Timing - Page 2

[jenholle]

Good: We have been grappling with the idea of #3 for over a year. We decided for good and it didn't take us that long to get a BFP. Also I am a school counselor (part-time) and with an April baby I can take off the rest of the year and through the summer so #3 will be almost 6 months old before entering daycare. :

Bad: I am a little older than I would have liked (almost 36) and there is a little bigger gap between #2 and #3 than I would have liked (almost 4 years). And I will have to take some unpaid leave for like 6 weeks or so b/c I don't qualify for FMLA and can't use sick time after my medical leave part is done.

[CEVmommy]

Good:
We waited until dd#1 turned 2 to TTC this one because I was afraid she would wean during pregnancy and wanted to make sure she was at least 2 first. It only took 4 cycles, and she will be almost 3 when this one comes, which is the spacing we wanted. If it's a girl, we already have everything because they will be the same season.

Bad:
Our daycare provider will already be full because 2 of the other kids are having new siblings before us, so we'll either have to split ours up or else put them both in a new place even though we love our current provider and dd#1 has been with her since 3 months old.

[Degas]

Originally Posted by racie0417

Good: We just bought a Honda Odyssey and a Phil and Ted's stroller with the extra seat. This baby was also VERY much wanted and dreamed of.

Bad: we just moved from England to Alabama and I was already feeling a bit overwhelmed, but the thought of 2 baabies 20 months apart terrifies me. DS went on a nursing strike about a month before my BFP and I was an exclusively pumper, but my milk dried up.

Are you in Montgomery, AL? That's the only airforce base I know of there. If so, I lived there for four years (and gave birth to my dd there). So if you want tips and suggestions about where to go and where not to go, etc., as far as kid stuff, hospitals, midwifes, etc., pm me.

[lisa_nc]

Good: I wanted a new baby. It was a now or never choice.

Bad: My husband is leaving in January for a 13 month stint in Iraq.

[Degas]

Good:
I have had baby fever and we all have really wanted another baby for so long. I'll have almost two months of sick leave by then which I can take for taking care of the baby, and I can also do unpaid leave through FMLA if I need to. By that time my husband will have a new job somewhere in the country and I can be a SAHM.

Bad:
Our stress level is at an all time high with my job extremely busy, my dh in graduate school, we just got a new puppy (a couple days before I got ), we're spaying and neutering and trying to find homes for kittens living under our house, and neither of us have any time to clean the house.
Do they have a smilie for pulling my hair out?!

[ChrissieColinsMom]

Good: We finally decided that we wanted a second and it happened within 2 months. Our son will be just about to start K so we won't have childcare expenses for 2. Our son could not be more excited about the idea of a baby.

Bad: Dh's job is unstable. We've had a lot of unexpected expenses recently.

[MI_Dawn]

Originally Posted by lisa_nc

Bad: My husband is leaving in January for a 13 month stint in Iraq.

oh damn. Sheesh, and I thought it was just commercials that made me well up...

Let's see...

Good: We just got a new house - with an extra room - for the baby. Perfect timing! We found out about the house and the baby on the same day, in fact...

Bad: I'm old. Thirty-eight now, thirty-nine when baby will arrive.

[wobblykate]

I think there's some forty-something mamas on this thread. Careful what you call old . Good Luck!

[inky leeuhhh]

good: we really wanted this baby, and it happened before the age gap between baby and dd got too big.

bad: we will have to move about march, and i want to stay home and try to do an in- home preschool, but we will be broke while im trying to get kids enrolled. i guess i just dont like not knowing where we will be living, and knowing for sure how our financial situation will be. im sure everything will work out though!

[Fridaxsky]

Good: We wanted our kids to be close in age and now #1 and #2 will be 20 months apart. Also, it happened on only my 2nd PP cycle so we were very lucky it didn't take much effort.

Bad: We had just decided to try to sell our house AND a really great job for DH opened up back in our hometown (where all of our family lives). It would be great if the house sells and he gets the job and we can move back. But during my last pregnancy DH changed jobs and we moved - NOT FUN!:

[lisa_nc]

Originally Posted by birthtenders

oh damn. Sheesh, and I thought it was just commercials that made me well up...

I am *really* trying not to dwell on it too much. We aren't finding out the sex of the baby and we are hoping he can webcam in for the birth. If he can, my midwife is going to show him the baby parts first so he can tell me what the gender is. I hope it works out.

[daisyem]

Good: I have tried 4 times to have a spring (March/April/May) baby. I always got preg WAY quicker that I thought I would (even my 2 m/c) so I've always been due in Oct. or Feb. I'm finally due in APRIL!!

Bad: Not that this is really a big deal, but it is the only "bad" thing I can think of. DH just informed me that April will be his BUSIEST month EVER for work. He is an environmental chemist at a power plant and commutes 1 hr away and will be working nights alot that month. He normally works straight Mon-Thurs 10 hrs per day. I HATE being alone at night--especally when very pregnant or with a tiny baby.

[lotus.blossom]

Good: This baby will probably come around May 1st and 2-3 weeks later my parents will be home for the summer (extra help, yay!!)

Good: We just bought a house that we love and it really suits us as a family

Good: I will be pregnant with a few other family members and at least one friend (fun!)

Bad: Winter is our slow time (DH is self employed) so we'll have to try to save up now for the midwife, AND I don't know if we will qualify for mainecare come October (in case of an emergency c/s)

[shantiani]

Originally Posted by lisa_nc

I am *really* trying not to dwell on it too much. We aren't finding out the sex of the baby and we are hoping he can webcam in for the birth. If he can, my midwife is going to show him the baby parts first so he can tell me what the gender is. I hope it works out.

That is so sweet :

[mamato2boys]

Good: I love pregnancies that end in the spring (this will be our third April baby ) My sister has an almost 1yo so we'l be able to get a lot of hand me downs.

Bad: Work has been slow for DH, and doesn't look like it's going to turn around anytime soon. My parents really want us to go with them on a family vacation in late February; I'm not really liking the idea of traveling with three kids at 34/35 weeks PG.

[shantiani]

Good: We both really really really really want this baby!!!!
We're currently moving into an adorable house that will be perfect for our new little family.
Between my savings and dp's salary, I can take a few years off ( !)

Bad: I'm cutting my grad school short (leaving with a Masters in Nov instead of finishing with the phD as planned).
My family lives too far away.. I would really love to share all of this with them so much more than I can from a distance... my mom has been fantasizing about her first grandchild for YEARS but now we're a plane flight away.

But I'm feeling so overwhelmed with the good that it's hard to dwell on the bad.

[katiedidbug]

Originally Posted by lisa_nc

Good: I wanted a new baby. It was a now or never choice.

Bad: My husband is leaving in January for a 13 month stint in Iraq.

Oh, man, mama! I'm sorry!

Good: My due date is like perfect for the school year. I'm going to have the baby, and then will only have eight weeks left in the school year, so I may not have to go back.

Bad: With that said, I teach yearbook, so May is the month that we pass everything out, I tie up all loose ends, finalize the budge, etc. I'm thinking that even thought I will be on leave, I will have to still be quite involved. And I don't get paid maternity leave. I'm hoping to have enough sick days built up.

[dawncayden]

Good:
-I'm glad I won't be heavily pregnant during the hot summer.
-We just decided 2 months ago that we were ready to have #2, and here we are.
-I'm glad our kids won't be too far apart in age as we plan on homeschooling.
-My cousin is 2 months more pregnant than me, so they will be really close in age.
-My work recently switched me from being a contract worker to an employee which means 1 year Mat leave.
-I'm happy that I'm young for the pregnancy (27)
-I'm happy that I got back to pre-pregnancy weight and I'm in pretty good shape.


Bad:
-I wish our finances were better, debts paid off.
-I wish we could find a home for our cats.