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Is there a book everyone reads called "What to say to a pregnant woman"?

post #1 of 64
8/13/08 at 11:58am
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"You look like you're about ready to pop"
"Any day now, right?"
"You're going to have your hands full"



-Caitrin
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post #2 of 64
8/13/08 at 11:59am
Thread Starter 
Ah! I meant to post this in I'm Pregnant. Please move?
post #3 of 64
8/13/08 at 2:36pm
Haha - replace all of those comments w/ "You look great!"
post #4 of 64
8/13/08 at 5:26pm
"So when's the baby due?" (For the fiftieth time in a day, you're forced to go through this cliche conversation on auto-pilot).

"You're still pregnant?!"

"Are you sure . . . ?" (Said by another mother with a screaming toddler).
post #5 of 64
8/13/08 at 6:19pm
You could borrow my mom's favorites:

"yeah that happened to me too, then I found out what caused it"

And

"I hope that's not contageous"
post #6 of 64
8/13/08 at 11:40pm
"Wow your butt is huge"

"You shouldn't be eating/drinking that"

Those are apparently staples in the book that everyone, pregnant or not has read.
post #7 of 64
8/13/08 at 11:46pm
I swear to you - a lady at my church asked me the other day -

"Are you sure you're not having twins?"

THREE TIMES!

Yeah - I kid you not. One time, cute, two times, not so cute, three times....yeah.....it was hard to stay patient. *laughing*
post #8 of 64
8/14/08 at 12:53am
Wow, you still have X months left? Are you sure?

You must be having twins! No, seriously!

Are you STILL pregnant? (Asked daily by the same coworkers, duh)

When are you due?

Don't __________eat____do____lift___move____drink____tha t! You'll_____miscarry___kill the baby___hurt yourself___have a stillborn!


Wow, your legs are swollen!

(Said after a cough or sneeze) That's what you get for DTD! (As if you get sick from being pregnant?)

Wow, you've put on weight! Next time use a condom!
post #9 of 64
8/14/08 at 12:59am
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Originally Posted by Celticqueen View Post
Ah! I meant to post this in I'm Pregnant. Please move?
Done.

I'm also at some of these. Especially
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Don't __________eat____do____lift___move____drink____tha t! You'll_____miscarry___kill the baby___hurt yourself___have a stillborn!
post #10 of 64
8/14/08 at 1:03am
So, who's the father?

Is it a boy or a girl?, promptly followed by

WHAT? How can you not get an ultrasound? How will you know if everything is alright?

And, finally, with any and I mean any sign of pain, discomfort, fatigue, etc:

Are you in labour? Shouldn't you go to hospital or call an ambulance or something?
post #11 of 64
8/14/08 at 1:26am
I feel like every conversation I have (and my dh has) after becoming pregnant goes like this:

"What are you having?" (A baby. People can't believe that people either wouldn't find out the sex or wouldn't want to tell a complete stranger.) "When are you due?" "What names are you thinking of?" (Even from people in the grocery store.)

This short convo is usually followed by some anecdote involving the words, "Thank God they were at the hospital!" What do people expect us to say, "Yep. If that were our baby it would probably die." Ugh.:
post #12 of 64
8/14/08 at 3:08am
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Originally Posted by soso-lynn View Post
And, finally, with any and I mean any sign of pain, discomfort, fatigue, etc:

Are you in labour?
This is my mom... We live together to save on rent and it was also originally to keep my nephew and son close together as they've grown up together and are like twins.. Anyways, if I make a funny face or breathe in deep or pat my leg or well anything, she's right there asking if I'm having a contraction or in labor... Hello ma, you are gonna be there for the labor and birth dont you think I'd tell you if I was feeling something?!

I love her but sheesh come on already.

I dont even chat with my friend Tracee anymore because everytime she texted me or im'd me she's asking if I've had contractions yet... before i would've told her but now forget it, I just want to be left alone.

I just *love* when they ask you if you are still pregnant and they are standing right in front of you.. Like oh yeah but I thought the baby was old enough to take care of herself so I just left her at home. duh!
post #13 of 64
8/14/08 at 5:26am
"You must be having a daughter. She stole all your beauty."
(I knew someone who actually had this said to her by a random little old lady)

"Let touch your belly!" (usually said by a complete stranger if they even say anything)
post #14 of 64
8/14/08 at 9:48am
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Originally Posted by Red_Lil_Mamma View Post
"You must be having a daughter. She stole all your beauty."
(I knew someone who actually had this said to her by a random little old lady)

"Let touch your belly!" (usually said by a complete stranger if they even say anything)
OMG!!!!!!!!
post #15 of 64
8/14/08 at 10:06am
Yes, it is in book stores on the shelf next to:
The complete book of ridiculous things to say to a postpartum Mother, which includes some classics such as
When are you due? Uh I am holding a newborn baby...what do you think?!
You look great, you were quite overweight last time we got together! Uh thanks, I was carrying a 7 pound baby in my belly.
Which hospital did you deliver at? At home.
What, but terrible/ horrible/ awful things could have happened! Uh yes, but miraculously here I am standing talking to you with my perfectly happy healthy baby.
You have your hands full...they look like trouble! Uh actually "they" are children, can hear you and we made quite an effort to get them!

Everyone I knew said all the ones mentioned by pps and is there a bonus chapter in the book that encourages the sharing of horror pregnancy/birth stories by complete strangers?
post #16 of 64
8/14/08 at 10:09am
Maybe I'm weird but it doesn't bother me when people ask me the same questions when I'm out and about. I like sharing my due date and talking about the baby, etc...

Not that I like the rude comments, however!
I'm so shocked at what some people will say (or think they can tough your belly)!! I will usually say something to a very rude comment.

When I see a pregnant woman out and about and the opportunity presents itself, I always tell her how beautiful she looks.
post #17 of 64
8/14/08 at 11:07am
This is why I like to stay inside:

"are you SURE you aren't having twins--like really sure?"
"maybe there are two in there"
"Woah, you are HUGE"
"It seems like you've been pregnant forever"
"It looks like the baby dropped already" (this was when I was barely seven months)
"I was like that with my first, I gained A TON of weight...and you're not even to the last trimester--where the baby actually gains weight"
post #18 of 64
8/14/08 at 11:44am
"Was this an Accident?"

Um - NO! Actually, I know it's hard to fathom that some people have pleasant birthing experiences and aren't actually SUFFERING through their "job as a wife" to provide exactly one boy child and one girl child but my husband and I ENJOY our kids! *laughing*

Actually - my husband put one lady in her place upon the third time hearing this question and said:
"No it isn't. A car wreck is an accident. This baby is a fantastic human being who will be a blessing to our family."

Even IF it were an unplanned pregnancy would you seriously slap the label "accident" on your child? Can you imagine! "This is Evan, our oldest, Brianna, our girl - and oh yeah. That's the Accident." Ugh.

/rant over
post #19 of 64
8/14/08 at 11:46am
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Originally Posted by wbg View Post

Everyone I knew said all the ones mentioned by pps and is there a bonus chapter in the book that encourages the sharing of horror pregnancy/birth stories by complete strangers?
Yep. It comes with a checklist "How to create the most horrific birth story to tell other mothers...."

*rolls eyes*
post #20 of 64
8/14/08 at 1:11pm
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Originally Posted by Crystal_R View Post
"Wow your butt is huge"

"You shouldn't be eating/drinking that"

Those are apparently staples in the book that everyone, pregnant or not has read.
Oh my gosh- no one has said that to me yet...And there will be trouble if they do

-Caitrin
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