Potentially moving to Wilmington area - Page 2

[LenasMommy]

Kelli, I have heard that the Midwives at Coastal OB-GYN are absolutely wonderful! There office is actually in the hospital.. I ended up having to have a c-section because of a tumor I have (very long story) and I had one of their OB's and they were truly amazing.. I hated that I had to have a c-section, but they went out of their way to make it as less scary as possible. They even told me many times that it was possible for me to do a VBAC next time.. One of the nurses said they had a high rate of with VBAC's in their practice.. So I think this office is wonderful. I would go back to them in a heartbeat. Might be something to check out if you haven't already..

Also, thank you for the info about the information meeting at Tidel Creek. I was actually about to email the school because I had read that they have 2 meetings a month of Waldorf/Anthroposophy study groups and I wanted to get the meeting times. But I will just plan on popping in at the meeting. Are you planning on going? It'll be nice to meet some other MDC momma's!

[kellid]

Originally Posted by LenasMommy

Kelli, I have heard that the Midwives at Coastal OB-GYN are absolutely wonderful! There office is actually in the hospital.. I ended up having to have a c-section because of a tumor I have (very long story) and I had one of their OB's and they were truly amazing.. I hated that I had to have a c-section, but they went out of their way to make it as less scary as possible. They even told me many times that it was possible for me to do a VBAC next time.. One of the nurses said they had a high rate of with VBAC's in their practice.. So I think this office is wonderful. I would go back to them in a heartbeat. Might be something to check out if you haven't already..

Also, thank you for the info about the information meeting at Tidel Creek. I was actually about to email the school because I had read that they have 2 meetings a month of Waldorf/Anthroposophy study groups and I wanted to get the meeting times. But I will just plan on popping in at the meeting. Are you planning on going? It'll be nice to meet some other MDC momma's!

I will be there!

As far as the MW you recommend; their overseeing docs wouldn't allow me to have a MW, nor would they take me if I wanted to attempt a vba2c. Thank goodness , as of right now, their are still dr's that will allow vbac's, but none that I found will do vbamc. (2+)

We should definately meet before or after the meeting. I'll try and start a new thread unless someone else can get to it first.....if you do/ link it here, please.

[gbutterflykissesm]

Hi! I am totally hijacking this thread but I also live in Wilmington (Leland) actually, and wanted to say hello. I'm currently TTC, and I am actually scared to death of having things pushed on me during L&D at the hospital, but I do want to have a "natural as possible" hospital birth. Has anyone used Carolina OBGYN? I currently go there, like my doctor, but prefer a midwife for pregnancy/birth... just curious before I get pregnant and HAVE to make an ultimate decision.

[sandy baby]

memememe

our turn -

also live near Monkey Junction - and can't believe I haven't met you all! We've been here about 2 years, coming from Pittsboro/Chapel Hill and Boone prior to that -
so on that end - Wilmington is different and certainly not of the Chapel Hill/Asheville caliber of crunchiness. This is still eastern NC folks.... That said, we left the Tirangle to move to a smaller town, it's hear, although I envy the community Asheville has and hope we collectively can create that here as my child grows.

As I say often, we need to quit our bitchin and start a revolution. : )

Which wilm is - there is lots of potential here, lots of pockets of community - I second the tidal creek, You are My Sunshine, Yahoo AP, flea market on Saturday, Waldorf education, La Leche League and just the plain ole beaches and parks to meet mommas.

I have found our Drs to be very respectful of my vaccine fears - but my daughter is only one - so haven't dealt with the schools yet.

We all need to just put ourselves out there, there are many people who've been here forever, since college, and many transplants - so it's easy and hard to find friends with that in mind.

As for Ap folks - I didn't even know what AP was until after I found out that cosleeping, nursing, babywearing, select/delayed vaxing, was a "group" - I just did what I felt instinctivly right doing.

Anyway, visit oftern before you decide - the job market is tough. That said - I do teach prenatal yoga at the YWCA - come by and try for free you mommas to be!

hope to meet you all soon.

[sandy baby]

and as for the birthing -
I was super happy with the midwives at Carolina obgyn, as well as the LandD nurses at the hospital.

Highly recommend a doula, a solid birth plan, and sticking by your convictions - I did it all and still ended up with a csection, but my story is different than most thankfully.

Even with the csection, the nurses, dr. and midwive had her to by breat immediately and let me experience the birth in a most beautiful, yet not natural, yet lifesaving, way.

[RaRa7]

I second the doula and birth plan, in fact I belong to this group:
http://www.capefearareadoulas.org/

definitely come to some our functions-meet and greet the doulas as well as free childbirth/breastfeeding/babywearing classes

I also belong to a HOmebirth Meet-up if you're interested I could send you a link!
erin

[FischerBeach]

Hello, everyone,

My name is Maya, and I am so relieved to have found this discussion. We have lived here almost two years and although I believe you can make your home anywhere you are at peace with yourself, it has been a bit of a challenge here. Since I don't work or go to school anymore, there are not the usual friend-making avenues available; those were always the guaranteed places to meet others. Being a stay at home mom has been a whole new challenge because this city doesn't have "ready made" scenarios where you know you can go and find people who share your parenting and overall life philosophies. You do have to work at finding it, and I know it's out there as is evidenced by all of you!

My son, Fischer (almost 4) and I would love to get to know anyone who likes to share quality time just having fun with our children and engaging in interesting conversations. I would be happy to organize a get together if there is interest.

Good luck on your move to Southport!

[RaRa7]

so did anyone attend the Waldorf meeting at Tidal Creek?
How'd it go?

[LenasMommy]

Hi Maya! Welcome to MDC! Are you living in Wilmington or the surrounding areas? I completely understand what you mean about how difficult it is to meet other like minded moms in this city. I live in Southport which is about 35 min. below Wilmington but go up there every week. There are various mommy groups, but the biggest two I have found aren't that supportive of MDC values. Of course, there are a few in these groups who do have the same values. I am really hoping that once the Waldorf school really takes off in Wilmington then we'll attract more like minded families to the area, or those who already live here but we haven't been able to meet yet. But it's great to know our little group exists!

Arismommy, I was unable to go to the Waldorf meeting due to transportation.. I was so bummed! Did anyone get a chance to go? Any future meetings in the woodworks??

[kellid]

nope, didn't make it, but would love to hear about it.

i belong to a mamas group that really helped me out moving here. i don't think they practice the same things i do, well some of the them do, actually several; but none of them shun me because of how i chose to live. although it's nice to be surrounded by like-minded people, i find comfort in these women just for the fact that they are mamas. but to each their own of course. i am not uber crunchy so i would hate to be judged for that too.

i am busy right now (i'm sure as we all are ), but i would love to meet up with you all........if anyone wants to plan something like that. i will attempt to when i get all of my nesting ducks in a row for #3 due in mid november.

so, k9sarchik...........are you comin'?

[RaRa7]

Originally Posted by kellid

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so, k9sarchik...........are you comin'?

I've been wondering the same thing!

[k9sarchik]

I'm still planning the move. Moving is such a hassle.
I've got to sell my condo. Everyone give me good vibes :that that will happen quickly.
Saturday was DS's 1st B-day!! It was a good time in the end but it started out completely crazy.

My mom went to the Waldorf meeting for me. She loved learning about the curriculum. She got the impression that the 3 people, that were hoping to get a Waldorf school going, didn't have any funds or help for it.
So at this point nothing is happening.
My mom also said it was a really small turnout.

I'm looking forward to meeting some more like-minded mamas!

[cadejaxellamom]

Sandybaby, you said your doc is ok with the delayed/non vaxing? who might that be? I took my daughter out of our pediatrician's office (the children's clinic) and now see just a reg family doc. but she still presses me every visit to get her vaxed. She is polite about it, unlike the ped was, but it still gets on my nerves. I'm still sick to my stomach nervous to take my 4 year old in for his 5 year check up in December (to the ped., he is still a patient there, for now) because up until now he is up to date on his vaxes, but he will be getting no more and I know it will be a huge fight and they might ask me to leave again

On a brighter note, I LOVE LOVE LOVE the midwifes at Carolina/OBGYN : Though I didn't have to deal with the vbac issue. With my daughter I had a beautiful, wonderful, completely natural delivery assisted by one of the midwives. But I do have a friend who see's Dr Vogel (also at Carolina) and he was willing to do a vbac for her and another friend due in October who goes to Glen Meade and they are willing to let her try a vbac also. Good luck though!


I too would love to get together with any of you guys I only work 2 days a week on sat and sun so I am free Mon-Fri...inbetween school and preschool drop off and pick up and baseball and tee-ball

Brooke

[SamGroom]

Hello everyone!!!!

I am going to jump in here I was searching for a thread on the Wilmington area and found you guys. My husband is in the coast guard and we found out yesterday we will be getting orders to Oak Island. We won't be out there till the spring/early summer but I was jumping out of my skin to find out if there were any AP moms out there.

I help run a large "naturally minded" group here south of Houston. I was bummed when we got orders to TX 2 years ago but we have loved it. Mostly because of the unexpected large group of AP and homeschooling/unschooling families. Our group has over 100 members.

If anyone can help us narrow down where we should be looking to live that would be great. Oak isalnd or closer to Wilmington. We plan on homeschooling. Our dd, now almost 4, does JOY SCHOOL which is a homeschool coop for preschool and kindergarden and we love it.

We have 2 kids and 2 large dogs. We are not fond at all of the "planned" comunity look where they clear cut the land and plant a token tree in your front yard. We have always chossen older homes with lots of shade as we have moved around. We have heard lots of complaints about traffic. Is it true? I mean we havee lived in long island and boston is it "big city" bad?


Now that I have written this crazy long post I will go nurse my son. Thanks for any help.

[RaRa7]

yay--so excited to have all these new families moving to the area!!
In the summer the traffic to Oak Island is horrendous-we don't even attempt going to the beach on the weekends in the summer. The population triples!

We live in Boiling Springs which is about 1/2 way between Wilm. and Oak Island. There is definitely al lot more going on in WIlm than in all of Brunswick county...but we like it quiet
On the other hand I can't believe how many times I've commented that we should have moved to WIlm. when we had the chance! But I'd rather havce you move here!! WIlmington has enough cool people
From OI to Wilm. right now would take 45 minutes roughly. BUt they are in the midst of building a bridge that may shave off some time?? Not sure...

How old is your ds?

[SamGroom]

He is 16 months and my daughter will be 4 in Dec. How about yours?

We have lived in some big cities and where we are now, is pretty populated. I think we are ready for some quite. Even if it means things won't be as convient. Right now we live in a great town but just driving to the library for story time 3-4 miles down the road we go by; 5 fast food joints, cvs, $1 store, matress discounters, an auto zone and a major grocery store. All of that and that area of town is considered the historic section!

I have been looking at homes in the wooded section of OI. I am an urban homesteader at heart. I love to garden, want to be able to hang my clothes out on a line. Maybe even get some chickens.

[cadejaxellamom]

We live in a planned, cookie cutter home community, and i hate it! But it was what we could afford 7 years ago and until we get some more debt paid off it looks like we are stuck The only upside is that my boys have made some of the best friends they could ever ask for and since we are so close to everyone they play outside together ALL day long (we live at the end of the road with woods beside and behind us) It is very exciting to know there are more like minded people here in wilmington, I'm really looking forward to hopefully one day meet some of you wonderful mommies :

[SamGroom]

That's where we are now "cookie cutter planned comunity" where the HOA won't even let me hang a clothes line. But you are right about friends. On any given day we have about 10 kids in our front yard. And even though my oldest isn't even 4 yet I can leave them in the front yard and watch them through our large window while I cook dinner and I know the older ones will watch them.

[SamGroom]

The link to this thread was posted in another thread, so I thought I would bump it back up.

[k9sarchik]

Hi Mamas,

Glad this got bumped. My condo is still for sale. So who the heck knows when I'll be moving. My DH is going to try out for the stunt shows in Myrtle Beach. I think the tryouts are in Feb.
My house is just sitting vacant waiting for us. And now with all the Christmas toys my condo is really really small.
It's probably best that we haven't moved yet because of the economy and jobs, etc. Plus Hollywood is in a bit of a standstill and not buying anything because SAG (screen actors guild) is still threatening to strike and that puts productions on hold. So that puts my industry on hold and I would have no work. As for now my job here in CO is very stable.
Let's hope this all changes soon so I can get by butt to NC.

Hope you all are having good holidays!

Happy New Year!