daily thread - wednesday, july 30 - Page 2

[AKA_PI]

The nausea is back. I don't get it: I'm fine one second and sick to my stomach the next. I was cooking some hot wings and decided I didn't want them anymore. Instead I want some meatloaf from cracker barrel and some decadent dessert DP and I can lie in bed and share. Of course he wants the wings and I'll make them for him but I refuse to eat that stuff. maybe after Kendall gets here my appetite will return. I just don't feel like eating that and certainly don't want to cook, yet I am. What is wrong with me?

[~Megan~]

That's actually a good sign! Nausea is early labor.


I just had my home visit. It was fine. Baby has turned a bit more anterior. I wasn't looking forward to a posterior birth so this is good! Her head is still way down low, mw said she's in there really good and doesn't move.

I did have her check me. I'm disappointed but glad there is some progress. She said it feels like 2-3 cm and the cervix is midline. Its something but I'm greedy and wanted more!

I'd still love to have my baby in July (so I can have a June, July, and August baby) but if it doesn't happen today or tomorrow then I'm not looking for any other particular time.

[veronicalynne]

Hmmm.....I think things are beginning to move along. I am getting the shooting pains in the cervix and alot of pressure in the butt (TMI) which is what happened when I was near term with dd1 and dd2. They both were overdue but I keep feeling like this one will come earler.

As to the who to invite question: I am just having a good friend of mine come with me to play doula for me since I dont have one and I need someone to back me up with the ob/nurses/hopefully no residents. I have not decided if I am going to invite hubby there as we are separated though he has been nicey nicey.....not sure about if it is a good idea or no with him.

[not now]

Thanks for everyone's advice.

I told him and he seemed really hurt that I'm annoyed by his mom. I get that I'm the closest thing to a daughter that she'll ever have. I get that his maternal grandmother was the exact same way as his mom is so for them this is normal. I get that dropping by is normal for his family. He said he will talk to his mom if he really wants me to but I feel so bad about hurting his feelings and hers.

What he doesn't get is that my mom is very respectful of privacy and boundaries. If you want to be left alone, she leaves you alone. She waits for me to call her unless it's been a really long time because she assumes I'm busy and doesn't want to bother. When I was a teen she'd let us (me and my step sisters) sit in our rooms all day reading with the door shut if that's what we wanted. If you need to cry she'll sit there and let you cry on her without asking what's wrong until you are ready to tell her. She's the opposite of his mom and they all think it's kinda weird.

[hempmama]

You are under no obligation to think of anyone but yourself during labor. I can think of maybe two other times in life when this is true, but labor is one of them. Don't discuss it with her, just call her when the baby comes. All will be forgiven as soon as she hears about her grandchild.

I'm having DH, my OB, and a nurse while in labor. I can't imagine allowing anyone else in- my mom, his mom, even a doula, I start to feel like I have to "host," and make sure my behavior is ok with them. I also never lose my modesty and always want a top on. I sort of wonder if the two are linked.

[Shiloh]

he seemed really hurt that I'm annoyed by his mom. I get that I'm the closest thing to a daughter that she'll ever have. I get that his maternal grandmother was the exact same way as his mom is so for them this is normal. I get that dropping by is normal for his family. He said he will talk to his mom if he really wants me to but I feel so bad about hurting his feelings and hers.

mama he needs some boundary reeducation... maybe get a book/checklist on appropriate boundaries. You are the closest thing to a DIL she will ever have ......not a daughter you can't be a substitute (that's kinda creepy IMO - big red flag . This might be normal for them but honestly this is not their family its half yours and half your husbands. *word of advice its easier to get away with unloading emmotional baggage while pregnant

She's the opposite of his mom and they all think it's kinda weird.

well your dh should have the same respect that you think your mom is normal IMO and that's what you expect from other people...
Get this fireworks over with now before she starts blowing boundaries with the LO as we can all tell you that is the next step....

[~Megan~]

He may be used to that behavior but this is a new family. You get to say what you are and are not comfortable with.

My grandparents always had an open door policy too. We just walked right in and came by whenever we felt like it.
I do not want my mom doing that to me though! Luckily she lives 2500 miles away!

[MissE]

Ohhh I envy all you mamas...seems like some of you will be going into labor soon. As for me...it feels like I'm not even pregnant. I went swimming with DS today, scrubbed his playhouse a little more, played with the dog etc... and I don't remember one single contraction. Not even braxton hicks or any pain. All I have is this big old belly that has a life on its own. My C/S date is getting closer and I'm still hoping but I don't think I should get any hopes up.

[Sasha_girl]

At my birth there will be dh, my midwife and her assistant (who is a good friend), my mom (she has attended the births of our other kids and will act as a doula), my best friend, and possibly one other close friend. Our kids are welcome to attend the birth or they can go to my cousin's house a few houses away if it's overwhelming for them.

My MIL is another one who likes to drop by. In fact, she doesn't even knock before she comes into our house, which drives me batshit crazy. She will not know that I'm in labor until after the baby is here.

[deliarose]

The baby has dropped and I often feel some pretty sharp pains, almost like my nerves are being pinched. MW thinks I will have the baby by next Tuesday, but I am not getting my hopes up. I have been sneaking in a nap everyday, but it might just be because I am not able to sleep at night.

At the birth, which will be in the hospital, will be DH, mw and the hospital staff- usually a few nurses to help.

[veronicalynne]

Originally Posted by MissE

Ohhh I envy all you mamas...seems like some of you will be going into labor soon. As for me...it feels like I'm not even pregnant. I went swimming with DS today, scrubbed his playhouse a little more, played with the dog etc... and I don't remember one single contraction. Not even braxton hicks or any pain. All I have is this big old belly that has a life on its own. My C/S date is getting closer and I'm still hoping but I don't think I should get any hopes up.

I am supposedly due around August 27 or 29 but I have been getting BH like crazy and am starting to get the electric pain in the cervix which for me means I am beginning to dilate......I am noticing that I am getting wicked contractions everytime I bf dd2 (I am still bf and am hoping to tandem nurse).