Not to scare you or anything, but my daughter HATED the car seat almost her entire first year. She was in a bucket for 2 months, then we switched her to a convertible to see if having more room would help, but she just HATED it no matter what we did. We tried everything - toys, music, blinky light things, a mirror, Rescue Remedy, nothing worked. So, we limited our car trips to only ones we really needed to, and I got her out of the seat as soon as humanly possible once we got to our destination. Basically, DH ran our errands and the only time I went out in the car was to take DS to activities a couple times a week, because we felt it wasn't fair to make him homebound because his siter hated a 10-minute car ride. Sigh. As soon as I would pick her up out of the seat, she would be fine within about 2 minutes. She just freeking HATED
the seat. Looking back on it, I think she either got motion sickness facing backwards, or just hated being backwards because she couldn't see me at all - she was a very attached little girl and had severe separation anxiety for her entire first year as well, so it kind ofmakes sense she would hate being in the back seat if I was in the front driving, and she couldn't see me but could hear me. She was, and is, a very intense little girl....was perfectly happy so long as she could see me, and that went on for a long time.
I cancelled trips to my parents house (2 hours away) until she started getting better and would fall asleep if I timed the drive right around nap time. But that wasn't until she was about 9 months old, so my parents just came up to see us once a month instead of us going there.
Stopping to comfort her only made it a thousand times worse, so we would just grit our teeth, I'd talk to her about knowing she was unhappy and I was sorry that she didn't like the seat, but that it was for her safety and we would be there soon....and just get there as quickly but safely as possible. DS would just zone out...sigh. She was off the charts in height and weight at a year old (26 pounds and 33 inches) so we turned her around very shortly after she turned a year old in a desperate attempt to see if it would help, and.....it did.
Until you have a child who screams every single time they're in the car, you have NO idea how stressful and draining it can be. I know I didn't. If she had been my first, I would have honestly just stayed homebound, but it was not fair IMO to keep 3-yo brother homebound when he so enjoyed going to events and classes.
It was a LONG first year in a lot of ways with my intense little nugget. She has taught me a lot about patience and compassion.
I just thought I'd post so that if it *does* continue for you, even after trying "everything", that it will eventually end, though perhaps not nearly as soon as you would hope.
Hang in there, and hopefully changing his seat or some other trick will work for you (and anyone else reading the thread with the same problem). DD will be 26 months this month and now loves
the car. Go fig.
**EDIT** - I was just looking through my previous posts on this topic, and it would seem she started getting better at around 10 months, based on a post made at that time.