Originally Posted by KBecks
That said, it's my signature that allowed both of those circs to happen.
Yes, exactly (not said to make KBecks feel bad, but in response to the OP and those who feel powerless when DH/DP "insists").
I can't imagine any
hospital, at least in the US, that would circ a newborn without the mother's consent. In all my years of nursing, I've never known the Dr. to seek the dad's signature on a consent form. To put it bluntly, the hospital knows
you are the mother, they saw the child come from your body. They don't know
your dh is the father. If married, they assume, but they don't know. And because of that, the mother is not mandated to put any man on the birth certificate as the father. And because of that, the hospital would open up a whole messy can of legal worms if they allowed consent from someone who wound up not being the legal parent.
One would hope it wouldn't come down to it, but a mom could tell her dh/dp that she wouldn't put his name on the birth certificate unless he agreed not to circ.
I just want to say that while I can't imagine this happening in the hospital (mother's signature bypassed for dad's consent), I do see how it could happen later at the pedi's office. If two parents disagree, I'd make sure the pedi knew ds wasn't to be circed ever and to call me if dh took him in for the procedure.
I don't know if it's been posted but maybe these articles might help your dh understand where you're coming from with your feelings on circ. -http://www.noharmm.org/appeal.htm
(this has graphic photos in the link)
But honestly OP, if your first son had a horrible circ and your spouse still wanted to risk a circ w/ the second child, there's probably not a lot you can do to convince him otherwise. You might just have to put your foot down.