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post #41 of 52
I think that these kids of comments are just from a lack of societal understanding of the importance and natural course of breastfeeding. It's unfortunate and often people DO see things a little differently when they are actually exposed to it; that's our job! Maybe we wouln't hear it so much when more mothers continue to practice CLW. We can always hope!
post #42 of 52
I learned a long time ago that the true voice of someone's opinion is what comes after the "but." Seems like that's the case here.
post #43 of 52
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Originally Posted by Meredith&Alexander View Post
I learned a long time ago that the true voice of someone's opinion is what comes after the "but." Seems like that's the case here.
Oooh, this is good. A simple rule for decoding opinions.

Em
post #44 of 52
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Originally Posted by neostudded View Post
I was wondering what other mothers who practice Child led weaning think of comments like this,

"I am pro breastfeeding/nursing, but when they get to/can do/become X age, that is time to stop."

I have heard this comment several times and I think it is laughable.:

Ahem So, let me know what you think?
Well, since it technically isn't a question, it doesn't require a response. Folks are entitled to their opinions. That said, I'm pro-breastfeeding but when a child is filling out their college entrance applications, well, it is time to stop!


sarah, whose mom just called to ask whether or not there was a plan to wean the 3.5 year old since there isn't another sibling on the way to dry up the milk.
post #45 of 52
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Well, since it technically isn't a question, it doesn't require a response. Folks are entitled to their opinions. That said, I'm pro-breastfeeding but when a child is filling out their college entrance applications, well, it is time to stop!

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I draw the line at nursing a child old enough to fill out there own college applications And I'm very firm with this boundry...

Deanna
post #46 of 52
yeah i totally agree. most of the moms who make that comment have no idea what they are talking about.

i was all gungho for CLW - but i was surprised when my dd was 1 and i was still bfeeding. even though i believed in CLW i somehow thought our bfeeding relationship would last one year.

hah!!! she is almost 6 and still nursing. no matter that my milk dried up 3 years ago.

i make it a point to let moms know that i am still nursing. i know it still shocks some of my non parent but would AP if they had kids friends. not that they are prejudiced. but they dont see it and its so rare that it stands out
post #47 of 52
I also used to think that it was "weird" to still be breastfeeding a child who could verbalize his or her request. I have no idea why I thought it was weird. Just society's affect on me I suppose. I can't imagine weaning my son who was verbalizing his request for "nookie" (nursie) at 13 months. He'll be two in November and still gets that goofy nursie laugh when he sees my breasts. It's so precious. :
post #48 of 52
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Originally Posted by Mommoo View Post
I also used to think that it was "weird" to still be breastfeeding a child who could verbalize his or her request. I have no idea why I thought it was weird.
Indeed, when I look back I can't find actual logic to this way of thinking. It has no real basis for existing. Truly, it's almost as if it's just a clever catch line that I heard somewhere and decided made sense...

Ugh, I'm still mortified that I ever uttered those words.

Em
post #49 of 52
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Originally Posted by SleepyMamaBear View Post
"when they are too old to ask for it, then its time to stop"
I have not been approached with this yet about my 2 yo, which shocks me. But seeing as how I used to be one who thought the same thing I understand. Heck I have even said it about my kids. The great thing about nursing a baby is that they don't start out as a 2 yo. It's the most natural thing in the world to nurse a newborn, and then poof you look down one day and they are 2 and it still seems the most natural thing in the world.
My plan for this comment is to say "She has been asking for it since the minute she was born, the only difference is now she speaks our language." And then I'll quote the WHO recommendation.
post #50 of 52
I heard this from my MIL not too long ago. I asked her what the difference was between her asking to nurse and asking for milk (or anything else) from a cup. She had no answer.
post #51 of 52
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Originally Posted by MommyJoia View Post
you can't take those comments too seriously, they are quite often made by someone who has no clue what they are talking about.
I agree. Too many CLW'ers themselves have said this kind of thing once. It's a problem with society and not the individuals, I think.

I've only seen two toddlers nursed IRL (besides my own). I picked up my book The Experience of Breastfeeding two days ago and flipped through the pictures. The pictures were nice but they all showed babies breastfeeding. Some photos showed toddlers watching babies nurse, but it was clear that they were "too old" to nurse. Seeing babies breastfeed sort of seemed strange to me in a way Like it was so long ago that DD was a baby, I'm much more accustomed to the idea of toddlers nursing!

When I was 17, an Iranian guy told me he nursed until age 4. I don't recall my exact words, but "Gross" was probably pretty close.

When I was pregnant, I was totally gung-ho on nursing, but couldn't imagine wanting to nurse past age 2. I mean, I was commited to that age but assumed it would be torture or something to do it, and wouldn't commit to more than 2 years. My midwife kept kind of pressuring me to extend that limit. Looking back, she must have really not understood this dynamic. Especially for a woman who has never breastfed before, they have NO CLUE what it's going to be like. It's both harder and easier than you would ever think. One big thing is that my nipples were super sensitive (in a bad way) during pregnancy so the idea of anyone touching them was repulsive to me. Surely I'm not the only one.

DD is 3 now and nursing is easy breezy. Sure, sometimes I don't want to do it - not because I don't want to nurse but for example we're ready to go out and I want to GO and not spend 10 extra minutes nursing right this second. But when I nurse her, I don't see a kid far too old to nurse. She's not a baby anymore (but she WAS a baby at age 2) but it just seems like the most natural thing in the world.

And that's the perspective that people who say things like that lack.
post #52 of 52
i have uttered those words as well. and as of right now, my cutoff point is 2 years. but that is because that is what i feel is right for me and my son. people are entitled to their own opinions and comfort levels.
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