Ange, CONGRATULATIONS!!!! So happy for you!!
Kari, glad to hear you're still hanging in there and not too impatient yet
Korin, wow, super LTNS - how've you been??
Anyway mamas, I am sorry in advance because this is going to be a long rant, but I am going to go crazy if I don't vent.....my DH was fired on Friday afternoon.
Fired from the "wonderful" opportunity that brought us all the way out here from the Philly area to Southern Arizona just this past January. So I've been FREAKING OUT. Here I am 6 months pregnant and we are about to have 4 kids to provide for, we moved CLEAR ACROSS THE DAMN COUNTRY on about 6 weeks' notice, to a place where we knew NOT ONE SINGLE PERSON, leaving my newly-widowed mother and ALL of our friends and family behind, taking a loss on our old house, buying a huge house with a huge mortgage out here based on all their promises of the "endless potential" in this position - and then months later, as soon as we're settled, these UA Violations do this to us?!?!?!?! OMG, I could punch someone!
They didn't even give him a reason, they wouldn't tell him why!! I didn't even really think he *could* be fired - he was the head of the whole company! But evidently, as executive director he can be let go by the board of directors.
They never gave him a warning or criticism about *anything.* The foundation was doing great under him, and up until now, the board of directors had been fawning all over him and telling him how he was the best choice they could have made to head the organization - then Friday afternoon they call him in for a meeting and they are there with their attorney and he said it was surreal, like something out of a movie - they wouldn't even let him go back in his office - they told him no, they will pack up his personal things and have them delivered to the house. He then said he didn't even have a ride home since his car has been in the shop this week (I was supposed to pick him up after DD1's party - this all happened the weekend of her 6th birthday) and they said we know, there is a chauffered car waiting outside to take you home now.
To say we are in utter shock and disbelief would be an understatement. I have no idea what we are going to do now. Our heads are still spinning. This came out of NOWHERE.
The only good news in all this is that we'll almost definitely be moving home to the Northeast, probably very soon, and I really, really miss everyone back home. We certainly cannot stay here - we only moved out here for this "fabulous" opportunity where they assured us we'd have a future for good. DH's field is very specific and small, and there are so similar jobs anywhere out here, certainly not at his level or salary. Most of the similar organizations are in the NY-Philly-D.C. corridor where we've lived before & where much of our family is.
Anyway, I don't think I've slept in like 4 days - we spent all weekend getting the house ready to sell and we officially put it on the market this morning
This is my beautiful dream house that we were sooooo ecstatic to get just 6 months ago....I cannot believe it. And we are praying the house will sell, because our mortgage is huge (like more than $3,000 a month) and without a job we can only pay it for a few months before we'll be foreclosed on or something
So it HAS to sell fast.
And then our next problem is that the company paid close to $20,000 for our relocation, to pack and ship all our stuff and our cars out here, and now we're stuck with no way to even afford to get it all back! Heck, we can't even pay for plane tickets right now to get US back, since we need to make every penny last until he finds a new job. So we're planning to have the mother of all moving sales and just sell or give away pretty much everything we own and then drive a U-Haul back East with whatever we can fit in it. Hey, we won't need much of my lovely furniture since we'll probably have all 6 of us living in a 1-bedroom apartment or my mother's basement or something....
I have to believe that God has a plan and that this has all happened for a reason and something good is going to come up....but right now all I can think is that I'm considered moderately high-risk because of my thyroid problem so I'm being followed by several different doctors here, and now I don't even know where I'm going to have this baby!
And it's so hard on the kids. They JUST got used to it here and finally made some friends. And DD1 was supposed to start at her new school next week (we decided not to continue homeschooling because she really wanted to go to school with her new friends here), she was so excited, had her uniforms all hanging in the closet and ready - and now she's been so upset
She keeps saying, "Why are we selling this house, I love it here and we JUST moved here! You made me leave my old friends and now I have new friends and you're making me leave them, too!"
I just can't stop worrying. It's not like we're going to be starving next week. However, we might be starving a few months from now, but hey, it'll help me lose the baby weight
(trying hard to keep a sense of humor here!)
So please, keep us in your prayers or thoughts or whatever, that my DH finds a new position quickly and that our house sells quickly and that we have a smooth and safe trip across the country. It's a 2,500-mile drive from here to my mother's in NJ, where we'll probably head first while we sort things out. We're thinking of leaving at the end of the month, and it'll probably take us 6 days or so. I'm trying to play it up as "a fun adventure" to the kids, but man, am I dreading it!! I'll have to drive the whole way because I'll have the kids in the minivan and DH will be driving a U-Haul with his car towing on the back.
I just keep reminding myself that material things don't matter, even my beloved house doesn't matter, we all have our health, the kids are OK and the baby is OK and everything will work out somehow.....right??