Partying with the kids in the house? - Page 4

[Norasmomma]

Unfortunately your sister having parties is pretty normal behavior for a 22 year old, she is doing what is typical. The downside is she has children, she should grow up. She acts like a teenager because she barely isn't one. I have seen what happens to kids who grow up in these situations, and the saddest part is many(not all) end up in similar situations when they become teens. I would hope that she would act more appropriately in front of her kids, but she is a fairly young adult who is a mother, she needs to act like one.

It's okay to have a BBQ, have some beers, but I know that when I was 22 most of the parties I was at were not kid appropriate, lots of debauchery going on. Some of my friends had kids, but they were really little and I always felt so weird to be partying in front of a LO.

I'd be really concerned about her childrens well-being, there are so many things that could happen now and in the future. It's okay to get a little crazy, but it sounds like it's happening often. She probably won't like getting talked to about this, but you should make your concerns known.

[sungodis]

Plus, to add to Sierra's post, the OP has already stated that the mother wants her girls to "be hott". She gets them highlights, fake nails, and takes them tanning. To me, that seems to put them at greater risk. They look older than they actually are and, according to the OP, talk older than they are. This puts them at even greater risk for being sought out by drunk men at a party. Over sexualizing young girls and then exposing them to drunk men with less than stellar supervision is never a good combo.

[mytwogirls]

It is setting up for a huge disaster....so sad to see happen...

[CtMom]

If I had children her daughters' ages, I wouldn't want my kids to play with them. I wonder if that is a problem for those girls as well? So sad.

[mclisa]

Those girls are going to be easy targets to be molested by a serial boy friend a one of the partiers that happens to be over.

[becoming]

She sounds very immature, but unless she's getting drunk while the girls are in her care, I don't think there's anything technically abusive about her behavior. It is a little sad that her daughters won't get to have a "normal" childhood, but from what you've said, it sounds like it could be much, much worse.

[PrennaMama]

Originally Posted by Mama Poot

I don't know the specifics but I think what your sister is doing is borderline abusive. I had a friend in school whose mother did this kind of stuff and she was embarrassed and ashamed of it. I stayed the night at her house a few times and one time her mom came home from work with some friends and they got totally stupid drunk. The next morning we found her mom passed out on the couch with vomit on her face. No child should have to be subjected to that kind of stuff.

Originally Posted by becoming

She sounds very immature, but unless she's getting drunk while the girls are in her care, I don't think there's anything technically abusive about her behavior. It is a little sad that her daughters won't get to have a "normal" childhood, but from what you've said, it sounds like it could be much, much worse.

Full-circle... both these ladies put it best.

Honestly, what does your family think about this? Has anyone stepped in? Any authorities? Does she realize she is at risk for CPS intervention?

[Rivka5]

Originally Posted by mytwogirls

You don't know????? Oh my gosh, I would be calling CPS if I were a neighbor for sure. That just plain bad parenting. Alcohol (ANY alcohol!) and children do not mix. No excuse!

Wow. I guess you should go ahead and call CPS on, um, probably most of the parents in the western world.

[missbuns]

Originally Posted by Rivka5

Wow. I guess you should go ahead and call CPS on, um, probably most of the parents in the western world.

yeah, really..

pretty much every family holiday/BBQ/work party/dinner party/restaurant evening/birthday party involves a glass of wine, a couple of beers or 2 for the parents. and kids. no harm done.

don't get that one at all.

[aran]

Originally Posted by bellymama

to the pp who was molested. i am sorry that happened to you. but pedophiles are pedophiles are pedophiles. drunk people does not = pedophiles. someone is not going to molest a child purely because they are drunk, they obviously will already have those tendencies. alcohol does not a pedophile make. that is ridiculous to say.

My father was a pedophile who only acted on his urges when he was drunk. I was lucky enough to grow up during a period of his life when his drinking was under control (i.e. he did not drink at all). My sister was not so lucky.

In case you missed this in health class, alcohol reduces inhibitions. Pedophiles are human and have inhibitions like the rest of us.

I could continue with more reasons that I disagree very strongly on this, but I have kids to tend...