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post #21 of 85
I would not be getting any unless medically needed or something seems wrong. I didn't have any w/ DS. I am also not into knowing the sex, and since I plan to have between 3-4 children, I don't care if I have a next boy again for this pregnancy (I would like to have at least one sex of each though). Weird but I was actually hoping a boy this time and then a girl next time would be great (or 2 girls after) but that is just wishful thinking. Whatever sex I get I am fine with. My first pregnancy I did want a boy though.
post #22 of 85
I'll be getting one on Sept. 3rd (so around 8 weeks) to check for heartbeat, and then at 20 weeks. I have the chance to do one between 11-14 to do a nuchal translucency, so we may do that.

I had a total of three with DD, and it didn't seem to creat any problems for her. The third one was actually kind of funny; I started having horrible gall bladder pain around 30 weeks, so I went in for an ultrasound of that area to see if I had gallstones. The US tech was so sweet, and I said, "Can we just peek at the baby? I think she flipped head-down last night so it would be neat to see!" She was so excited because she had previously been a prenatal ultrasound tech and said she missed seeing the babies. So we did a quick scan and determined that she was head-down, and that she was in fact still a girl.
post #23 of 85
I admit to having totally lost any faith I once had in u/s as a good means of screening for anomalies. FWIW, I had numerous u/s's w/Sophia and not one showed anything off at all. And yet she most certainly has Down Syndrome! Don't get me wrong -- even if we had known ahead of time, we wouldn't have done anything differently, she is seriously the best thing to ever happen to our family -- but I will also never look at u/s in the same trusting way again. It's good for telling gender and can find extremely obvious defects, but I find it useless for much else. I can't tell you how many moms of kiddos w/DS tell me that routine u/s missed both the DS AND their children's very serious heart defects. Eeek!

It's funny, you know, I was never a big fan of prenatal testing and have never done them before (quad screen/nuchal fold scan/CVS/amnio), but I admit that I am reconsidering that stance now, not b/c I'm afraid of having another child w/DS (we'd actually welcome one, to tell you the truth), but b/c I am now just far too aware of all the OTHER genetic abnormalities out there that are far, far worse and are often incompatible with life. So I find myself in something of a conundrum, since I'm still very much against CVS/amnio, which would provide the only definitive answers, and yet my innocence about how everything usually "turns out just fine" has been forever removed.

Anyone understand what I mean?

Guin
post #24 of 85
Guin-

As a mother of two special needs children I get what you are saying. However, I still wouldn't (and don't) want to know if my unborn child has an genetic abnormality even if it isn't compatable with life.

I think knowing about my child's abnormalities would only hinder the bonding experience that I would have with my baby while in utero. I think that the worry, doubt, and fears would take my peaceful happy pregnancy (the time when I would be bonding with the unborn one) and turn it into something unenjoyable and painful.

If a child is meant to be born and die shortly afterward, then there isn't much I can do to stop that and at least I had the happy, blissfully ignorant nine months to get to know my baby. (even if it was just in utero)

post #25 of 85
I am hoping to keep them at a min. I do want an early ultrasound to make sure the pregnancy is viable (i've had 3 recent miscarriages). I also have an inkling that there could possibly be 2, and I'd rather know sooner than later. I will also have a late ultrasound (past 30 weeks) to check for placental placement if we go the homebirth route.
post #26 of 85
Wow, Guin...I never thought about it from that perspective. I always assume tests are going to be false positives rather than false negatives - especially with stuff like this. I am not doing a triple (or quad) screen because I have heard so many stories of false positives and the grief that ensues.

On the other hand, a friend of a friend of mine had her 20-week ultrasound and they found a major heart defect with their unborn babe, so it has been incredibly helpful for them to know ahead of time, because the baby will need complicated surgery within a few days of birth, so they have now arranged for the best care possible and know exactly how and when everything will happen. So for them, I think it was a blessing to be able to know ahead of time.
post #27 of 85
*Amy*- My oldest son was born with a heart defect that wasn't found on ultrasound. He had to have open heart surgery when he was two days old, and again at two years old. I think for us it was a blessing that we DIDNT know about it before hand. We only had to worry post-partum, and not the entire time I was pregnant. He pulled through fine without us knowing though, and I am sure my feelings would probably be different if it had turned out otherwise.
post #28 of 85
It's a difficult situation because I've seen it all ways--

False positives: Baby's fine, mother spent time worrying unnecessarily, changed birth plans, all for what ended up to be no reason.

False negatives: I've seen anomalies so great that you have to wonder if the person doing the ultrasound had their eyes closed (I'm talking about a baby where 3 out of 4 of her limbs were malformed/ almost missing, had no kidneys or bladder).

And, mostly, positive positives-- the u/s was right on, there was a problem requiring intervention and treatment.

Heart defects are particularly tricky because there are different levels of fetal echos available and unless you have a "risk factor" then you often aren't referred for a higher level scan (here is an interesting website that talks a bit about this). I can't tell you how many times, during my 3.5 years in the NICU (and occasionally floating down to the Pediatric Cardiac ICU) I saw babies with major heart defects that weren't picked up on u/s-- AND most of them were born in hospitals and had newborn exams and still the defect (or murmur) wasn't picked up. It wasn't until they went home and "fell apart" and were brought to an ER that the defect was found.

For me, the reason I chose to have the anatomy scan done, is not because I think it is fool proof, but because there are several anomalies that exist that are treatable and the difference between life and death is heavily dependent on where the child is born. I choose to do it, knowing that it might not catch something (even something major) and knowing that it could cause unneccessary worry (or false reassurance)-- because, in the end, I want to feel like I've done my "due diligence."

But I totally understand why other people make other choices.
post #29 of 85
I had an ultrasound at 4w3d because I started bleeding the day after I got my BFP and the doctor wanted to confirm everything was ok. I am also getting one next week at 6w4d to make sure everything is still ok (along with an HCG test). I have been spotting since a couple days after I ovulated so I am looking forward to finding out if things are progressing along as they should be. I think I would also like to find out the gender at some point (haven't decided yet).
post #30 of 85
I wouldn't think of having one other than to find out the gender - and we want this baby to be a surprise.

BUT... I'm worried about my eggs being a bit past their expiration date.

IF I do a quad screen, I'm sure I'll have the nuchal one. I've had at least one with every pg so far, so it seems weird not to have one... I love "seeing" the baby. And I'm in the middle, too, when it comes to the dangers, etc. So I'm not swayed either way there. But I'm torn about all the false positives, and the thought of CVS makes my skin crawl. (I had an amnio with baby 2 and that was no picnic- it was one of those false negative things, they thought something was wrong with his kidney, but he was fine.) But if I found out that there was something wrong with this baby (i.e. incompatible with life) I would probably terminate. Probably. I think. And seeing as I'm 38, time is rather of the essence in terms of having this last baby...

*sigh*

Decisions, decisions...
post #31 of 85
The only U/S I will have and/or 'ok' will be a very late U/S - at least past 35 weeks - to check the placenta and position. I will be having a home birth after a section so I dont want previa or accretia on my plate of things to prevent that!
post #32 of 85
I will be doing the quad/nuchal fold scan, definitely. I worked in a cardiac PICU, so I have seen the gamut, from babies who were prenatally diagnosed, to those who had catastrophic heart defects that weren't seen in numerous fetal ehcoes. But we live 45 minutes-1 hour from the hospital, way up in the mountains, and there is a LOT of snow in April still. So if baby has a defect, I will have to stay down in town or in the hospital towards the end (and I have a high chance of another preemie anyway). We do have a small regional center 15 minutes away, but a baby born with catastrophic defects would have a much better shot if delivered at the larger hospital in the city.
post #33 of 85
I think I may have 1 or 2, just for peace of mind.
post #34 of 85
is there any reason a person would NEED one? like medically? I am so torn. I mostly don't want to have any (hearing anything was wrong with babe wouldn't change our mind about having him/her...it wouldn't "prepare me- I would only worry and obsess...and I've heard so many stories about false readings...) But then I hear about things occasionally that make me think- maybe? ger. I'm scared of the risks...and I can't think of any reason we would NEED it. is that any?? what about placenta previa? ger... this is only the beginning of the hard decisions isn't it???
post #35 of 85
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Originally Posted by nisafiin View Post
is there any reason a person would NEED one? like medically? I am so torn. I mostly don't want to have any (hearing anything was wrong with babe wouldn't change our mind about having him/her...it wouldn't "prepare me- I would only worry and obsess...and I've heard so many stories about false readings...) But then I hear about things occasionally that make me think- maybe? ger. I'm scared of the risks...and I can't think of any reason we would NEED it. is that any?? what about placenta previa? ger... this is only the beginning of the hard decisions isn't it???
there's a long list of medical reasons i will *need* several. But i have many risk factors. Don't want to start a debate about it, but there *are* things that can be caught by u/s and monitored or appropriately treated.
post #36 of 85
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Originally Posted by nisafiin View Post
is there any reason a person would NEED one? like medically? I am so torn. I mostly don't want to have any (hearing anything was wrong with babe wouldn't change our mind about having him/her...it wouldn't "prepare me- I would only worry and obsess...and I've heard so many stories about false readings...) But then I hear about things occasionally that make me think- maybe? ger. I'm scared of the risks...and I can't think of any reason we would NEED it. is that any?? what about placenta previa? ger... this is only the beginning of the hard decisions isn't it???
Depends on the person.

Remember that u/s is a relatively new thing. I know my mother was never offered one with any of her pregnancies. They exsisted then but only for VERY high risk mothers.

For me, the potential risks outweigh the potential benifits, so I won't be getting one. Each momma has to decide that for herself though because we are all so different.
post #37 of 85
Where I was living when I was pg with dd, they do monthly routine echographies with every visit, so I had a chance to see her heart beating every few weeks, and see her grow. It was an amazing experience and I was able to send copies to our parents (his in Greece, mine in Canada, and we lived in a third European country) so they felt more connected. They pretty much missed out on the whole pg and birth, and even now rarely see us.

I'm a little sad that they don't do that here in the US, I'd love to have the same experience.

I'm hoping to get one asap, to see the heartbeat, and however many our insurance will pay for, and depending on price, maybe others to keep track of developement.


Clearly, I have no problem with U/S, lol. I've lived all over the world, and they do regular U/S all the time on pg women.
post #38 of 85
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is there any reason a person would NEED one? like medically?
i needed one with my 1st pg, because no hb could ever be found, but i was still pregnant and growing not showing any signs of miscarriage. it was a hydatiform mole and had to be removed by emergency d+c.

i also needed more than one last pg also related to ....things going awry.
i am sure there would be other reasons as well but i guess you would know when it was necessary, kwim?
post #39 of 85
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Originally Posted by carolhagan View Post
We will not be having any at all, unless we suspect something is wrong.
same here.
post #40 of 85
im going this morning for an ultrasound. i am so nervous- can't remember feeling like this before an ultrasound ever. last night i dreamed i saw two sacs and the tech was pointing out the one embryo talking about how strong the heartbeat was and i asked about the other one's hb and she said "he doesn't have one."
please pray or send vibes that i do get to see a strong heartbeat. what i am worried about most is having to tell dp something is wrong. i'll know in an hour- i sure hope everything is ok!
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