kerc~ I don't think you're an evil person, I promise! It's all good!
I'm SO glad that you've finally gotten some answers, and that from the sounds of things, those answers aren't nearly as bad as they could have been! I hope your road ahead is smooth now that you can plan how to attack it!
moonshine~Oh, how similar that sounds to my own situation. I would like to echo what bbm said. The people who bashed H just made me want to defend him all the more, even when he didn't deserve it. The biggest thing is just to be there for her as much as you possibly can, in whatever way you can. I would really encourage her to get into counseling. If she can convince her H to go with her, all the better, but if not, it will certainly help her deal with things.
Welcome! To be honest, I've been a dingo for about 8 months now, and I'm not entirely sure what it means, either.
Except that the dingoes are one of the warmest and most welcoming groups of women I've ever been a part of. And the running stuff is just a bonus!
: As for your question, not having run a marathon myself yet, I'm not entirely sure. But my guess is that you could do it and be ok. I would probably take the easiest training program you can find (like one of Hal Higdon's beginner programs) and just see how it goes. If you keep yourself very well-hydrated and don't put too much stress on your body, you should be able to do it and maintain your milk supply. You'll probably want to keep a very close eye on it though in case it does start to dip. I'm sure some of the marathon (or more) dingoes can answer better than I, though!
rr#2~Went to the Y for my swim workout! Yay for getting motivated! I actually did one of my workouts this time instead of just swimming for distance. It *really* helps break up the monotony. It takes me over an hour to do the workouts but it's SO much interesting than just taking 35-40 minutes to swim my mile that it seems shorter. So, 2600 yds done! Woot!
update: I called and talked to the insurance company. The agent and her claims person both said that their initial feeling was that we are not liable (actually her exact wording was "that sounds ridiculous") but that if we want to file a claim, we would be covered under our policy. If they found that we had any liability, they would pay the biker's claims, but if not he's out of luck. Either way, if we file a claim, our rates will go up but if we're not liable we will only lose our no-claim discount of 5%. So H is going to call the guy when he gets off work (b/c he's nice and I asked him to) and tell him that we're willing to file with our homeowner's but that he most likely won't get anything out of it and just see what he says. I am feeling better about the situation now, just because I know that we'll be financially covered (well, except for a rate increase) regardless of what happens. Phew. We're still willing to just give him a small amount of money as long as he's willing to sign some sort of document releasing us from further liability (which would of course cost us more money to have drawn up, but that's ok).