Originally Posted by AFWife
I feel your pain. I'm only pregnant and getting the "yeah right. we'll see" responses when I discuss having no TV.
There have been studies done that have proven that small children have trouble following TV. Everything moves too fast and everyone talks too quickly for them to really pick up on anything. They've also proven that a child learns BETTER when Mommy and Daddy teach them things.
Also, you could tell people that when ADULTS watch TV parts of their brains shut down (mostly the imagination part) because, let's face it, you don't have to use your whole brain to watch TV. I tell people that I don't want my kids to turn into TV zombies.
I am so right there with you! Every time I mention no TV to members of my family (esp my SIL), they think I'm nuts and then get offended or something because they "can't" get a break without sitting their kids in front of it. They wore me down eventually and until I found this forum I've been qualifying my statements and watering them down like "Hopefully we can make it without the tv but of course anything can happen and I can't judge right now." with an ingratiating smile to let them know that I plan to give in if I'm stressed out or something.
Honestly, I don't WANT the TV on around my little kids! I just don't! So why should I "have" to? From all that I've read about AP and BF and all the other things that have gotten lost in the mainstream way of raising children, I should be able to avoid a lot of issues that plague the modern child raised by "education" tv. I'm not saying I'll have perfect children with no issues, and I do recognize the potential for high-need children no matter how much natural parenting you do. But I really believe that adding TV to the mix can only hurt, not help, in the long run.
I've been watching an example of that since I got married: DH's nephew has severe ADHD and his grandparents encourage him to play more video games and watch more tv so he'll stay out of trouble... I'm almost certain he wasn't able to be BF and that his mother (out of necessity and I really feel for her) couldn't be around for AP. His grandparents could have picked up the slack, but they didn't. (Take this with a grain of salt as I have issues with my MIL...)
Then again, DH's family has the tv on at dinner time every single night so they don't miss Jepoardy etc. at the same time that they require everyone to be at the table for dinner. I always wonder why...
Anyway, basically I'm just going to stop compromising my own values for people who don't understand or who would get offended. If they ask questions, I'll let them know that I intend to be very firm about the no TV thing. I don't care what they "must" do or how much they roll their eyes!
So anyway, thanks for all your support! Everyone! Yay! I can do stuff! And to start, I will wean MYSELF of the tube!