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post #41 of 271
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nothing interesting to say, but, hi!
post #42 of 271
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Originally Posted by MarineWife View Post
Although I don't want to try to have another baby, I wouldn't be upset if I got pregnant again. I'm really done having all the kids I want but I don't want to completely close the door on that part of my life, if that makes any sense. My dh is adamant that he doesn't want any more kids. It's hard when someone else completely shuts me down like that.
...Yeah. I feel the same way, like it's not so much that I want to have a baby right now, but it's more that I don't like being shut down. Dh says he's doing it for environmental reasons, which is a reason I would accept if I thought it was the real reason, but I think it's just because he doesn't want to have to spend money on another person...which itself is a reason I would accept if we were really broke, but we're actually doing okay financially, so....

I'm just trying to focus on the wonderful little girl we already have, and on the fact that we have a good life overall.
post #43 of 271
Hi ladies! May I join? I just had a baby on July 27th and once I get my first period, I would like to start CTA. Do I have to wait until my first period or can I start after my lochia ends? With DS I had my first period at 6 weeks and I was regular until I got pregnant again. Thanks! I will be watching this thread to learn until it is my turn to jump in.

Chelci
post #44 of 271
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Originally Posted by Juliacat View Post
...Yeah. I feel the same way, like it's not so much that I want to have a baby right now, but it's more that I don't like being shut down. Dh says he's doing it for environmental reasons, which is a reason I would accept if I thought it was the real reason, but I think it's just because he doesn't want to have to spend money on another person...which itself is a reason I would accept if we were really broke, but we're actually doing okay financially, so....

I'm just trying to focus on the wonderful little girl we already have, and on the fact that we have a good life overall.
I think the financial aspect is very important to most men. My dh says that's his main reason, if pressed to come up with one other than he just doesn't want anymore, for why he doesn't want anymore children. I can understand that since he's the one who carries the full weight of providing money for our family. I could go back to work and make lots of money but I really don't want to. I hated working. Ever since we first started talking about having kids he has said he wanted only 2 (I already had 1 so that meant 1 more for him) and I always said I wanted 2 more. I feel like my family is complete now. I don't desperately want another child the way that I did when we were ttc ds2 and ds3 so I'm ok with not trying. It's weird, though, after spending so much time either ttc or being pg to think I'll never do that again.

Chelci ~ I always waited until I got my first PPAF before I started temping but it takes about a year for that to happen for me. If I started temping before then I'd have one long chart. You can start temping and charting whenever you want, though, if you think you'll get consistent sleep and waking times.
post #45 of 271
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Originally Posted by CTH3989 View Post
Hi ladies! May I join? I just had a baby on July 27th and once I get my first period, I would like to start CTA. Do I have to wait until my first period or can I start after my lochia ends? With DS I had my first period at 6 weeks and I was regular until I got pregnant again. Thanks! I will be watching this thread to learn until it is my turn to jump in.

Chelci
It depends how your sleep is. If you are getting some good sleep and temping at the same time then start whenever you want. you can chart CM if you aren't ready for temps yet.
post #46 of 271
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You can start temping and charting whenever you want, though, if you think you'll get consistent sleep and waking times.
Yeah, it was two years PP before I got 3 consecutive hours of sleep.
post #47 of 271
FWIW, my ds is only 7 months, still wakes every 2-3 hours throughout the night, and I find my temps are consistent enough to chart as long as I take it before I'm completely awake and before I've gotten up out of the bed. I think it depends on the individual. It can't hurt to try and at least see if you get usable temps out of it.
post #48 of 271
: After my DD was born I went back to charting and she was still up a few times throughout the night. I took my temperature at the first waking after 5.30am before standing up, and it worked well enough.
post #49 of 271
Blah. Temps. still below my coverline but no af. FF did change my coverline and said I o'd a day later but it's not sure due to the lower temps so everything is dotted. Ovusoft still says I o'd and hasn't changed a thing...even though I changed it to temps. only reading. I think both charts are wrong and I haven't o'd at all and that my body is attempting to (I've gone through cycles of cm that I normally don't have). I have some moon cycle tea that I may start drinking just to see if it helps. I'm crampy and apparently horribly ornry as DH asked if my period was coming yet.
post #50 of 271
I suppose the bigger issue for me, then, was being so crazy with sleep deprivation that I wouldn't have remembered how to chart. I could barely remember my own last name for a year.
post #51 of 271
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My baby still nurses every 2-4 hours at night. That's why I don't have consistent temp times. I was able to chart when ds2 was still nursing at night so I'm hoping it'll work this time around, too. So far, things have been unclear but it's also my first PP cycle so that's not surprising. I can't imagine trying to temp when my babies were newborns, though. I was way too tired and foggy brained to even think about that.
post #52 of 271
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nothing interesting to say, but, hi!


DS is still waking up hourly for me I do seem to get good temps though. At least last cycle I had a clear thermal shift. But I just discard the temp if I feel like I didn't wake from a deep sleep and it seems off. Most mornings I am in a very deep sleep though so even if I'm only sleeping an hour, it seems to work.
post #53 of 271
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Canid ~ Do you think you Oed?

I temped first this am at 7 something then again at 9:18. At 7 my temp was 98.4 but I had gotten up and gone to the bathroom. Then went back to bed and laid there for a bit before thinking I should temp. I guess I feel back to sleep so I took my temp again when I woke up again, at 9:18. At that time it was 98. So, I just used the difference and put in 98.2. I don't know if that's a good idea but I didn't know what else to do. I guess I could just discard today's temp.

I went back to my Ovusoft chart and put the temps in as is instead of having them adjusted. I also went back through after Ovusoft discarded several temps and put them back in. It changed O from cd23 to 4 days ago just like FF.
post #54 of 271
I wondered that this morning after putting in my temp but I don't think so. My temps haven't even dropped below 97 yet since AF. They normally stay below 97 for awhile before AF. Plus, I haven't had other signs like EWCM, increase in sex drive and painful nipples. But who knows LOL I have been taking vitex so I'm not ruling it out. I hope not because we DTD on CD 6 without a condom we broke the first 5 day rule. We have been using protection since then though.
post #55 of 271
omg I just looked at my paper chart and wrote on CD7 "Crappy sleep". if you discard CD 7 temp and my temp goes up again tomorrow, I really could have O'd.

great...now I'm freaking out

deep breaths....

Is it possible to O this quick?
post #56 of 271
Yup In your shoes, I'd probably be thinking lots of nice empty thoughts right now, but to be honest the chances of conceiving 4 days before ovulating are slim at best .

Chelci, I should have asked, are you using LAM at the moment?
post #57 of 271
Thanks for the advice ladies! I think I'm just going to wait until I get my first PPAF.

Flapjack, no I am not using LAM. I'm not using anything because my DH is stationed away from home at the moment so I never see him.
post #58 of 271
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Is it possible to O this quick?
Yes, it is. How long have you been taking the Vitex?

My temp was above 98 again this am and I've been having my really painful cramps for 3 days now so I'm thinking maybe I finally Oed. I'm not banking on it, though.
post #59 of 271
Yikes. My temp was 97.45 this morning so still above the coverline if I O’d. Gah….why did we break the rule :

I told DH last night we might have had an ooops and he just laughed and said "way to go! I have super sperm. They can totally live for 4 days". Then I looked it up online and it said in "perfect condition" the sperm can live for 7 days.

I guess all I can do is wait and hope my temp drops the next couple days and I didn't o.
post #60 of 271
I missed your post Marinewife. I have been taking vitex for 3 months now I think.
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