"Are you sure?"
So I tell them I had an u/s and am positive. And then they usually say:
"Well, the other one could be hiding."
"Was this an Accident?"
Um - NO! Actually, I know it's hard to fathom that some people have pleasant birthing experiences and aren't actually SUFFERING through their "job as a wife" to provide exactly one boy child and one girl child but my husband and I ENJOY our kids! *laughing*
Actually - my husband put one lady in her place upon the third time hearing this question and said:
"No it isn't. A car wreck is an accident. This baby is a fantastic human being who will be a blessing to our family."
Even IF it were an unplanned pregnancy would you seriously slap the label "accident" on your child? Can you imagine! "This is Evan, our oldest, Brianna, our girl - and oh yeah. That's the Accident." Ugh.
"You must be having a daughter. She stole all your beauty."
(I knew someone who actually had this said to her by a random little old lady)
And of course the family wants to hear names so we tossed a few out there that we were thinking of and they didn't like them. They proceeded to tell me what they thought we should name the baby and I just told them that it's my baby, my body, and I make the damn decisions.
|"You have a big swelling! You should get that looked at by a doctor right away!"|
I feel you guys on the name thing. I’ve been swatting people off by saying “We have a choice between a few names, but we’re going to wait until she gets here”. But I was feeling a little down and stupidly told my mom the name (and she’s probably gonna tell everyone else now). Her response? “That sounds like one of those made up names”. Even though I told her it’s a name of an archangel. Ugh. Then the rest of the day she’s like:
“You know that one girl that died but maybe didn’t, Anastasia? I like that name.”
“Isn’t Nadia Russian? I like that name.”
“You know my sister’s name meant ‘good luck for life’.”
“Is someone named after me yet? Oh, I forgot, that’s K’s (my niece) middle name. Oh well.”
Another thing that annoys me (I'm sure many of us hear it all the time): Yeah, you'll do that natural thing until that labor starts. Then you'll want that epidural.
One other thing I hear: "You are sooo tiny! I blew up when I had my kid/you're only as big as I am now". Um, what am I supposed to say? I'm a nice person but bad with words of flattery.
More jewels from my mom:
“You’re not the only person in the world that’s pregnant!”
(When I was really tired my first trimester) “You keep being tired and your husband is going to find a girlfriend”
“You aren’t that big, you can crawl under the bed and get my shoes for me”
(When I was considering asking for a decrease in my work hours because I’m pregnant)“Working 50 hours up until you give birth should be fine. N had her baby at work!” (Yeah, active labor in front of my coworkers would make a great impression)
Ok, I'll stop while I'm only a little :