**Just posted this in july thread by mistake (and it's almost september!!). now I see others have spoken very eloquently on patience already**
Hello and thankyou for this thread. I'd love to join you all.
I practice Tibetan buddhism. My main center of practice is Shambhala
; my root teacher is Khandro Rinpoche
I was just fortunate enough to spend the weekend in a program with Rinpoche and she brought up patience with me directly. As she puts it, patience is not about giving in to negative situations necessarily, rather about not adding to the cumulation of negative karma through our reactivity and actions.
I had asked about selflessness in relation to being the target of aggression. She was quite clear that we should practice patience and awareness but also to stay "away from trouble" (!), and to use wisdom to recognize when to act and when not to. She stressed the importance of knowing our potential in any given situation, not trying to take on more than we are able. A lifetime of practice for me right there.
She also stressed that whenever we make a decision or contemplate an action we should always base it on the 4 Noble Truths. So it doesn't mean we don't act, or try to change a situation, but we do that from a place of awareness, patience and compassion.
ETA: reading suggestions, on top of those already suggested, I'd recommend anything by Pema Chodron; Start Where You Are, The Wisdom of No escape, When things Fall Apart...all wonderful...