My Hubby and I have my stepdaughter on Wednsdays after camp and, depending on the alternating schedule, either bring her back to her Mother's house after dinner or keep her until Thursday morning when she gets on the camp bus. Last week she stayed over, so last night, she was going back to her Mother's house. Last week, I washed her two bathingsuits and two towels in her bag, as they get used daily and therefore washed nightly, and had them ready in her bag Thursday morning for camp. I honestly don't remember what I did the week before that- she went back to her Mother's that night, but we were home anyways, so I might have thrown her laundry in with ours and had it washed before she went back to her Mother's. Anyways, last night, we had my stepdaughter again. We had plans to go out to dinner and she was going back to her Mother's last night, so I saw no need to wash her bathingsuits and towels- her Mother would have them, and her, all night. Her Mother called my Hubby- she wants the bathingsuits and towels washed, 'cause she's not doing laundry tonight and by the way, she has a date, so she'll "let us keep her" and extra hour (until 8:30 instead of 7:30). My Hubby said, fine, no problem with keeping her late, but we're out, we weren't even gonna be home at all, so we won't get a chance to wash the bathingsuits and towels. Her Mother then stars asking if "We could at least rinse them and hang them to dry?" and my Hubby again tells her, "No, we are out and we will not have a chance to do it." Then, my stepdaughter's Mother gets angry and flips out and says how it's "Our responsibility and we're supposed to take care of HER daughter when she's with us and our responsibility is to make sure that her things are washed for camp tomorrow." Are we really being that unreasonable? I mean, seriously, I do the laundry, and whenever possible, I make sure I'm doing laundry when my stepdaugher's here on Wednsdays (which, by the way, requires going to the bank to get quarters for the machines downstairs and hoping nobody's using them and there have been many nights I've been up until 10 or 11 doing laundry because of this), but lst night, we had plans to go out to dinner and her Mother was gonna have "possession" of the bathingsuits and towels all night anyways, so I didn't wash them, so it's not like I didn't wash them just to cause trouble for my stepdaughter's Mother- we wanted to go out to dinner. We can't be seriously expected to stay home every time to make sure it gets done before she goes back to her Mother's house, can we? Aren't we supposed to be spending time with my stepdaughter, first and formost?
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7/31/08 at 9:14am