NEW: at & over 40 with little ones Tribe UPDATED - Page 5

[Jezzy]

lovbeingamommy i forgot to add that you child sounds amazing!

Welcome MaxMommy !!

So, I think that I o'ed for the first time last week, I thought that it was Af comming on for the first time pp. Well dh and I dtd on that day and the more I thought about it I think that I was O'ing. What are the chances of catching the first egg if I acutally O'ed? Please tell me slim and none

[lovbeingamommy]

Originally Posted by Jezzy

So, I think that I o'ed for the first time last week, I thought that it was Af comming on for the first time pp. Well dh and I dtd on that day and the more I thought about it I think that I was O'ing. What are the chances of catching the first egg if I acutally O'ed? Please tell me slim and none

So it may not be slim to none, but it's probably pretty low. I mean statistically they say that by the time we're 40 our chances in any one month are < 5%. BUT...that's for the general population of women. What I know from my experience, I've been pregnant THREE times on the first month of TTC over 40. However, two didn't make it , but still I was successful getting pregnant. Did you get pregnant easily, quickly with your other children? That might be a good indictator for you personally. Statistics drive me nuts and I'm trying not to listen to the grim over 40 stories anymore.

Whatever happens, I hope it's what you want, mama!!

[lovbeingamommy]

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[ewink]

I just found this thread, and I belong here too. I am 41 (will be 42 in January) and have an almost 4.5 yo DD and a 3.5 yo DS. I think having LO's keeps us young. Heck, I still get carded sometimes when I buy wine or beer. LOL
I think the one thing that makes me realize my age is the fact that we won't have any more kids. My DH is 48 and had vasectomy not too long aftr DS was born, he was more done that I was. But, even at 37-38, I had a very difficult pg with DS, and had many miscarriages before that. So the thought of being pg now would scare me. Part of me is a little sad at the thought of no more babies, but I treasure my 2 precious kids!
I am a SAHM, hoping to start my business of playing music at weddings and other events up again soon. I also compose new age music so I'm hoping to get a website up for that soon too. It's hard with 2 LO's at home though.

[Jezzy]

Hi Ewink! Welcome!

[claras_mom]

New stuff.....dd is finally getting potty learning. At almost 4, it's time. It's been a weird thing for a long time; she's a kid who knows her body's cues but just hasn't cared about peeing in the potty (and yeah, pooping is going to take longer). We--dh and I--are pretty ecstatic but trying not to make too big a deal of it.

It's rough for her right now. I hadn't thought about pre-school until she's four or so, but other parents at her daycare, including her best friend's parents, had other thoughts. There was a mass exodus from the home-based daycare into preschools in September--3 or 4 kids close to her age. She desperately misses her best friend--and yes, we are lucky enough to live next door to each other, but it's not that easy for the girls to spend a lot of time together. And if they have a day when they're not getting along, it hurts more.

[lovbeingamommy]

Originally Posted by ewink

I just found this thread, and I belong here too. I am 41 (will be 42 in January) and have an almost 4.5 yo DD and a 3.5 yo DS. I think having LO's keeps us young. Heck, I still get carded sometimes when I buy wine or beer. LOL
I think the one thing that makes me realize my age is the fact that we won't have any more kids. My DH is 48 and had vasectomy not too long aftr DS was born, he was more done that I was. But, even at 37-38, I had a very difficult pg with DS, and had many miscarriages before that. So the thought of being pg now would scare me. Part of me is a little sad at the thought of no more babies, but I treasure my 2 precious kids!
I am a SAHM, hoping to start my business of playing music at weddings and other events up again soon. I also compose new age music so I'm hoping to get a website up for that soon too. It's hard with 2 LO's at home though.

ewink!!

[hrsmom]

Hi- can I be part of this group?- I will be 40 in January! Just had my first babe at 39. I specifically chose my midwife because she didn't consider my age to be a risk factor! (I've just read the beginning posts so far.)

[Anglyn]

Originally Posted by lovbeingamommy

So it may not be slim to none, but it's probably pretty low. I mean statistically they say that by the time we're 40 our chances in any one month are < 5%. BUT...that's for the general population of women. What I know from my experience, I've been pregnant THREE times on the first month of TTC over 40. However, two didn't make it , but still I was successful getting pregnant. Did you get pregnant easily, quickly with your other children? That might be a good indictator for you personally. Statistics drive me nuts and I'm trying not to listen to the grim over 40 stories anymore.

Whatever happens, I hope it's what you want, mama!!

My grandmother got pregnant at 42 quite by accident, her two kids were 19and 17 and she was done! Or so she thought. That accident was my momma. So Im guessing getting pg after 40 isnt out of the question for me. I was 38 when I had my youngest.

Oh, btw, can I join or do I have to wait until April when I turn 40? Im just about *at* 40 and I have four kiddos, ages 17, 5, 3 and 1!

[lovbeingamommy]

hrsmom

Anglyn

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[Mel*APMomma]

Hey I'm not 40, I'm actually 23 but I wanted to add that my mom is 43 and her and my dad have a daughter (my sister) who is 5 weeks younger then my oldest son. She will be 2 on November 20th

[mammal_mama]

Originally Posted by lovbeingamommy

hrsmom

Anglyn

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I second that emotion! It's good to see you over here!

[hrsmom]

Thanks for the welcome! I look forward to getting caught up on reading this thread!

One of my first thoughts after becoming pregnant at 38 1/2 was "ok, now I can turn 40!" I'd love to have one or two more babies, we'll see. I'm a single mama, so just focusing on this one right now! Since becoming pregnant, I've learned so much, and I'm happy to know that my childbearing years are definitely not over!

[Anglyn]

You know, it's funny, my reason for having my three little ones so close was to have them and be done because I "dont wanna be having babies when Im forty". But here I am nearly forty with my youngest under two. I would think that, more than age, having had four healthy children, would be an indicator of my ability to have another one, wouldnt it? With my youngest, I did the level two u/s because I was "high risk". It showed a white spot on his brain,they didnt know what it was, so I went over for a fetal mri (didnt even know they did those) which, a mere week later, showed nothing. So I had to do another u/s which showed...nothing. But the amount of stress it put me through? Even after follow up was normal, I was still holding my breath, ya know?

[Anglyn]

Originally Posted by mammal_mama

I second that emotion! It's good to see you over here!

Thank you! Im staying out of that other thread for a day or two.....

[nolonger]

Hi, I thought I'd already posted on this thread but apparently not.

Terran was born three weeks before my 43rd birthday, UC/UP all the way to avoid all that "high risk" stuff. I have two older children (19 and 16) and used to say that when i was 35 i was DONE because I did not want to be an older parent.

Well, that didn't work out.

I think what i was actually afraid of was raising a very young child while dealing with health/fitness issues. I'm active and strong and have an unusually "easy" nine month old, so that hasn't been a problem.

I wish I had enough time left to have another little one (and haven't completely ruled out that possibility yet) because I am enjoying parenthood so much more this time around.

[Anglyn]

I know! I use to joke about how I'd be done at 40, as my oldest will be 18 the year I turn 40. And now, that same year, I'll also have kids that are 6, 4 and 2!

[mammal_mama]

Originally Posted by noordinaryspider

Terran was born three weeks before my 43rd birthday, UC/UP all the way to avoid all that "high risk" stuff.

Oh, that's wonderful! I hope to go that route if we're blessed to have another (I'm 44). I was 40 when I had dd2, and I was UP until I started seeing a midwife in the third trimester, then dd2 was born at home a few minutes before our midwife arrived (but I had friends there, one of them a trained doula -- so it still wasn't exactly a UC).

Dh and I felt very empowered by this whole experience, so it's pretty likely we'll be aiming for UP/UC if I do get pregnant again.

[claras_mom]

You know, it's funny....with both pregnancies, I expected some reference to "high risk" because of my age--40 the first time, 44 now--and it just hasn't happened. In fact, the only time my age has come up this time was when my OB said he hadn't expected to see me again, after all this time, but only because conceiving without intervention at my age is a lot harder. So we agreed it was a good thing and nothing more's been said.

[mammal_mama]

Originally Posted by claras_mom

You know, it's funny....with both pregnancies, I expected some reference to "high risk" because of my age--40 the first time, 44 now--and it just hasn't happened. In fact, the only time my age has come up this time was when my OB said he hadn't expected to see me again, after all this time, but only because conceiving without intervention at my age is a lot harder. So we agreed it was a good thing and nothing more's been said.

That's great! So, maybe all the "high risk" treatment is centered around 40+ women who needed help conceiving? Are pregnancies more high-risk if you need intervention to get pregnant in the first place?

I'm 44, I'll be 45 this May -- so maybe, if I get pregnant and stay pregnant, I'll actually be seen as super-healthy by the medical establishment (even though I'm obese) -- simply because I got pregnant, "at my age," without any help.

Still, I don't know if my curiosity is worth the risk of seeing a doctor just to find out how they'd treat me!