Anti-Circ Resource Email - Page 2

[Blu Razzberri]

Originally Posted by ananas

...I'll only be modifying it a bit...

Sure. What to send is entirely up to you. Some people may find it too long; but you're welcome to add/delete/edit as you see fit. Please, if you have something to add; let me know - IMO you can never have too much info.

PS: I found MDC some years back by Google-ing; so your friend may happen upon this place by accident. (Just so you're aware of how easy it is to find it. )

[Vito's Mommy]

Thanks so much!! :

[tammyswanson]

Great job!! That would have been the first email that I would have sent the two people I tried to stop from circ'ing their infants.

[Breeder]

Thank you so much for putting all the work you did into this email. Hopefully it can save many infants from being circ'd.

I only wish I had gotten an email like this when I was pregnant with DS1. I'll be sending it to everyone I know who is pregnant.

[Blu Razzberri]

Originally Posted by Breeder

...I only wish I had gotten an email like this when I was pregnant...

Sadly, I completely understand. Nothing haunts me more than this "choice" I made. I thought it was for the right reasons; and I was indescribably upset to find out the truth. I appreciate everyone who've thanked me for this, but the thing that means the most to me is your willingness to read what I've put together; and even more so, your willingness to share it with others. I want to give back to society what doctors are taking away - truth. I'm disgusted that doctors are willing to harm our most vulnerable for money.

[Raelynn]

Thank you so much for sending me a copy. 2 friends are pregnant and due around the same time as me. I most definitely plan to forward this on to any expectant parents who are having boy (or who don't know the gender).

[Ron_Low]

I thank you for sending me the note, and I apologize for taking so long to give the feedback I promised. The letter is great, but I voted "needs work" and the quote below sums up why. I think it's way too long to be someone's first exposure to intactivism.

I received it and skimmed it but have been too busy to sit and read the whole thing. What I've read looks wonderful though!

I've been well-received lately with the following short note. This one could be improved by embedding one hyperlink per sentence in support of the claims made, but I think it's the right length for something that somebody hadn't asked for.

Regards,
-Ron
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Good luck with your pregnancy and labor.

Circumcision is not endorsed by any national medical association on earth. They have reviewed it and determined that any potential benefits are outweighed by the known risks and drawbacks.

The foreskin includes over half a male's sensual pleasure-receptive nerve endings. It protects the glans and mucosa from drying and abrasion, and it provides an exquisite frictionless rolling/gliding mode of stimulation during intimacy.

The foreskin is exactly as self-cleaning as a vagina or eyelids, and it should be cared for the same way. Sterile urine leaving the body flushes the inside clean, so you only have to wipe the outside. ONLY THE OWNER should ever try to retract a foreskin because you can injure the boy's penis.

The skin is fused to the glans at birth and gradually separates over the course of about 3 - 12 years. The boy's natural curiosity (pulling on it) helps this process along. When HE is old enough and able to retract the skin, you can advise him to rinse the area with clear water.

Every mammal on earth evolved a foreskin before there was surgery, soap, or even running water. The proper care can be summed up as: Leave it alone.

Foreskin feels REALLY good. HIS body, HIS decision.

Cheers,

[MamaRabbit]

requested!

[nummies]

Wonderful job. It reads very smoothly. Lots of great information and not in an "in your face" kinda way. Thanks so much for sharing your insight. I know this will be helpful for me.

[livsmom]

Wow! What an amazing email! I want to use it to inform my SIL about circ, but I am afraid for a couple of reasons. #1 - She is 18 and this is an unplanned (pretty uninformed) pregnancy, so I don't want to scare the crap out of her. #2 - I am her doula and I want to be supportive of her choices. This is a dilemma I face a lot, but usually not with a family member...any suggestions?

[Blu Razzberri]

Originally Posted by Ron_Low

...The letter is great, but...I think it's way too long...I've been well-received lately with the following short note....

Ron, that was an awesome short note!! I have to tell you, though, that reading that as a mother who was a mainstream "ew, foreskin!!" mom when I circ'd my son; that small bit of information would simply not have been enough. There were too many questions I had and I was very afraid of some wild complicated problem from having a foreskin. The circumcising doctor basically 'pressure sales'd' me into doing it, and one of the major selling points was that it could "result in a major surgery later in life with anesthetic", and how much safer this way was, and the whole bit. When I joined the MDC community, I started wondering why everyone's signature said "no circ" and wondered if "these people are nuts?? Why wouldn't they circumcise"...and then I found this forum and... : ....you get the point. Basically, I just know that if I'd gotten something like this email, I wouldn't have done it. I know it's very long compared to your short note, but even just reading a bit off the top might be enough to get someone not to, or at the very least, make them shocked enough to keep reading later if they don't have time now. I know I would have! But, as I said before, 'you' (everyone) is more than welcome to trim it however they'd like before sending it to their intended recipient. And thanks for sharing your short note anyways, because I'm sure that there are some people for which it's the perfect note to send off.

Originally Posted by livsmom

...I want to use it to inform my SIL about circ, but I am afraid...She is 18 and this is an unplanned (pretty uninformed) pregnancy, so I don't want to scare the crap out of her...any suggestions?...

Yeah. Risk scaring the crap out of her. There are tons and tons of things to learn about the lies that surround birth. As a doula, you have more knowledge and experience than she does as a scared 18 year old mom to be, and I'm sure she'd welcome any and all information. It's far better to go into the birth being informed, and having some knowledge and a plan of action for some common 'birth problems'. I'd start with the things most critical to the safety and well-being of the baby, including (obviously) circumcision.

[Maggirayne]

I would like to have this email. I PMed you a few days ago. Thanks! I've really been wondering and am currently having discussions with a friend who knows she's having a boy. And I want to share with my bro before he has kids.

[Blu Razzberri]

I got your request and sent off the email a couple days ago. I apologize that it took awhile, I'm very very busy these days and sometimes I don't check my PM's/emails for a week or two at a time. But, check your inbox, because I remember sending it to you.

Also, for anyone who received a copy recently, I might have accidentally had my rich text formatting off, and it may have come to you without links. : If that's the case, just write me again, and I'll re-send it with the links.

[MrsJez]

Thank you! This is perfect!

Thank you so much for sharing this. I think I will modify it will a few more U.S. resources, but it is laid out in such an unthreatening way. It's great!