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Poll Results: Do you have a supportive family?

 
  • 41% (63)
    Yes
  • 25% (39)
    No
  • 32% (49)
    Other
151 Total Votes  
post #21 of 59
Other. My family is pretty supportive. They may not agree but they don't give me grief about it. My MIL has no idea. She's a former nurse and one of those that believe that a doctor is a god and anything a doctor says is law. She would spin around like the Exorcist if I ever told her. Luckily, she's pretty self-centered and clueless and never even thinks to ask if DS goes to the doctor for well visits and things like that.
post #22 of 59
I'm going with "Mostly" on this one. My parents trust my judgement. They are wonderful. And since the *ahem* "discussion" about homebirth before DS was born, my in-laws came to realize just how stubborn and pig-headed I really am and that they'll likely never change my mind about anything. And I'll never change their minds. Having established that, we get along pretty well!!
post #23 of 59
I voted other. It's mixed. My parents just say, you raise your kid how you want to raise your kid. They don't really say much about it. My MIL is the same, however, she's dropped a few "hints" that she thinks vaxing is safer. My sister is a whole-hearted believer in vaccinating, and both of her kids are fully vaxed, but we just don't talk about it.
post #24 of 59
My DH is NOT supportive, all we do is argue about it or he seemingly ignores me when I try to point things out If we were able to have rational discussions, it would probably be a lot better, but in 2 years that has not happened.
post #25 of 59

:(

I haven't told my family that we are not vaccinating. I'm scared my parents will talk me into it and shun me fromt he family and i don't want to tell my sil's because i'm afraid they won't let their lo's play with my ds:
post #26 of 59
My MIL is a firm believer in the autism/vaccine connection and is totally fine and supportive with our "waiting"- we've decided to wait at least 1 year, but it may be indefinitely.

However, my parents have called me up and got on my case about it. My mom's mom had polio and "You don't think she called us to make sure you had your shots?" Well, just because grandma was nosey, it doesn't mean you have to be also. They also tried to tell me that my mother loves my daughter more than I do and since she loves my daughter more, I should listen to her about vaccinations.

Meanwhile, my parents also got my 19 year old brother on my case about it. UGH!
post #27 of 59
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Originally Posted by TopHat View Post
My MIL is a firm believer in the autism/vaccine connection and is totally fine and supportive with our "waiting"- we've decided to wait at least 1 year, but it may be indefinitely.

However, my parents have called me up and got on my case about it. My mom's mom had polio and "You don't think she called us to make sure you had your shots?" Well, just because grandma was nosey, it doesn't mean you have to be also. They also tried to tell me that my mother loves my daughter more than I do and since she loves my daughter more, I should listen to her about vaccinations.

Meanwhile, my parents also got my 19 year old brother on my case about it. UGH!

My dad tried that with my brother- my brother warned me that he was supposed to "talk some sense into me"- little bro told me that that was supposed to be his mission. Then my dad came and never mentioned it, great. Just send you son first.:
post #28 of 59
I voted No, cause:
My moms parents are both hardcore MDs, and her brother (my uncle) is also married to an MD. My whole family takes pills for any little discomfort, cause they so much believe in the wonders of western medicine. They would be horrified if they'd new DD is not vaxed. Frankly, I am even afraid of telling them. It is so much against what they believe in.

DH is supportive though. Which is whats important, right?

Sophie
post #29 of 59
Absolutely.
post #30 of 59
My parents were fricking out at the beggining, but after they made their own research, they support me 100%

My in-laws don't know what are we doing, so I guess they assume he is getting his vaccines
Well, they know we were delaying the decision, since they knew the doctor approved, they were ok, we havent' notify them we are not vaccinating at all.

It helps that they live in another country so we are pretty much on our own
post #31 of 59
Mixed support...AND my husband and I don't agree on the issue...but so far my oldest is three and unvaccinated, my 11 month old isn't either...
post #32 of 59
My husband's parents likely think I should vax but keep quiet about it. My parents think I should vax and I've had several exhausting discussions about it with my dad. I think ultimately they respect the fact that it's my choice as a parent, but they don't support the decision, if that makes sense.
post #33 of 59


I voted No. But Dh is very supportive and that is what matters the most

My mom is very pro-vax, i have a 3yr old brother & 2yr old sister and they are fully vaxed, their Ped is Dr Sears.

MIL thinks that i shouldn't know what's inside the vaccines

FIL i don't think he'd care if he knew

My Dad seems pretty supportive
Mt Stempmom pretty supportive also, she thinks the Gadasil vax is beyond pointless

post #34 of 59
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Originally Posted by TopHat View Post
However, my parents have called me up and got on my case about it. My mom's mom had polio and "You don't think she called us to make sure you had your shots?" Well, just because grandma was nosey, it doesn't mean you have to be also. They also tried to tell me that my mother loves my daughter more than I do and since she loves my daughter more, I should listen to her about vaccinations.

Meanwhile, my parents also got my 19 year old brother on my case about it. UGH!
My mom had polio and I still don't vax. Depending on her age she may have gotten polio from the vaccine.
post #35 of 59
My family doesn't care, because they don't view not vaccinating/selectively vaccinating as something that is hurting my children. They aren't shouting from the rooftops that my kids aren't fully vaccinated (I stopped with my DD at 18 months, and my baby hasn't received any, and won't for several years), but they don't argue with me about it.

My IL's don't have a say in the matter.
post #36 of 59
I voted other. They are supportive...I dont think any of them have ever taken the time to research so I dont think they have opinions that strong on it.

My mom is on our team..LOL...but I dont think she could hold up in a debate with a doc or anything. LOL
post #37 of 59
I voted 'other'.

My dad was thrilled, he is completely anti-vax. My mom was fine with whatever we wanted to do as long as we did our research.

My MIL is a school nurse and is very by the book. She thought it was stupid that we were skipping them but she said we are the parents so she'll respect our decisions. FIL has no opinion on anything, ever.
post #38 of 59
I voted other. My mother was more confused than anything. She worked with MR children and believes in the autism/vaccine connection. But her sister is a nurse and has a hard time when talking to her about these issue. I just don't speak to my aunt and that is how I deal with it!

My husband fully supports my decision to not vaccinate. Both of us lived over seas as children and know how rediculous the scheduling is for vaccines. We also know about being vaccinated against your will...
post #39 of 59
I have to say "other" just because it's 50/50 like other pp's have mentioned.

Actually my inlaws will be the kids' guardians should anything happen to dh and I and this is one of the reasons. If my parents were to get the kids they would have them vaxed immediately. My mom thinks I'm completely wrong, even though she won't listen to any of my research.

My MIL OTOH totally respects that I've done tons of research. She hasn't done the research and we haven't talked about it a whole lot but I know she respects my decision. I firmly believe that if MIL got the kids she would do a bunch of research as well. I can't say 100% that she would come to the same conclusion though.
post #40 of 59
Other.

My aunt and great-grandma don't really understand why I am not, and they're both pretty set in their ways. They think I'm taking a risk with my sons health, but don't give me grief on it. They pretty much feel I'm the parent and it's my choice.

My inlaws don't know because they won't support us. My son probably wouldn't be allowed to play with other kids on that side of the family. He would be treated like a freak. So I keep my mouth shut.

MIL did ask when we visited when he was 4 months old if he'd had his shots yet. "No, we're delaying." We are. Forever. End of story.

I don't offer up the info and I try to steer the conversation away from it. It's no one's business imo and I don't want my child ostracised.

My dh is 100% with me on not vaxing, and that is what is important.
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