It reminds me a bit of when I was running a small drama group... not someone trying to steal the *teacher* as it was me, but in invitinng others along. Someone invited another family... then that family invited another couple of families and so on... we ended up with a huge unruly group, too many kids, too many ages, just totally impractical for me to handle... and the other mother's didn't really want to help much as they said they didn't know anything about drama. My mum ended up coming along to help do things with the little kids- which another mum could really easily have done- and in the end it just became too uncoordinated and hopeless, and most of the original families I'd invited dropped out, and I cancelled it altogether a few weeks later. Quite disappointing.
The other thing about it that made me annoyed is that every family paid their share of the hall hire (we divided by number of families, not per child, to help big families) and one of the mum's said as she wasn't going to come along, but would just send her 4 kids with her friend- who already had 6 kids there btw- then her family shouldn't have to pay... they could just go in on the other family's share! Not on! That just wasn't fair on everyone else... especially as she wasn't a family I asked to come, had fairly high needs kids she expected me to try to deal with, without her there, and wasn't in financial hardship or anything. Ah well... these things happen I guess.
Sorry you're dealing with this mama... trying to organise things like this often seem to backfire in some way!
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