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The tragic existence of a 9 yr old dd  

post #1 of 16
8/7/08 at 5:47pm
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...in the throes of early puberty.

We went shoe shopping last night. We went to 4 shoe stores and we didn't get anything but a meltdown. Need I say more?


post #2 of 16
8/7/08 at 6:50pm
I feel your pain! My oldest dd is 10 and she is in the middle of puberty...I don't know if i will survive, LOL. Laughing one minute- screaming the next. She is my middle child and she "hates" everyone, aggravates everyone, bosses everyone. On the other hand, she is becoming such a lovely young woman that at times I am speechless. She carries herself with a grace and confidence I never had a 10; maybe I don't have now. She is a huge daddy's girl and he is SOOO not ready for her to grow up. Neither am I; she already wears a bigger shoe than I do and is two inches from being taller than me!
post #3 of 16
8/8/08 at 9:38am
Oh I understand. Ds is the oldest he entered his teen years with barely a bump. Wow this teen thing isn't so bad. Then dd hit 11 and my lord somedays I think the girl has lost her mind. I'm hoping it will level out.
post #4 of 16
8/8/08 at 2:16pm
I have an 11 year old daughter so I can relate! Usually, her "triggers" are me asking her to do something like clean her room, clean up after dinner, etc....she is so mistreated!
post #5 of 16
8/9/08 at 7:15pm
I know! If my 9 year old DD is to be believed it's a wonder the Bush admin or small 3rd world county dictators aren't pounding down my door....I torture her all the time.
post #6 of 16
8/9/08 at 7:17pm
Oh, yeah. My 12 yo DD sulked and pouted for three days this week because I wouldn't buy her a new 3-ring binder. I told her the one from last year would work fine. Oh, the horrors!
post #7 of 16
8/10/08 at 3:12pm
Glad I'm not alone. Dd NEVER gets to do ANYTHING she wants! EVER!!! UGH!!!
post #8 of 16
8/10/08 at 7:18pm
My 10 yo DD is like this too. I was talking to a woman at church today and she said both her daughters were like that. She also said it gets better. Of course, her daughters are now 18 and 21, so it might be a bit of a wait!!

Although I was surprised today because she helped pick up all the junk in the basement without any comments.
post #9 of 16
8/10/08 at 7:47pm
My youngest will be 10 in November, but she has lost her mind. Has started to think that everything I tell her is up for debate. Thinks she tells me where to go and when. She used to be practical and pragmatic but now she's demanding and apparently quite emotionally dysregulated.

She does know where the shoes she wants are...at Target and they are PLAID. I'm thinking they won't match a things she has or maybe they will match everything. LOL either way it's nice to start out shopping with a destination in mind.

I have hope though that this will pass. My oldest is 15 and showing some signs of rationality and moving out one day. Told me she hates it here (cuz her dad told her to do something the other night and he's a horrible expletive) , but that she will miss the dog when she goes to college far, far away. Well atleast she likes the dog and her outbursts are getting spread further apart.
post #10 of 16
8/10/08 at 7:59pm
oh no! what have i gotten myself into?????

(dd is 8 and she too lately thinks its ALL up for debate)
post #11 of 16
8/10/08 at 8:23pm
OK, she JUST asked me why I don't like things from THIS century. She says I only like things "from, like the 50's". I'm 30!
post #12 of 16
8/10/08 at 10:29pm
I have taught middle school and high school and all I have to say is God Bless middle school teachers!!! They actually return to normal human beings around 15/16. The earlier they hit the unreasonable stage, the earlier they leave it. Since my dd is in it at 10, I am hoping she is through it before her sister enters it. My son has yet to even glance at puberty and he is almost 13. Daily I wonder why we thought 3 kids in 5 years was agood idea??? LOL
post #13 of 16
8/11/08 at 1:15am
My dd told me recently that she had to "follow her heart", and her heart had told her that she shouldn't do what I had asked (clean up her room).

Unfortunately for her, her heart doesn't give her her allowance.
post #14 of 16
8/11/08 at 1:26am
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Originally Posted by mar123 View Post
Daily I wonder why we thought 3 kids in 5 years was a good idea??? LOL
post #15 of 16
8/11/08 at 1:29am
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Originally Posted by karne View Post
My dd told me recently that she had to "follow her heart", and her heart had told her that she shouldn't do what I had asked (clean up her room).

Unfortunately for her, her heart doesn't give her her allowance.
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post #16 of 16
8/11/08 at 1:32am
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OK, she JUST asked me why I don't like things from THIS century. She says I only like things "from, like the 50's". I'm 30!

Yeah. I'm so old and uncool, yet all these really awesome guys are, old like you, how come, Mom? (Think Johnny Depp, Brad Pitt, and that cute guy from Northern Exposure whose name escapes me) Um, maybe because you don't get to be awesome overnight?
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