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post #1 of 6
7/28/08 at 3:30pm
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Hi guys, I am new to this site and was hoping for some help. Heres our situation...

My boyfriend and I currently live together and he has primary residence of his daughters who are 8 and 5 and they live with us. Currently their mom gets them every other weekend (she lives 2 hours away), and in the divorce decree it states they meet halfway and gives the town and place they need to meet at. Their mom called us last week and told us she will be moving and now she is going to be 5 hrs away!!! She wants us to meet her half way on her weekends on friday night and sunday evenings which will be 5 hours roundtrip for us, so 10 hrs on her weekends with kids. Are we required to do this drive? This will now cost us $140 every other weekend in gas, just to make those 2 trips. That doesnt seem fair to us, is this normal? If the papers state the town and place, cant we just tell her thats where we will meet her?

Need Help!!!

Thanks!!!
Jamie
post #2 of 6
7/28/08 at 4:02pm
I'm sorry, I don't have an answer, but you might get more helpful responses in the Blended and Step Family forum -- the mamas there might have more experience with the situation you describe. That is an awfully long drive -- I hope everything works out!
post #3 of 6
7/28/08 at 5:19pm
Yeah, that doesn't sound fair at all to me. I would say what's fair since it was 100% her decision to move, is that you meet her 1 hour into the drive, and she drives the rest of the 4 hours. I'm no lawyer though so I don't know if that would hold water or not. Your best bet is to bring that up with their mom and see what she says. If she says no, then I'd talk to a lawyer to find out what your legal obligations are. You may have to meet her 1/2 way, but she pays more child support or something (to help offset the cost of gas).
post #4 of 6
7/29/08 at 4:06am
I would think that you need to abide by the current court order until it is legally changed...which would mean meeting in the same place at the same times you are currently meeting.
post #5 of 6
7/29/08 at 4:29am
it seems to me that a court order is a court order.. just because she changes her living situation doesnt mean she can pressure you into disobeying a judge. stick with the preordained meeting place. shes the one who chose to move...
post #6 of 6
7/29/08 at 9:14am
you do not have to change anything until the court order changes. ask her if she is willing to offset costs?
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