Anyone's dh an intactivist? - Page 2

[MCKH]

My husband is opposed based on how unnecessary it is, and what a strange custom it has become (cutting off bits of genitals?) but he is not dead-set like I am. I think ultimately he feels it is the parents' choice and really, in the scheme of things, not a very big deal. He is happily circumcised and says he doesn't care either way, since he is satisfied sexually and doesn't know anything different, and feels his parents made the best decision they could at the time. It was super easy to get him on board with not circumcising our son, but I think I could have convinced him either way.

[mjg013]

My dh is big-time anti-circ. He is circumcised. When we were pregnant with our first child before we knew the gender I asked him if he wanted to circumcise if it was a boy and he said of course, why wouldn't we. Well, I already knew I would never stand for it. But I let it go. We had a girl. Our 5th baby was a boy and by then I'd given him all the research and stats and made him talk to the ped and that's all it took. He ran with it and actually did more research than I did because I never needed convincing. I come from south Alabama where it's very much the majority to circ and it never ever felt right to me. I always thought it was a horrible thing to do and knew I'd never do it to one of my children. Now that dh knows, he is very against it and doesn't mind telling people about it. He's rather vocal with expecting friends about not circumcising and will send them literature. It's really interesting because my dh is the most shy, quiet, anti-social person so it's funny to see him be so vocal about something most people don't want to talk about at all. Especially considering his initial attitude when we married. My sons are very much intact and if this baby is a boy he will also be intact and we hope we can save other boys from being circumcised.

In church recently, I overheard an expecting couple asking our preacher about it and him setting up a time to discuss it with them. I accosted him right after to find out what he was planning to say and shared my opinions, research and stats with him. I was pleased to find that he agreed with me and asked me to send the info to him to pass on to the couple. I don't know what they decided but I do think it's important for everyone to know that there is a choice. There are a lot of people I know that still think it's just something they do and don't even realize there's an option.

[stacyann21]

I wouldn't call DB an "intactivist" but he's definitely okay with our son being intact. We argued about it a little when I was pregnant but once the baby came, he agreed it was probably unnecessary. Two of his friends have young (circd) sons and he's actually received flack for it I'm proud of him for sticking up for our decision and our son!

[Astoria]

That's a tricky word.

Yes, he cringes when the word circumcise is even brought up, he's saddened and shocked when friends do it, he was an equal partner in our choice not to, he wishes the numbers were lower, he wishes all docs and peds were more accurate and vocal with info against it.

No, he wouldn't confront anyone or make a negative comment about their "choice," no he probably wouldn't make it illegal, no he would not put a bumper sticker on our car.