Weekly Chat thread July 28-August 4th - Page 2

[myrmom]

I still need to pull baby clothes out and sort/wash/figure out what I need for an October baby vs a June baby

I need to do this as well since my boys were April and July.

I also need to go through them becasue I knew both of my kids were boys before hand and I think alot of it is very very boyish. This time we don't know so I would like to seperate the gender neutral stuff from the overly boy stuff.

[JMarie930]

August already? It seems like just a couple of weeks ago that I hit the second trimester, and now it's almost the third! Time is just flying.

I'm getting very, very uncomfortable at work. It didn't help that I came into work this morning and someone had TAKEN MY CHAIR! Seriously, who takes other people's chairs? Not to mention, it had my name plastered on the back of it. I was so irritated, it's one of those comfy ergonomic chairs that, unfortunately, takes about two weeks to get all adjusted properly. Mine was all set up and comfy and I had no problems. I came home tonight with a monster headache and a very sore lower back and pelvis. I could hardly move. Plus, I'm starting to get some lovely edema from sitting at a desk all day. Blech.

On the happier side of things, I've almost gotten all the clothes we'll need for at least the first 3-6 months! I've been slowly collecting things, and it looks like I just need a few more sleepers in 0-3 month size and then I'll be set. I think I still need to get some more dipes - since we didn't CD DS, I'm not too sure on my stash - but clothing looks good. I love being able to cross things off my list. I just might actually get it all done!

Off to have some hot tea and get to bed early. I'm just so exhausted lately!

[CrunchyDoula]

Hey Ladies! I always get so distracted reading these threads I rarely participate! So I will today

I am currently 27 weeks 5 days and can't believe I am almost in my third trimester! I just hope these last 3 months go by relatively quickly! I've been having tons of BH's and was really crampy today, but they have sort of gone away. I never had this with my daughter so it is making me a bit nervous. I also can't help but think and worry about getting Pre ecclampsia again I had DD at 35 weeks, she was 4lbs 14 oz, and was great, but I do not want to do that again!

We are moving in 5 days and I am so stressed! I still feel like I have the whole house to pack! Mainly it is all the little akward stuff that needs to be done, but it just seems like so much! I can't wait until we get settled into our new place!!

I am however very grateful that we were able to find out we were having a boy, because now I know what I need to do to get ready for this little guy. I just feel so unprepared this time around. With my DD her nursery was all done, all her clothing washed and more! This time I have one boys newborn onesie, that is all! Thank goodness we have all of the big stuff; crib, pnp, breastpump, boppy, bfpillow, swing and a few other things. We just need to make up our mind and figure out if we are going to CD this time around or not and then get a stash going.

I am just a little stressed with EVERYTHING that is going on. I could use some calm down vibes

[celesterra]

Calm down vibes for Jessica! It's all going to be ok, mama... just take some deep breaths and take things one at a time.

Hi to the rest... and thanks for the thoughts, crosscat and Carrie. I decided I should just try to keep up with this thread so you guys won't think I'm MIA. I have to warn you, though, if you read a daily update from me as opposed to a weekly one, you're more likely to hear me gripe about this situation. I'm trying to keep it light, but man, some days are challenging!

I'm going to try to get some work done tonight, since I'm really late on my last freelance project, but wanted to say hi to all of you lovelies and establish myself on the thread.

[PassionateWriter]

wow! this thread is already sooo big. i can never keep up! lol!

im now 31 weeks. we have decided on the family dr. for baby to visit (they have a naturopath in the office..im so excited about that). I already told them not to expect us for a few weeks and they are cool w/ that and my chiro. is one of the dr's good friends and she knows we dont vax at all so she is very very cool w/ that. I just got one of my friends to change from her completely mainstream dr. to this practice too so it will be cool to have teh same medical care w/ her (so we can coordinate appts. etc. etc...should be fun).

i am just amazed at how time is flying! my dp is turning 40 next month..thank G-d he's catching up to me!! (im the older woman..by 4 months! lol!)...so im trying to plan his bday smash!

[lee1203]

Blimey Celeste, if anyone has a right to complain, it's you and the other mamas who are having a hard time of things right now! We're here to listen, no matter what. Yea for being almost 31 weeks! :

Me, I'm pushing 30 weeks over here. So stoked. And a little freaked that yes, I am legal for my birth center birth in just over 6 weeks. And will be full-term in just over 8. Mind, I'm quite certain that I'll go well over my due-date, so yeah, I'll be here for a bit. Actually, I have a friend getting married on Oct. 26th, so I'm really hoping I give birth on or just a little before my due date of the 9th/10th, so I have a decent chance of making the wedding. Tonight I had a little chat with the freeloader and told him/her Oct. 1st would make a great birthday.

I am so not looking forward to having to try and find a pediatrician. We will vaccinate (please don't kick me out!) so at least that's one less hurdle to clear.

I would like to know what's up with the baby deciding it needs its entire body to be pushing all in one spot. Every so often, my belly gets tight and a little painful on the right side, just next to my belly button. When I push gently on the area, there's an incredibly hard lump there. (Yes, I just called my child a lump. I'm such a good mother-to-be, I know! ) Is it *really* necessary for the critter to do that?? At least it backs off when I massage around that area a bit.

[janasmama]

Chatty Chatty already!

Happy Birthday Amy Lynn!

Celeste, We're okay hearing a little gripe from you, it'll will make me feel better anyhow since I gripe about everyday crap anyways.

I can't believe it's going to be August already. I did get out my cosleeper and it has the perfect height next to our bed.

Both of my children have been sleeping in bed with me so I've been wondering what will happen when the baby comes...so I went and spent $500 on getting my dd a new, big bed and nice quilt comforter, etc. Guess what? Now she just wants me to sleep in her bed. :

What to do...

[Dahlea]

Originally Posted by lee1203

Tonight I had a little chat with the freeloader and told him/her Oct. 1st would make a great birthday.

It does make a great birthday! It's mine!

I'm so nervous about actually having the baby-not the labor part, but the bringing it home and oh my, we're on our own now part. We don't have family coming to stay and help (which I actually prefer) and we've been trying to read what baby books we can, but I'm just so unsure. I've babysat a lot, even infants, and my husband helped take care of his nephew for a year or so, but that was all years ago.
I just hope we don't mess up too badly.
I need motivation to get baby's diapers done! Obviously the impending birth isn't motivation enough yet lol.
I bought a baby K'tan carrier the other day from a mama on CL, but I didn't read it closely enough and it's camo I hate camo, so now I have to try to sell it or trade it off for something, anything else!

I can't believe it's already August (well ok, in a few more days!)

[MommaFox]

Time is sure disobliging. It seems like this pregnancy is going way fast, and that it is also taking way too long. It's way better this time than last time, though. I'm still afraid of pre-eclampsia, so I'm trying to take it easy and eat right. Only 12 weeks (I hope less) left!
Baby shower is comming up, too. So my house is gonna be full of a ton of stuff. Awful hard to keep everything clean and organized when you get a pile of baby stuff, and then the next week is #1 son's birthday, so HE's gettng a ton of stuff, too. Good luck ladies!

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by lee1203

I am so not looking forward to having to try and find a pediatrician. We will vaccinate (please don't kick me out!) so at least that's one less hurdle to clear.

I would like to know what's up with the baby deciding it needs its entire body to be pushing all in one spot. Every so often, my belly gets tight and a little painful on the right side, just next to my belly button. When I push gently on the area, there's an incredibly hard lump there. (Yes, I just called my child a lump. I'm such a good mother-to-be, I know! ) Is it *really* necessary for the critter to do that?? At least it backs off when I massage around that area a bit.

I just had to comment on both things - we're going to selectively vax, so I hope that we don't get kicked out either! I'm DREADING finding a ped though, I just don't want to go through the hassle. Better now then after the baby comes, though. Then it would really be a nightmare.

My baby also does the SAME THING with the balling up in one place! It's so uncomfortable, and I do the same thing. I know I should just leave her be, but I need to poke around a little just to make her move!!!

Originally Posted by MommaFox

Baby shower is comming up, too. So my house is gonna be full of a ton of stuff. Awful hard to keep everything clean and organized when you get a pile of baby stuff...!

My shower is NEXT WEEKEND. My house is NOT ready for all the stuff! I'm going to have to go berserko on the messes and just gut out the baby's room. I want to do my hypnobabies in there anyway, so I need to have it clean and comfy regardless!

[TaraRae82]

I'm also dreading finding a ped. I've got a couple of good recs but it sounds like such a PITA to interview them and such. But, it's on my to do list to get those meetings scheduled before my next dr's visit next week. Hopefully it'll be as simple as finding my OB turned out to be.

This LO also insists on balling itself up on my right side and it's all but comfortable! I usually just give a little push and encourage it to move a bit so it's not pressing so hard.

(This won't make any sense to most of you) And, I want to give a special "hello" to all my stalkers! I hope you're being entertained by my pregnancy!

[PassionateWriter]

im sorry Tara. ive btdt....hello all!!!! enjoy having NO LIFE! lol!

as far as vax, all i have to say to anyone about that entire issue is to EDUCATE BEFORE YOU VACCINATE. Its a very complex issue and certainly not as simple as "trust birth".


i am having such a hard time breathing.

[janasmama]

Originally Posted by PassionateWriter

as far as vax, all i have to say to anyone about that entire issue is to EDUCATE BEFORE YOU VACCINATE. Its a very complex issue and certainly not as simple as "trust birth".


i am having such a hard time breathing.

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I'm starting to have hard time breathing while bending over and picking up toys is definitely uncomforatable. I'm finding it hard to sleep on my back also...that makes it hard to breathe and makes my back sore.

[Baby_Cakes]

^ Ok, I want to know what you're talking about, stalkers?!? LOL!

Anyways, yes, the vax issue is such a heavy one, and I'm so glad I've educated myself and DH on the subject. Educated decisions are so important when it comes to our LO's lives.

I'm having trouble breathing too, PW, you are not alone. It can be so debilitating.

While I'm complaining I might as well add that I haven't been sleeping well at all, and my back has been more achey than normal (chiro appt tomorrow, though). I have a mw appointment on Thurs and I'm DREADING weighing myself. I think I'll weigh myself in the morning so I know what I'm in for in the afternoon!



AAM - I had the strangest dream last night that just might have deep seeded issues running all through it. I dreamt that I was in labor and it was just so textbook - I didn't actually "feel" the contractions in my dream (I guess b/c my subconcious has no idea what they're actually going to feel like) but I was completely aware of them and making low noises through them. I was timing them and doing all the labor positions I've learned (on the ball, on my hands and knees, etc) and I could feel my cervix dilating. I just "knew" when I was in transition. The freaky part of the dream was that Chris was just watching TV and playing on the computer, barely paying attention to me while I was laboring. In the dream I was mildly upset that he wasn't playing a more active role. At one point he came to me and said he was going to go to bed, and to come get him if I needed anything!! WTF?! It was quite the unsettling dream! The other half that's unsettling is that I'm only 30 weeks, and in my dream I was also 30 weeks - and I was laboring and everything AT HOME. I remember thinking at one point that it was too early to be birthing at home, that I should definitely be at the hospital, but Chris wasn't acting like anything was wrong!

How strange our dreams are sometimes, huh?

[Changed]

I think it's normal to worry how your DP will be when the time comes. I bet he'll be wonderfully supportive and exactly what you need. My DH is utterly fascinated with birth and has been super involved with all of ours however, I would have NEVER imagined he would have been.

He's done some strange things but nothing terrible. He went home to grab my bag with my first baby and stopped by blockbuster to return some movies on his way back. I thought that was a little odd.

[farmerjess]

Carrie, your dream made me remember a similar dream I had the other night. I was "in labor", but I think I was just pretending I was in labor...I kept walking around and feeling really minor contractions. That went on for a while and then at the end of the dream, I realized I was only 29 weeks preggo, and should prolly hold off for a while...it was weird. I guess we are just getting mentally prepared. And, I am sure your DH will not be able to just ignore you while you're in labor.

I just heard the other day that my friend, who is not very natural birth inclined, pushed out an 11lb 3oz baby! She was probably induced (at 40+3) and had an epidural, but I am so proud of her for saying, "NO!" to the planned section that her docs wanted. YAY! :

Is it normal to feel really energetic one day and then like total poo poo the next? I got so much done yesterday around the house, and then woke up today feeling so tired and achy. I just want to lay around today, but then I wind up feeling so guilty about it. How do I know if I am not going to take my "daily" walk because I am truly too tired to do it, or because I am just being lazy.....I have to go to work this afternoon anyways, so I guess it's ok.

[Amber Lion]

I'm getting out of breath for no reason now too. Like, sitting at the computer and suddenly feeling like I can't breathe! And I've got little aches and pains too. Just one of those days I suppose.

On the vax issue - no one gets kicked out for anything, imho. It's a personal family decision and as long as you've educated yourself and made the decision that's right for you I don't have anything to say about it, yk? Now, if one is just blindly following doc's orders I tend to .

Dahlea - I'm starting to think about baby care stuff too. I've spent SO much time taking care of LO's, but none full time, round the clock, yk? I'm thinking of asking my doula/cbe to emphasize that portion of our time together b/c I know a ton about birth (I'm a doula and cbe too) but the realities of bfing in the middle of the night are a mystery.

[Changed]

The best advice I can offer new moms on breastfeeding-

Learn to nurse laying down as soon as possible. It has been the key to SLEEP and feelings emotionally healthy PP for me.

[Orionbelt]

Originally Posted by Changed

The best advice I can offer new moms on breastfeeding-

Learn to nurse laying down as soon as possible. It has been the key to SLEEP and feelings emotionally healthy PP for me.

I completely agree with this. I didn't with my first and was exhausted all.the.time but with my second I could nurse and catch a few winks at the same time...heaven!

[lee1203]

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes

I just had to comment on both things - we're going to selectively vax, so I hope that we don't get kicked out either! I'm DREADING finding a ped though, I just don't want to go through the hassle. Better now then after the baby comes, though. Then it would really be a nightmare.

My baby also does the SAME THING with the balling up in one place! It's so uncomfortable, and I do the same thing. I know I should just leave her be, but I need to poke around a little just to make her move!!!

Hee! Glad I'm not the only one. In fact, I just got back from my midwife appointment, and she said the baby was head down, and felt the little butt up near the top of my uterus. I poked around a touch, and asked "So is this thing on my side the baby's back?" She poked around, and looked surprised - "Wow, baby does move a lot!" I had just told her that the baby moves when the belly is pushed on, but I don't think she realized how quickly sometimes!

Sometimes I wish I had a window to inside so I could see what the little bugger is DOING in there.

Originally Posted by Changed

He's done some strange things but nothing terrible. He went home to grab my bag with my first baby and stopped by blockbuster to return some movies on his way back. I thought that was a little odd.

Is it wrong that I find this quite amusing?