Originally Posted by riversong
Mama, I'm not in your ddc, but I wanted to respond. From what I've read, thighs lifting off the seat does not mean that your dd needs to be FF. Many mamas on here have their kids cross their legs and keep them RF. If she's under the weight limit, you're probably fine to turn her back to RF. You might want to ask this question in the Family Safety forum. There are lots of CPSTs there who are very knowledgeable.
This is my understanding, too. Thighs are not as important as necks.
Can you put a rearfacing seat behind the drivers or passengers seats in your car? Center is the safest position, so you're supposed to have your least protected child there. If your older child is remaining ff, or say if you have older kids in a booster or seat belt, then that child should get the center. The rf infant being most protected gets one of the outboard seats. Also, I have heard about the drivers side being slightly statistically better than the passenger side, but it's a very slight difference. If there are other concerns, like the driver not being able to position the seat in a comfortable and safe manner, then that should be considered.
/not a cpst, just a geek