Saturday Postpartum thread

[~Megan~]

I don't know how things are in your area but its freaking hot here! We went to my inlaws for Friday evening, but came home for bed, to soak in their A/C as we don't have it here. Saturday is going to be our third day in a row of heat over 100. I'm ready to go back down to 70!

We are having ds' birthday party today as well. My kids are 9 days apart. I'm glad they didn't end up closer as it would make birthdays more difficult. Some have suggested that they share parties but I think that defeats the purpose of a birthday, a day to feel special and unique.

I'm doing alright healing wise. We only have dh for 4 more days until he goes back to work. This time has flown by I don't look forward to flying solo. I've enjoyed being able to sleep in and get some semblance of sleep.

I was talking to my midwife about some symptoms I've been having and she thinks I might have vaginal varicose veins. It sounds so gross and doesn't feel great either. I need to do some reading up on it. Has anyone experienced it?

[Alathia]

You are always awake at late hours!

It's hot here as well. We're having a "heat wave" (of I think 4 whole days) and the temps today are suppose to be in the mid-90s. Tomorrow should be cooler, knock on wood. My H was suppose to stay home for two weeks, but due to work emergencies he's worked two days this week and goes back on monday. I'm not too excited about handling both kids on my own, esp. with being not able to drive anywhere!

Nursing is going great, but Albert seems to have his days/nights mixed up. Last night and tonight he was up for 2-3 hours in the wee hours of the morning and it's making me oh so tired. So why aren't I crashed out in bed now? Oh the irony!

I think my c/s scar is infected, it looks red and is oozing a bit. If the pain doesn't get better I might have to call into my midwives to see what's the what. Grrrrr

[miztrezzlyn]

Hiya!

Yesterday, Jovie turned 2 weeks old. DH went back to work last Monday and I gotta tell you it has been a very rough week. I am pretty sure I have some kind of PPD going on, which sucks.

I find myself either crying or on the verge of tears all the time Its just very hard, since Tristan has been wanting to nurse EVERY time that Jovie does, and he has also been doing a lot of tantrum throwing.

I feel really overwhelmed and am worried about how Tristan is feeling about all of this. I think he feels sort of pushed to the side, even though I am trying my very best to still give him lots of attention. He's just used to being "the baby" and now he's not. I feel guilty because I feel sort of "disconnected" from Tristan and also worried that I don't have the same bond with Jovie that I did with Tristan when he was born.

My DH is great and is worried about me. He definately does not like to see me crying all the time and has been trying to take one of the little ones while I spend time/do my thing with the other, but they always both seem to need me at the same time.

/sigh

Anyway the BF'ing is going great, I have plenty of milk for the both of them, just hard trying to do both at once. I've been getting enough sleep, since thankfully Jovie sleeps incredibly well co-sleeping with us.

[Qalliope]

DH went out with friends last night and left me alone with the kids for the first time. This morning I told him I felt kind of depressed and frantic at the same time, and in need of a break from being cooped up, so we all walked to the farmer's market and then to the coffee shop on the way back. I bumped into friends there and was able to show off the baby and chat for a while; DH entertained ds and held dd, and was all around wonderful for me. It felt so good to get some fresh air. It's odd to hear you folks up in the Pacific northwest are having a heat wave, while here in the midwest I get the blessed relief of highs in the low to mid 80s and nighttime temps around 60. Isn't it normally the other way around this time of year? And the pregnancy hormones that were making me feel like I was going to boil over are gone, so it has felt amazing to go out and get some fresh air. I feel like I haven't left the comfort of the a/c in 6 weeks.

Ds is adjusting okay to the new baby, except when he's tired. His loneliness comes to the surface, and he just starts screaming about everything. He loves his new little sister, but I know he feels left out to some extent. I am trying to take as much time as I can for just him, and show greater interest in his ideas and activities, because I can always talk to him while I hold the baby, even if I can't play. Things are slowly smoothing out as we find a balance.

And Sylvie is sleeping for longer blocks of time now, so I get a little more for myself and a little more for ds. I know for me, these first six weeks will be the hardest, at least emotionally. So just taking one day at a time and trying not to worry about anything.

[veronicalynne]

Originally Posted by miztrezzlyn

Hiya!

Yesterday, Jovie turned 2 weeks old. DH went back to work last Monday and I gotta tell you it has been a very rough week. I am pretty sure I have some kind of PPD going on, which sucks.

I find myself either crying or on the verge of tears all the time Its just very hard, since Tristan has been wanting to nurse EVERY time that Jovie does, and he has also been doing a lot of tantrum throwing.

I feel really overwhelmed and am worried about how Tristan is feeling about all of this. I think he feels sort of pushed to the side, even though I am trying my very best to still give him lots of attention. He's just used to being "the baby" and now he's not. I feel guilty because I feel sort of "disconnected" from Tristan and also worried that I don't have the same bond with Jovie that I did with Tristan when he was born.

My DH is great and is worried about me. He definately does not like to see me crying all the time and has been trying to take one of the little ones while I spend time/do my thing with the other, but they always both seem to need me at the same time.

/sigh

Anyway the BF'ing is going great, I have plenty of milk for the both of them, just hard trying to do both at once. I've been getting enough sleep, since thankfully Jovie sleeps incredibly well co-sleeping with us.

I can relate. I have a 1 1/2 year old...Tamara who is not happy having to share num nums with her baby brother. She will get on the floor and cry and tantrum (more distress than tantrum) and it breaks my heart. I hate having to ask her to wait until baby is finished. I dont like having to nurse both of them at the same time though I will do that at night and I did let her do that today because she was so distressed. I just started crying and crying yesterday worrying about her. And now I am worried about her big sister Yasmeen. Yasmeen is 3 1/2 (and not nursing thankfully though she has asked as a joke...I think I would go nuts with 3) and I noticed yesterday that since Jaffer came home, Yasmeen will tell me "I love you" at least 30 times a day (no exaggeration here) so I will respond the same back to her. I am thinking she is feeling a little insecure also and that is making me cry too. I am doing my best to give all of them attention but when I see my girls so sad it really hurts. Yasmeen does love Jaffer and is constantly kissing him and Tamara seems to be slowly warming up. Today when they were tandem nursing I noticed that Tam was touching Jaffers little hand and it make me cry tears of happiness for once. It is not that I am depressed but I am seeing how this is affecting my girls and I dont know how else I can help them kwim? And it is just the hormones I think.....I am ultra sensitive to anything hubby says......well today he went to far telling me I hadnt lost any weight....I know I have but honestly Jaffer is 11 days old....How fast am I supposed to lose the weight. I am ok with losing it slowly but when I hear comments like that it hurts kwim?

[Shiloh]

I belong here
I belong here
I belong here
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nursing is going well and I am overjoyed not to be pregnant or in prodromal purgatory anymore...Sigh!!!

[veronicalynne]

[Mamatolea]

Ethan is nursing like a champ. We went to the dr for his pediatrician newborn visit and he had only lost 3oz in his first week, so I am not as worried about our breastfeeding relationship as I was with DD(since we had to stop nursing at 3 months due to complications). I am very happy it is working out!

He also has his day and nights a little comfused. He gets up at like 4am and wants to nurse forever. He falls back asleep, but if I try to take him off the boob, he wakes up and whines until I put him back! I am losing my mind, and I am still afraid to fall asleep with him nursing since I have such big boobs! And DD is being so cute, she sees him nursing and says, "num nums!" and she has picked the boob up and put it in her mouth a couple of times to suck. LOL She doesn't like it, but she likes the concept! Too funny!

But he is very sleepy alot and kind of yellow, so we are sunning and nursing like crazy to avoid jaundice problems.

[robertandenith]

yay Shiloh!!!

we just got back from a day at a park (bday party) and it was refreshing! I actually enjoyed been out even though it was hot, but the baby was so good and the girls behaved very good too. I expected a bit of chaos but I guess I was wrong. The baby hates the car seat though but there is nothing I can do poor Robertico, he was crying so much when we first put him in there until the car started running, then he fell sleep.

I feel great today, the walk and the outing helped me so much... I been suffering from cabin fever so it was so nice to be out outdoors in front of a lake with our good friends

[AKA_PI]

Shiloh, congrats again! I know you are so happy.

My grandmother surprised me and came into town for a visit for the weekend to see the baby. I was so happy to see her! Next thing I know, aunts, uncles, cousins, and friends were all here. I had a house full of people to visit Kendall. Not to mention my grandmother brought my little 5 month cousin Kamari with her. Such a wonderful day. Unfortunately since it's raining, I can't take Kendall out of the house since everyone is gathering at my parent's house for a martini night (dang it!). Tomorrow my mom is cooking a huge Sunday dinner before driving my grandmother back home (she lives two hours away). This will be my first time leaving the house so it will be tons of fun.

Kendall hasn't nursed well at all today but I keep putting on the boob anyway. Hey, I'll take one good day to every 3 bad days. The doc and midwives say any little bit is a great bit so we'll take that and be thankful.

He was up and down all night but once DP and I put him in bed with us at 5 am, he was knocked out. DP and I FINALLY had some "adult time" last night (it was great even if it only benefited him) but we cuddled and spooned all night. It was so nice. I've missed sleeping on his chest on him spooning me and holding my hand. : Sigh. Such a wonderful evening. Tonight he's playing the new Madden game (men and their toys) and I plan to spend the evening surfing the net.

Such a great day...