Hmmm. Like that idea. Also like the idea of having the midwives "remind" the husbandperson of what to do. I suspect he'll need someone telling him, step by step.
Hmmm! Like this too. So many decisions. And oh my gosh, with no insurance if we transfer I'm going to want to be discharged as soon as possible, if not sooner. Anything for the baby would be covered, but I'd like to not bankrupt us on hospital bills for me. Please dear child, be head down in the proper position, and come out with as little damage to me as possible, ok?? Thanks, Mama.
IMO, if you are strong-willed about the things you want, you will have no problem voicing those things to the nurses/ob's when the time comes. If you think your DH needs a guide, then by all means, write a general plan of what you want but your DH has to also be strong-willed also b/c he can't just hand them a piece of paper and say "here, this is what she wants."
If the baby is born in the hospital, you shoo DH away from you to go be with the baby b/c his instinct is probably going to be to stay with you. Then he can make sure they do Vit. K or eye ointment, etc.