Are you on the, Over 40 thread in the Jan. DDC? I'm also pregnant (6wks) and started the May DDC and I'm older than EVERYONE!! I thought there would be at least 1 or 2 others
It's early yet. there's a couple of us in the April DDC. I've noticed quite a number of women who've officially "joined" after lurking for some time.

Had my OB appointment. The *only* reference made to my age (other than all the boilerplate offers of screening and tests, which start, you know, at 35) was he said he hadn't expected to see me again, because of the difficulties of conceiving after 40. We agreed that it was a good sign overall that I did conceive, at 44, without intervention.
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post #56 of 407
9/5/08 at 10:04pm
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Originally Posted by claras_mom View Post
It's early yet. there's a couple of us in the April DDC. I've noticed quite a number of women who've officially "joined" after lurking for some time.

Had my OB appointment. The *only* reference made to my age (other than all the boilerplate offers of screening and tests, which start, you know, at 35) was he said he hadn't expected to see me again, because of the difficulties of conceiving after 40. We agreed that it was a good sign overall that I did conceive, at 44, without intervention.
Well if no one minds, I might pop on over to the Apr. DDC now and then. I think that's great that you conceived at 44 naturally! I did also at 43. I'll be 44 though when the baby comes in May.
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post #57 of 407
9/6/08 at 10:25am
I wouldn't complain if I found a BFP during my 43rd year.
Well, I wouldn't complain EVER, but I wouldn't mind waiting until then either.

Congrats to you expectant moms!!!
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post #58 of 407
9/6/08 at 11:36am
Hi everyone,

I'll be 41 in November. I currently have a 2.5 yo and a 4.5 yo and am struggling to decide if I want to TTC #3. I KNOW if I were younger, I'd be having a third, but I feel really unsure about the idea of having another baby now that I've hit the big 4 - 0.

Lara
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post #59 of 407
9/6/08 at 1:35pm
No I'm not on the January DDC one, I'm due in December, but there is a general one that I started in the main "I'm pregnant" section just for pregnant and over forty folks. Its not linked to DDC, there are five of us that are over forty in the December DDC but we haven't started a seperate thread there.
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post #60 of 407
9/6/08 at 2:39pm
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Welcome :

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