I don't think it's abusive or anything, but I don't think it's productive to building a good relationship with her to get into a power struggle about her clothes. I think it's going to drive a wedge in any father/daughter relationship when the father feels the need to control and suppress her budding sexuality. I think it would be more helpful to her in the long run if he were supportive and made her feel comfortable talking to him. I know that's really uncomfortable territory for most fathers, though.
This I don't get. Was he implying that she's more likely to be a target of assault by being dressed "provocatively"? I think that's a terrible message to send. It's been proven untrue, and it makes a woman who does get assaulted someday feel like she must have asked for it somehow.
|But he said at our house we live on the lake and there can be a lot of people around we do not know and I just don't feel confortible with you dressed that way, he said especially if we were at work and you were by yourself.|