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post #21 of 64
8/14/08 at 1:17pm
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Originally Posted by white_queen_22 View Post
"Are you sure you're not having twins?"
Aaargh! I get that one all the time! And it is always followed by:

"Are you sure?"

So I tell them I had an u/s and am positive. And then they usually say:

"Well, the other one could be hiding."

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post #22 of 64
8/14/08 at 1:54pm
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Originally Posted by Celticqueen View Post
"You look like you're about ready to pop"
"Any day now, right?"
"You're going to have your hands full"



-Caitrin
Uh yeah, people started saying that to me when I was only 6 or 7 months along!
post #23 of 64
8/14/08 at 2:09pm
For those of us who gestate past 40 weeks:

"Your doctor LET you go this long?"

Thank you. Because I was not aware that I had to ask permission to use my own vagina.:
post #24 of 64
8/14/08 at 2:22pm
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by soso-lynn View Post
So, who's the father?
OMG rudeness!

-Caitrin
post #25 of 64
8/14/08 at 2:25pm
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by white_queen_22 View Post
"Was this an Accident?"

Um - NO! Actually, I know it's hard to fathom that some people have pleasant birthing experiences and aren't actually SUFFERING through their "job as a wife" to provide exactly one boy child and one girl child but my husband and I ENJOY our kids! *laughing*

Actually - my husband put one lady in her place upon the third time hearing this question and said:
"No it isn't. A car wreck is an accident. This baby is a fantastic human being who will be a blessing to our family."

Even IF it were an unplanned pregnancy would you seriously slap the label "accident" on your child? Can you imagine! "This is Evan, our oldest, Brianna, our girl - and oh yeah. That's the Accident." Ugh.

/rant over
That's awesome what your dh said!!

-Caitrin
post #26 of 64
8/14/08 at 3:26pm
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Originally Posted by white_queen_22 View Post
"Was this an Accident?"
I got this one from several people when we told our friends we were expecting. I was to say the least.
post #27 of 64
8/14/08 at 4:09pm
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Originally Posted by TanyaS View Post
For those of us who gestate past 40 weeks:

"Your doctor LET you go this long?"

Thank you. Because I was not aware that I had to ask permission to use my own vagina.:
Love the response!!!
post #28 of 64
8/14/08 at 5:16pm
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Originally Posted by Red_Lil_Mamma View Post
"You must be having a daughter. She stole all your beauty."
(I knew someone who actually had this said to her by a random little old lady)
OMG! That's terrible!!! Although I did have a similar comment made when I told this guy I work with I was having a girl -- he said, "I know, I can tell by your face."

WTF does that mean? I got ugly? Geez!

I've also gotten:
"How much weight have you gained?"
"Are you peeing a lot?"
"What are you craving?"
"Better take good care of those kids in there," (I'm pg with a singleton, definitely...)

There must be a book somewhere that people read that has all these wonderful things in there, where else would people get half this stuff from?!?
post #29 of 64
8/14/08 at 5:46pm
When I told the ladies at my stitching group (who are older than me by at least 25 years) that I was pregnant, the often obnoxious, outspoken lady (who is at least 70 and loves tanning beds ) said, "Was it planned?"

Uh, no. I've only been talking about TTC for over a year. Yeesh.
This is the same woman who, after finding out I planned to use a m/w with our daughter, gave me The Look. I'm sure all of you know what I'm talking about.

Of course, 2 years later, here we are planning another m/w assisted birth and THIS time--horrors!--we're planning a HOMEBIRTH!!! I can't wait to see her eyes pop out of her head when I mention that.
post #30 of 64
8/15/08 at 9:44am
<<"Your doctor LET you go this long?"

Thank you. Because I was not aware that I had to ask permission to use my own vagina.<<

LOLOLOLOL!

My last baby was at 43 weeks. A gigantic and dangerous 7 lb-er.
post #31 of 64
8/15/08 at 10:22am
okay, so this one wasn't in any book, just the (drunk? deranged? just really annoying?) brain of one man...at least, I hope so! But I have to share.

As I was walking out a restaurant, a man sitting on the restaurant's patio yelled,

"You have a big swelling! You should get that looked at by a doctor right away!"

I dunno if he was trying to be funny or what.
post #32 of 64
8/15/08 at 1:41pm
we get asked the NAME all the time!!! ppl are so impatient. we don't tell the names b/c then we'll get the inevitable "oh i knew a _____ and he was such a ___________."

i've had the "beached whale" comment. that really hurt.
post #33 of 64
8/15/08 at 1:57pm
DS (5) blurted out to our neighbor that he was going to be a big brother.

Our neighbor said, "Really? Sheesh, if life wasn't bad enough."

And of course the family wants to hear names so we tossed a few out there that we were thinking of and they didn't like them. They proceeded to tell me what they thought we should name the baby and I just told them that it's my baby, my body, and I make the damn decisions. If it's a girl it will be Gretel and if it's a boy he will be Hansel. They shut up fast

So far nothing else but, if anything rude is said again you better believe I will NOT be holding my tongue.
post #34 of 64
8/16/08 at 12:57am
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Originally Posted by Jojo F. View Post
And of course the family wants to hear names so we tossed a few out there that we were thinking of and they didn't like them. They proceeded to tell me what they thought we should name the baby and I just told them that it's my baby, my body, and I make the damn decisions.
I had an old friend pull this one on us. When we mentioned the name we chose, he replied "oh don't name him that, I'm so sick of people and their need to give unique names."

Now I know there's some hollywood trend about unique names (hasn't there always been?) HOWEVER, I am nothing if not unique in everything that I do. I'm the complete reverse of everything everyone thought I "should" be and have done everything opposite of what I "should" be doing, and have found success in both. So how is a unique name for our child such a surprise? And it's not like it's a weird name, like Popcorn or TutiFrutiinHawaii or whatever my sister saw on the news. It's actually quite powerful and rolls wonderfully off of the tongue.

My reply was that unless this child is born with a vagina, that's the name he's getting.
post #35 of 64
8/16/08 at 1:55am
I know what name was in the news!!!! Talula Does The Hula From Hawaii!!!! Yup, that's the whole name.
post #36 of 64
8/16/08 at 11:44am
Quote:
"You have a big swelling! You should get that looked at by a doctor right away!"
Ok it was totally obnoxious that he yelled that out, but it probably would have made me laugh.

Anyone who asks this child's name from now on I'm going to say that we are calling him Talula does the Hula from Massachusetts.
post #37 of 64
8/19/08 at 11:56am
I feel you guys on the name thing. I’ve been swatting people off by saying “We have a choice between a few names, but we’re going to wait until she gets here”. But I was feeling a little down and stupidly told my mom the name (and she’s probably gonna tell everyone else now). Her response? “That sounds like one of those made up names”. Even though I told her it’s a name of an archangel. Ugh. Then the rest of the day she’s like:

“You know that one girl that died but maybe didn’t, Anastasia? I like that name.”
“Isn’t Nadia Russian? I like that name.”
“You know my sister’s name meant ‘good luck for life’.”
“Is someone named after me yet? Oh, I forgot, that’s K’s (my niece) middle name. Oh well.”




Another thing that annoys me (I'm sure many of us hear it all the time): Yeah, you'll do that natural thing until that labor starts. Then you'll want that epidural.

One other thing I hear: "You are sooo tiny! I blew up when I had my kid/you're only as big as I am now". Um, what am I supposed to say? I'm a nice person but bad with words of flattery.

More jewels from my mom:

“You’re not the only person in the world that’s pregnant!”
(When I was really tired my first trimester) “You keep being tired and your husband is going to find a girlfriend”
“You aren’t that big, you can crawl under the bed and get my shoes for me”
(When I was considering asking for a decrease in my work hours because I’m pregnant)“Working 50 hours up until you give birth should be fine. N had her baby at work!” (Yeah, active labor in front of my coworkers would make a great impression)

Ok, I'll stop while I'm only a little :
post #38 of 64
8/19/08 at 3:37pm
Thread Starter 
Something I noticed- people tend to think they can say just about anything to a pregnant woman, as opposed to a nonpregnant person.

Why is that?

Is there just something magical about our portruding bellies that makes us prone to recieving tactless comments?

There are just so many tacky tones in comments that are said to us that would never be said to my grandma, sister or cousin...

I think we can come to the conclusion that tact apparently does not apply to pregnant women

-Caitrin
post #39 of 64
9/11/08 at 6:42pm
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Originally Posted by mamagemini View Post
I feel you guys on the name thing. I’ve been swatting people off by saying “We have a choice between a few names, but we’re going to wait until she gets here”. But I was feeling a little down and stupidly told my mom the name (and she’s probably gonna tell everyone else now). Her response? “That sounds like one of those made up names”. Even though I told her it’s a name of an archangel. Ugh. Then the rest of the day she’s like:

“You know that one girl that died but maybe didn’t, Anastasia? I like that name.”
“Isn’t Nadia Russian? I like that name.”
“You know my sister’s name meant ‘good luck for life’.”
“Is someone named after me yet? Oh, I forgot, that’s K’s (my niece) middle name. Oh well.”




Another thing that annoys me (I'm sure many of us hear it all the time): Yeah, you'll do that natural thing until that labor starts. Then you'll want that epidural.

One other thing I hear: "You are sooo tiny! I blew up when I had my kid/you're only as big as I am now". Um, what am I supposed to say? I'm a nice person but bad with words of flattery.

More jewels from my mom:

“You’re not the only person in the world that’s pregnant!”
(When I was really tired my first trimester) “You keep being tired and your husband is going to find a girlfriend”
“You aren’t that big, you can crawl under the bed and get my shoes for me”
(When I was considering asking for a decrease in my work hours because I’m pregnant)“Working 50 hours up until you give birth should be fine. N had her baby at work!” (Yeah, active labor in front of my coworkers would make a great impression)

Ok, I'll stop while I'm only a little :
Wow and I thought my mom was annoying, your mom sounds mean. Like a preggo woman needs to hear all that.:
post #40 of 64
9/11/08 at 6:59pm
I've only been PG for a few weeks, but my fav so far is when I tell them I'm pregnant they say

"well, shit happens"
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