Need help with lopsided breast issue! - Page 2

[daileyjoy]

My daughter is 12 and this is what we use because her breasts were tender and they help a lot she says. Also if this helps I was lopsided for a while and my best friend was too. The joke was if we stood beside one another we'd have a pair. I'm fine now and truthfully barely remember those days or only having one breast. Buy her a few pairs and just make her wear them. My dd hated them at first but now she loves wearing her bras. Son't make a huge deal of it just ask her " Are you wearing your bra?" Well go get it on. It will be fine.

Originally Posted by journeymom

Tell your daughter this: my 13 y.o. dd noticed that the bras with the stiff, padded cup (t-shirt bras?) actually protected her sensitive breasts better than going without, or even the soft bras. And because they're the stiff cups they make you look even. Like this: Target They're not padded with falsies, they're just- shells.

I wasn't required to shower back in the 80s, and dd isn't required to shower in middle school.

[segata]

I was a late bloomer and was worried about showers when starting high school,I had gym 1st period,but nobody ever showered..It was NEVER a requirement,that's weird.

I'd think wearing SOMETHING would be more comfortable than going without,that can't feel good either...has she tried any bras on??

I too would worry about a falsie shifting.

If by some weird chance that she does HAVE to shower,all those other girls are probably self-conscious too.some of them may be lopsided or flat(like I was)too to your dd...let us know how it goes

[FondestBianca]

I have lots of body image issues about breasts. it sucks. i feel so bad when a girl isn't comfortable with her body... especially that area. Things will probably even out... just no fun in the mean time. If she isn't going to wear a bra then I don't know what other options there are. Maybe she would wear those tanks with the built in shelf bra. You could put some sort of insert or adhesive bra on just that one side to even things out. the layered look with a tank underneath t-shirts and such is in style right now as an added bonus too. Maybe run that idea by her when you're at the store then see if she'll just try one on and see if it's comfortable.

Also, not sure about your state but, that middle school shower rule became illegal in my state back when I was entering 7th grade.... and that was 10 to 12 years ago! It should be optional. At my school, the minute the law went out NONE of the girls showered anymore. That tells you just how uncomfortable that makes girls. That is about the worst time to be forcing girls to get naked. If it is still forced I'd start a petition or write your congressmen or something. Also, double check with the school. I would imagine that there have been enough complaints that the school allows some sort of clothing during shower time. Maybe bathing suits. She can always change in the restroom stall inside the locker room as well. If she would feel weird doing that you can always teach her the how to take just her arms out of one shirt while keeping her chest covered, then putting the new shirt on over top, then once it's fully on pulling the first shirt out through the neck hole of the new shirt and over her head. Most girls learn that from seeing everyone else do it but, just in case mention it to her. Up until high school I don't remember any girls even feeling comfortable walking the locker room only covered by a bra anyway. The earlier mentioned shirt trick was common place.

[Blu Razzberri]

I feel her pain right NOW.

I nursed my first for 14 months; and I'd nurse him on the right side every time he got a vaccination (it was the easy side). Eventually, thanks to the bajillion needles they give these days, he boycotted the right side completely and the left had to make up for it. I padded the other side with gel inserts to even them. After I was done nursing, they both shrunk back to non-existence. But now, the new baby is using them; and even though he's nursing on both sides, I still have one D cup and one B cup when I wake up in the morning.

It really really really sucks. I feel so so bad for her!

[mzfern]

Lots of good advice here. I hope the contour bras are the answer she needs. This isn't an answer to her direct situation right now, but the breast gallery is really enlightening to the variety of what a normal breast can look like. It's so hard being a teenager

[Blu Razzberri]

Thanks 'mzfern'; that made ME feel better. I hope the OP's daughter can benefit from it too!