Just to add my .02 of having been a waldorf-kid myself and having lived in a antro-family (not my own parents) as well as having been at a "normal" public school too.
I changed schools from a public school to a Waldorf-one when i was 10. I was placed a year higher since i'd been a "top-student" in my previous school (yes, so much in this competition mode at age 10 and under, that i was suffering from frequent migraines, that consequently disappeared as i entered the Waldorf school) - at first the culture shock was great, suddenly i had classes i've never dealt with (german, eurythmy etc.) and i was in this panic-mode of "not being the best in my class any more", this fear slowly subsided since there was no competition happening (ie. no grading with numbers) and i began to love all the art we got to do, making our own textbooks, knitting socks, dancing circle dances at the christmas-party that smelled of candles, apples and cinnamon.. There was plenty too that we students used to critisize, i did run off to rock-concerts (big no-no) and hated eurythmy when i was 14 and i left the school in this adolecent burst of independence to follow my passion and study art - but i probably wouldn't have found that artistic passion without the waldorf school - funnily enough i've come around full circle to consider that as an option for my dd. And yet it has to be said that you have to do your research - not all schools are created equal, many teachers live in this textbook-antroposophy that is lacking the groundedness of real life, the challenge in any spiritual quest where you may buy the philosophy BEFORE the actual experience. I see it as a never-ending journey of curiosity where you may have guidelines, but you have to fill in the blanks. I've seen my own antro-family soaring, their children blossoming into these fantastic, skilled (you should see what these kids can do with their hearts & hands!) individuals whose lives may not be "waldor-textbook" but certainly true and honest and couragerous. One of the most beautiful stories i know is how they really had to find creative solutions for their very spirited daughter, like getting her a wild horse in her teens to focus her roaring energies. She is now a wild and fabulous woman pursuing a life of an artist. In them i've seen the best of the waldorf-legacy, meeting each child in where they are and offering them tools to become thinking, feeling and creative adults. Very AP i would say. Sure they didn't breastfeed beyond one year, but after their recent trip to South-America she was talking of seeing these older kids still bf:ing, in a curious tone of "ah, it can be done that way too".
And yes, as a student it wasn't always that fantastic, but we rebelled like all teens, we got met (by being physically challenged with camping and hiking trips in wet windy mountains) and some kids left (mostly because the parents feared the kid's academic status) while others stayed and soared. You have to be the one to know your child and to decide wheter the standards of the school are acceptable to you - something you would do in any case, waldorf or not.
Ask more questions and take more responsibility of your journey and don't think that any one system will change anything unless you're willing to invest yourself into it.
And it all made me this wildly AP and granola mama that i am now!
Satu - my real name