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post #21 of 72
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Originally Posted by UUMom View Post
I don't understand what the toothbrush reference means. You made them brush their teeth at 5am? I don't get it. 'splain.

I think it meant that they got to do some good ol' hard labor by scrubbing toilets with some old toothbrushes.
post #22 of 72
i started sneaking out with friends when i was 13 or 14... we would go to a park & hang out. there was a lot of pressure to do it from our friends.

it was soooooooo much fun.

playing at a park at 3 am is very different. Im sure they are still very good kids.

its unfair that the world is unsafe.

how many movies do you watch where kids sneak out to go swimming in a lake, etc.

I think this is a right of passage thing.

I would gave been so sick with worry over what ifs.

nak.
post #23 of 72
Thread Starter 
Thanks everyone! Your posts have made me feel much better.

Yes, they're very good kids. I was just posting in N&CE a few weeks ago about how one of my kids and his friends rescued another child from some bullies at the park (yes, the same park). They are kind and generous when their heads are screwed on straight. But of course they're normal kids who think nothing bad can ever happen to them, and the rules that we set are just there to ruin their fun!



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How are they getting out of the house? Do you know?
My dad installed some very inexpensive magnetic alarms on the door and window frames (I was getting out through a window at one point). The window frame ones were actually on the outside of the window, so I could not "turn them off" from the inside.

You can install them high up where the kids can't reach easily. When the magnets break contact there is a horrifying screeching noise. Trust me. :

The kids will more then likely try it again, I'm sorry to say. But you can take a few preventive measures, like you are doing. You are fantastic! I think you handled it just right.

BTW - My parents and I added up all the "grounding" time that I SHOULD have served, had it been consecutive and not concurrent. I'm still grounded. I'm 38. I'm also a productive member of society.
Yeah, they went right out the front door! That shocked me. Plus, they didn't even lock it behind them. I kinda got them with that - "What if someone broke in and hurt your baby brother?" and all that. They can't go easily out of their bedroom windows because all the bedrooms are on the second floor. They all have fire ladders, but they're all but impossible to climb UP, so getting back in would be a problem!

They have alarm boxes on their windows and if they try to mess with them, they'll just set the alarm off. It's an older alarm that makes a LOUD whooping siren sound that you can hear from a mile away, so no sleeping through that!



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Originally Posted by UUMom View Post
I don't understand what the toothbrush reference means. You made them brush their teeth at 5am? I don't get it. 'splain.
Nah. I made them clean the toilets with the toothbrushes. It was the worst (not abusive) thing I could think of in my exhausted, upset state.



Yeah, it has the makings of a holiday story in 10-20 years. I can see us busting a gut over remembering them in their jammies, scrubbing toilets in the early dawn light. They'll laugh at me, I'm sure, for saying "What were you thinking?" like, a thousand times!

Right now, though, it's not funny to them at all (though it already is, a little, to me). Course, they spent the day pulling weeds and scrubbing the floor in the sunroom, so no real room for humor yet!
post #24 of 72
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Originally Posted by Rigama View Post
Holy guano, Batman! I have this deep fear of something happening to ds when I can protect him, and something like this would very well be enough to make me stop sleeping for the rest of my life.

to you.
Hiya, stranger!
post #25 of 72
Well. I just went through this last week(see thread police call at 1 30 am ugh) thats me! Except police came to my house....well, I tell you what, I am so lucky I never had to sneak out..my dad had no rules for us growing up and I am a pretty darn good adult if I do say so myself. My only thing is my son show the same respect for me as I do for him, I woul dnever leave the house without telling him where I am going, etc, so I expect him not to do it to me either. Good luck on this teen journey!
post #26 of 72
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Originally Posted by UUMom View Post
I don't understand what the toothbrush reference means. You made them brush their teeth at 5am? I don't get it. 'splain.
I think she meant each of them got to scrub a toilet with a toothbrush.
post #27 of 72
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Originally Posted by DoulaMary View Post
I think she meant each of them got to scrub a toilet with a toothbrush.
Really? What's the point? It's sound bacterial-y.
post #28 of 72
Yeah, I was that kid too. FYI, it probably wouldn't be a good idea to ever let them 'camp out' in the back yard either. We lived in a tri-level and didn't have air conditioning. In the summer I would sleep in the family room because it was cooler.....and because the windows opened up right out the front yard without having to climb at all. You could just roll right on out of there. :

I never got busted going out the windows, but I did get busted on the tent thing. Imagine my surprise when half way across town with a group of friends and one says to me, "Uh, dude. Your dad is behind you." They weren't joking. It was not pretty at all.
post #29 of 72
Sounds like they are learning a valuable lesson. Extra chores and no TV never killed anyone.

I think you handled it amazingly well, calling in the other parents and working out an agreement for punishments.
post #30 of 72
Two of my sibs were prone to climbing out the bedroom windows to meet up w/friends as teens. My bro. was just raising cain, but my sister had some pretty scary situations come up (think older guys), that she came through by the skin of her teeth. My parents found their shoeprints outside of their windows on the walls of the house-not too bright! They were both grounded for a long time. Yes we laugh about it now, but for my sister the events were actually pretty scary. Oh, and they are both very responsible parents now!
post #31 of 72
Ah! Ds says there is a Malcom in The Middle epsiode where one kid brushed the toilet bowl with another kids' toothbrush and then put it back in the holder for the kid to use. So make sure you throw them away! lol
post #32 of 72
I think every teen does this at one time or another. I know I did. Haven't caught mine doing it yet, but I have no doubt that they will. Not sure how dangerous it is if they are in a group as OP's kids were.
post #33 of 72
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Originally Posted by UUMom View Post
Ah! Ds says there is a Malcom in The Middle epsiode where one kid brushed the toilet bowl with another kids' toothbrush and then put it back in the holder for the kid to use. So make sure you throw them away! lol
Ewww!!! I think I'm a little nauseous!
post #34 of 72
I am sorry you guys are going through this phase. I used to sneak out at night when I was 13-16, too. I wouldn't have gotten caught if my brother didn't nark me out. (he blackmailed me, and I wouldn't cave into his demands) I turned out mostly ok, if it makes you feel better. I won't tell you what I was out doing, but there were no drugs or alcohol or anything illegal involved if it makes you feel better.

I am really glad all parents were able to get together and discuss it. That sounds like a great united front to come up with something together instead of finger wagging and playing the blame game and what not.
post #35 of 72
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Originally Posted by UptownZoo View Post
Hiya, stranger!


You know, there's another way to look at this. Because you've done such a bang up job with the kids, they all snuck out together. That should count for something, at least.
post #36 of 72
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You know, there's another way to look at this. Because you've done such a bang up job with the kids, they all snuck out together. That should count for something, at least.
Yeah, this is what my dad said: "Hey, at least they're being sneaky rotten kids together. That's family devotion right there!" Then again, my dad has a smart ass comment for every occasion, so I come by it honest.


It's true, though. I'd be much, much more fearful about all this if any one of them had done it alone.
post #37 of 72
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Originally Posted by UptownZoo View Post
Yeah, this is what my dad said: "Hey, at least they're being sneaky rotten kids together. That's family devotion right there!" Then again, my dad has a smart ass comment for every occasion, so I come by it honest.


It's true, though. I'd be much, much more fearful about all this if any one of them had done it alone.
I think it IS good they did it together. I think it would keep them from doing anything really stupid, since they could nark each other out.
post #38 of 72
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Originally Posted by GooeyRN View Post
I think it IS good they did it together. I think it would keep them from doing anything really stupid, since they could nark each other out.
I haven't heard "nark" since 1976!!!!!
post #39 of 72
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I haven't heard "nark" since 1976!!!!!
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post #40 of 72
It's great to hear that you have the support of all the parents.

I remember my younger brother's sneaking out story. He and his buddy both got caught! I can't recall how old he was, but I think he was a young teen. They snuck out and drank something like straight gin under a tree at a nearby park.

Now I need to call him and ask him to relive that episode (and the consequences!) all over again.
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