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post #21 of 33
1/11/04 at 12:19am
Just another perspective. Many, many years ago when I was a teenager, I was a birthmother and reliquished custody of a DD. I went through an agency, and the couple I chose were in their mid-40's--the oldest couple in the nearly 50 profiles I read. I can't really explain exactly why, but their age was a major factor in choosing them. I'm not sure why--stability? Maturity? I also think somewhere in my still child-like mind I thought nobody else would give their child to them, and they were perfect in every other way. And I met them. They were wonderful!

Just thought I'd share. Best of luck!


Susan
post #22 of 33
1/11/04 at 12:43am
Does anyone have a ballpark idea of the fees associated with an adoption from openadopt.com

just totally curious
post #23 of 33
1/20/04 at 7:54pm
Hi, just saw your post - that's the agency we used and our fees were just under $15,000. The agency fees were around $14,000, plus we contributed around $500 towards the bmoms living expenses (via the agency) because dd was c-sectioned and her bmom couldn't work for 2 weeks, and then the lawyers/court filing fees were somewhere around $300 - it's been a couple of years now, so it's a bit hazy. I can't say enough about how wonderful they are as an agency! They were just so fabulous in every way. Both in the way they kept in touch and facilitated the process - and in their total respect of our daughters bmom. They are very kind and respectfull of everyone involved. Best wishes, and feel free to pm me if you have any more questions!
post #24 of 33
2/2/04 at 11:21pm
My parents are 54 (mom) and 61 (stepdad)...and they have 2 little girls from China. One is 3 and one is 7...the 7 year old is special needs.
Special needs children have no..ermm...restriction on age of parent adopting. That's the way it is with the organ. that my parents use. They're even considering adopting another!!!

You can E-mail my mom if you want...they're "experts" now. *laughs*

Vrtti@hotmail.com
Her name is Victoria.
post #25 of 33
3/7/04 at 9:02pm
Thread Starter 
Hi Folks--

I am the OP--just wanted to share an update.

My sister and her DH just decided to stop all fertility treatments--yeah!! They are proceeding with a China adoption & have already begun the process--just have a few more i's to dot and t's to cross on the application. I am so excited for them!!!

I just wish they'd done it sooner--they are figuring on about a 1-1/2 to 2 year wait. But, at least things are moving now!
I can't wait!

Thanks for the information!

post #26 of 33
3/8/04 at 10:39pm
Very cool. Thanks for the update! I hope the time passes quickly for them till they meet their little one!
post #27 of 33
4/8/04 at 9:52pm

not to old

My husband and I adopted a biracial infant 3 years ago. We were 47 at the time. Our son's birth mom actually picked us because of our age. She said that she thought we would know more about life and give a lot of love to her baby. This was my husband's first but my 5th. My others were 16 (adopted from Peru) and 3 bio sons. We are now both 50 and thinking of adopting another. You are never to late as long as you have more love to share.
post #28 of 33
6/20/04 at 5:31pm
When we adopted DD I was almost 42 and we just brought home DS in October when I was 45.
My SW finally told me to stop referring to myself as old since we are the same age and she didn't consider herself to be old

eta: Congrats to your family on their decision to adopt!! They could be placed sooner with a domestic infant; if you would like to know more email me at

scuba2@ sbcglobal dot net (without the spaces)
post #29 of 33
6/7/05 at 8:33pm
Thread Starter 
Wow--I didn't realize my OP was 10/2003!

I had to come back here and update--my sister and her husband are in China right now--they have had their baby girl in their arms for about 36 hours now! She is 11 months old & apparantly very beautiful! My sister called today for about 3 minutes & we got a small email update, too. I guess the baby is doing well & not too "shell-shocked". Some of the other babies are not eating or drinking yet , but "our baby" is eating a bit & even slept pretty well the first night.

My arms just ache to hold her and I want to kiss her face about 1000 times.

Thanks so much for being here for me way back in 2003! And thanks for allowing me to share my joy here, too!! girl:
post #30 of 33
6/7/05 at 9:05pm


Whoo-hoo! Congratulations, Auntie QueeTheBean. Please give her a hug from me and from my two daughters from China when you finally see her!
post #31 of 33
6/7/05 at 11:18pm
That is wonderful!
post #32 of 33
6/8/05 at 3:35pm
What a long road, but congrats to the new parents
post #33 of 33
6/8/05 at 4:07pm
What a happy message to get in my email notifications! To your sister and her dh, it must seem like it took forever, and looking at the dates between your first post and now, it sounds like such a lengthy road. Yet when the happy ending (or beginning, really) finally arrives, all that time telescopes into what can seem like mere moments.Thank you so much for letting us know that another beautiful family has founds its way together. And a special hug to you, auntie!
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