Ok, I am trying to make a really long story short. I had as child with health issues 4 years ago. He had a cleft lip and palate along with other anomalies. I attended a local "support group" at our local hospital. Well, my baby was failure to thrive. A particular LC took interest in our case and felt that I must have been neglecting or harming my child. She also worked for the county through WIC. She had me sign up for wic, had a health nurse come out, and basically got two different people to call CPS on us through backdoors, so that it was never her who did it. I found our it WAS all coming through her through one of my son's specialist who happened to be friends with this lady's(the LC) boss. So, of course I quite attending this support group. I EP'd for my son for 6 more months, btu was really scared my milk was making him not grow, so I put him on a medical grade formula(with Dr.'s reccomendation of course). NOw, had this lady never questioned my every move with my son and making me feel inferior in her doing, I'd have deffinately pumped longer. I was dying for him to nurse. He never did. Ended up tube fed, etc. He still is.
Anyway, I had another child this past year(she's almost 1 now!). I reluctantly went back to this group because I was having a hard time getting her latched on. I delivered at a hospital about 45 minutes away because we were worried that something might be wrong with her, given my son'd history. Well, she was healthy and still is. I did, however develop a heart block and was feeling pretty horid after delivery. I went to this public support group for help. I did not want them to weigh the baby and I refused to sign the new release they now have that they can share your info. with WIC, etc(something not in place when I had my son). THis particular LC did not used to be there most of the time. ANyway, she wasn't there at first and all was well, I was socializing with other mom's, etc. One LC who I LOVE, helped me latch my daughter, life was good. I just ignored the ignorant one when she came in. WEll, at the end, she asked to speak with me. She told me I was not welcome back. I was shocked. I told her I thought that was really immature and dumb. She just shrugged. I then went outside and cried to another mom who I knew from when my son was there(she had a new baby as well).
A hospital worker heard what happened and said "I know this is not what our hospital stands for" and got the LC's supervisor to meet with me in "guest relations" After I cried to her for a few minutes, she had the LC come in to "defend" herself. SHe looked through me the whole time and was totally emotionless while I am blubbering. I didn't get into the heart condition I had aquired but they stood by me not being allowed back. They said that because my husband threatened to sue, their legal dept. didnt' want me back. That, I almost had their "baby"(yes, the refer to their program as a "baby") taken away. Now, we did NOT sue. My husband DID say that in anger. He was applying to the police force at the time and lost his opertunity because of an open "neglect" case. It was all ruled out and closed, but it was done to us twice. Non the less, my thought is, they aren't allowed to kick me out of a public group are they? I mean, this seriously eats at me. I HATE what they did to me. I hate that this woman has made me second guess my mothering. I hate that I sat in that office and defended myself. She actually said they couldn't provide the type of "support" that "I" needed. Now, I am no different that any other mama. I do have a special needs child and THREE healthy ones. THis is the only group like this in my area.
Anyway, I want to do something that proves a point. What can I do? ANy ideas. I really want an apology but know I won't get that. I am tempted to go sit outside the door and nurse my healthy, fat, one year old.lol I know that's so dumb. We just overcame sooo many nursing hurdles that I could've used help with and it angers me that they turned me away because of misguided judgement. I mean, this woman totally overstepped her bounds. I know anyone can call CPS, but let them do their job and don't not believe them, the mom, the Dr.'s you spoke to(yes, I even allowed her to call my son's dr.'s at the time) and think your judgement is right over all of them. KWIM?
If nothing else, just send let me know if I make sence and my feelings are valid.
Thanks
Anyway, I had another child this past year(she's almost 1 now!). I reluctantly went back to this group because I was having a hard time getting her latched on. I delivered at a hospital about 45 minutes away because we were worried that something might be wrong with her, given my son'd history. Well, she was healthy and still is. I did, however develop a heart block and was feeling pretty horid after delivery. I went to this public support group for help. I did not want them to weigh the baby and I refused to sign the new release they now have that they can share your info. with WIC, etc(something not in place when I had my son). THis particular LC did not used to be there most of the time. ANyway, she wasn't there at first and all was well, I was socializing with other mom's, etc. One LC who I LOVE, helped me latch my daughter, life was good. I just ignored the ignorant one when she came in. WEll, at the end, she asked to speak with me. She told me I was not welcome back. I was shocked. I told her I thought that was really immature and dumb. She just shrugged. I then went outside and cried to another mom who I knew from when my son was there(she had a new baby as well).
A hospital worker heard what happened and said "I know this is not what our hospital stands for" and got the LC's supervisor to meet with me in "guest relations" After I cried to her for a few minutes, she had the LC come in to "defend" herself. SHe looked through me the whole time and was totally emotionless while I am blubbering. I didn't get into the heart condition I had aquired but they stood by me not being allowed back. They said that because my husband threatened to sue, their legal dept. didnt' want me back. That, I almost had their "baby"(yes, the refer to their program as a "baby") taken away. Now, we did NOT sue. My husband DID say that in anger. He was applying to the police force at the time and lost his opertunity because of an open "neglect" case. It was all ruled out and closed, but it was done to us twice. Non the less, my thought is, they aren't allowed to kick me out of a public group are they? I mean, this seriously eats at me. I HATE what they did to me. I hate that this woman has made me second guess my mothering. I hate that I sat in that office and defended myself. She actually said they couldn't provide the type of "support" that "I" needed. Now, I am no different that any other mama. I do have a special needs child and THREE healthy ones. THis is the only group like this in my area.
Anyway, I want to do something that proves a point. What can I do? ANy ideas. I really want an apology but know I won't get that. I am tempted to go sit outside the door and nurse my healthy, fat, one year old.lol I know that's so dumb. We just overcame sooo many nursing hurdles that I could've used help with and it angers me that they turned me away because of misguided judgement. I mean, this woman totally overstepped her bounds. I know anyone can call CPS, but let them do their job and don't not believe them, the mom, the Dr.'s you spoke to(yes, I even allowed her to call my son's dr.'s at the time) and think your judgement is right over all of them. KWIM?
If nothing else, just send let me know if I make sence and my feelings are valid.
Thanks
). I wish I could think of something creative to do to prove a point, but some people you will never get past I guess. I lesson i learned through this. She has her higher ups believing her.
