yes i get this often. my daughter has curly dirty blonde hair and i am mexican with brown hair and eyes... its frustrating.
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9/10/08 at 12:40am
Anyway, today at the market, the check out lady said, "Her eyes are so gorgeous" so I said, "Yes, she gets them from her dad and my dad." (I usually say something like that, so that people don't go to the nanny place.) and she said, "She's not yours, is she?" and I said, "Yes, I'm the mommy." and she ROLLED her eyes and said, "Are you sure about that?" and I just went there. "Well, she came out of me, so yeah, I'm sure about it." give someone an out and you think they would take it!
Like I said, I don't usually mind unless they actually don't believe I am telling the truth.
Just saw this thread in the list and wanted to say...it may not always be racism. I don't have a multicultural family, but I've been asked many times if I'm dd's babysitter, because I look very young (for the record, I'm in my 30s and dd looks exactly like me ).
In my area, as someone else said, at least 50% of the kids I see at the park are with nannies. There are nannies of all ethnic backgrounds--West Indian, British, Eastern European, Haitian, Korean, Chinese, you name it. I also know many multicultural families in the area. If I asked, it wouldn't be because I assumed a "dark-skinned" woman couldn't possibly give birth to a "light-skinned baby"--but precisely because I wouldn't want to assume that someone was either the mom OR the nanny. I don't make assumptions about any adult I see with a child.