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Who do you agree with - me or my dp regarding cars w/ doors left open in parking lots?

post #1 of 47
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A couple of weeks ago I was leaving the library with my 2 yr old and passed a minivan with the side door left open. I paused for a minute to see if anyone was getting out but that wasn't the case. I then walked over and peeked in. There were no animals left in the van or any other reason I could see as to why the door was left open.

I decided to shut the door for the following reasons:

1. I figured it was left open by mistake
2. There were 2 carseats in the car so I figured if I went back into the library to page the owner, she'd have to drag both kids out with her to the lot to shut the door.
3. I didn't want her battery to die while at the library and be stuck there with young ones while waiting for help
4. I was lazy and didn't feel like backtracking with my toddler all the way back into the library to have an announcement made

My dh says I should have left it because it's usually better to just leave things alone. I see his point and if it had just been a window left all the way down I would have left it alone. I think a lot of my response had to do with seeing it was a vehicle likely used by someone with young children, like myself, and I would have wanted someone to close my door had I left it open.


WWYD? In retrospect, I know it would have been best to go back to the library and have a worker make an announcement. This was during a very popular story time so most of the parents would likely be in one room, making it easier to find the car owner. If I could have thought of a logical reason for the door to be left all the way open I would have just left things alone but I couldn't.
post #2 of 47
she accidentally left it open and would be eternally grateful for your actions.
post #3 of 47
50/50 Either the owner felt like it was a secure enough place that s/he decided to leave it open so the car wouldn't be hot when they returned... or in the bustle of stroller/ sling/ "don't go out in the street!"/ "where did your other library book go?!" they got distracted and left it open unintentionally. So maybe you made someones day (although they probably don't know because they didn't realise they left it like that) or you annoyed someone. It's impossible to say.

Buuuut... your boyfriend has a point. If the owner of the van came out just as you were closing the door... "Hey! What the heck were you doing in my van!" etc...
post #4 of 47
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Originally Posted by betterparent View Post
she accidentally left it open and would be eternally grateful for your actions.
: She or her older child.

My almost 7 yr old ds sometimes has to be reminded that the door needs to be closed.
post #5 of 47
A few weeks ago I came out of Target in the hammering down rain to see the cart guy standing by my car. He said I had left my car door open and he shut it, but he was on the radio having me paged so he could let me know. I was forever grateful and felt pretty damn stupid. I mean, it was WIDE open. Who does that? Busy people with cranky toddlers and needy 7 year olds.

I would have closed it, but probably left a note, just in case.
post #6 of 47
I think you did the right thing. That would suck if she came out to a dead battery. When I was younger and we would see cars in parking lots with their headlights left on my dad would always try to open the door and turn them off for the person. I don't see that as much anymore because most people have cars that beep if the lights are left on when they turn the car off now.
post #7 of 47
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Originally Posted by kama'aina mama View Post
Buuuut... your boyfriend has a point. If the owner of the van came out just as you were closing the door... "Hey! What the heck were you doing in my van!" etc...
Yikes! I didn't even think of that scenerio. I think I was just viewing the situation as a mom whereas my dp was being more objective.


Thanks for the responses so far!
post #8 of 47
ppsstt... hey y'all... men have kids and drive them around in minivans, too...
post #9 of 47
I think the best choice is trying to find the owner.
I don't think it is a big deal to close it if you don't see anyone after waiting a few minutes.

Maybe they were airing it out?

Also, just because there are carseats in the car does not mean someone has kids with them- or is a woman- or that the person is there alone with young kids.
post #10 of 47
The only thing I can think of is that maybe the van driver planned on getting *so many* books at the library that his/her arms would be full to overflowing and s/he left the van door open so s/he'd be able to just stack the books inside without having to juggle books and van door.

But, nah, I think you did the right thing.
post #11 of 47
My 6 year old is forever lingering a few feet behind me as we're getting out of the car. She often times leaves the car door open. I would have shut it too.
post #12 of 47
what is with these 6 and 7 yr olds

and cranky toddlers??
:

Just kidding of course, since that is my life.
post #13 of 47
Sure - there may be reasons that she (or he - there kama-aina mama) left it open. BUT - I think you did the right thing. I'd bet it was left open accidentally. Most likely - it wouldn't have killed her battery though. Most van light shut off after the door is open for a bit.
post #14 of 47
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Originally Posted by betterparent View Post
she accidentally left it open and would be eternally grateful for your actions.
:

I have done this exact same thing at the library, and returned to my van after story time to find that my seat and my DD's car seat were soaking wet, since it had been raining.
post #15 of 47
I would be very very happy that you had shut the door.

I have left our side doors or back hatch open a few times..as DS usually shuts his side by himself and I forget to check(it can open and shut by pressing a button just inside the door).

Or the button that is on the remote gets hit and opens the door\back hatch and it gets left open all night or in the parking lot of the Post Office while I am inside.
post #16 of 47
Someone did this to me once.

And locked my keys in the van with their kindness (yes I am the type to forget both the keys and the door!!)

I don't ever do it to anyone else because of that, but I would go inside and ask them to announce it over the PA.
post #17 of 47
Where I used to live, particularly, car seats were a popular item to steal. An open door would have been too inviting for some would-be thieves. I've known many a parent who is stranded somewhere with a kid because someone stole the car seat out of their car and had to call a family member or friend to go buy another one and come pick them up. Unless the thief cut the seat belts to get the car seat out in which case the parent is totally screwed.

Oddly enough, if someone stole my car, I'd send a thank you note, but for the love of god, leave the car seats on the curb! And then steal my car...really, steal it (anyone want to know where I live so they can steal my car?)
post #18 of 47
Having been this parent, I thank you for closing my door. I also appreciate you not announcing on the PA system what I dunce I am.
post #19 of 47
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Originally Posted by ramama View Post
Where I used to live, particularly, car seats were a popular item to steal. An open door would have been too inviting for some would-be thieves. I've known many a parent who is stranded somewhere with a kid because someone stole the car seat out of their car and had to call a family member or friend to go buy another one and come pick them up. Unless the thief cut the seat belts to get the car seat out in which case the parent is totally screwed.

Oddly enough, if someone stole my car, I'd send a thank you note, but for the love of god, leave the car seats on the curb! And then steal my car...really, steal it (anyone want to know where I live so they can steal my car?)
OMG seriously?!? That's pretty low! :
post #20 of 47
I would have shut it. I can see myself leaving a door open because of being busy getting the kids and our stuff out of the car.
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