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Ouch! BFeeding while pregnant  

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My DS is 22 months and still nurses aggressively at night, mostly I think for comfort. I am a almost like a pacifier, its so often. We co-sleep and so far I have put up with the lack of sleep on occasion and his tossing and turning, because I figure he will self-wean (although I was hoping this would occur before his 2nd birthday!).

To my shock and surprise I found out I was pregnant a few weeks ago. I am about 6-7 weeks along and my breasts are now VERY sore when he nurses. It is almost unbearable. And since I stopped pumping at work back in June, my milk is even less than before, but my little guy keeps on goin'.
DS goes to a Montessori school three days a week and a sitter the other two, so he is in full time daycare and both of us work.

My DH has long been over the co-sleeping arrangement and has not been happy with it. We've tried have heartedly moving DS to his crib mattress on the floor, but it only works for an hour or so. He still wants to nurse and often wants to nurse as soon as I get home from work. He is capable, however, of going to sleep with daddy without nursing for naps and such.
We've done this many times before. However, at night, when I'm there, I try and tell him, "Boobies go night-night," or "boobies are tired," etc, but nothing works, he just screams until I give him my breast again and I go through this major torture on my nipple. I am 44 yrs old and exhausted now that I have this new pregnancy (and quite worried about how I'm going to do it, frankly) that I would like to wean. Any advice that worked for you?

Minaret
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Oh, and one more thing to add: my DH is pressuring me to wean DS. He was ok with it and very supportive up until about 18 months, but since then, he says DS doesn't need my milk anymore, he gets enough nutrition from food and that he wants "his wife back." That is what he often says.

It is true, our intimate relationship has deteriorated since all the nighttime breastfeeding and co-sleeping----sure, we try to fit time in for ourselves to be alone, but its difficult. We have a super energetic toddler that is beyond what we would have imagined. We chase him around all day and he gets into EVERYTHING, I mean everything. It simply exhausts me, and I do most of the work at home, instead of DH. DH is good with helping to put DS down for naps and in the evening, but that is about it. All the rest of the work falls to me and I have a very demanding job during the day and even more demanding at night. Now that I'm pregnant, I'm even more exhausted.

My DH is from Mexico and recently an old Mexican woman that was the mother of one of his friends told him that I shouldn't be breastfeeding my son now that I was pregnant, that it was bad for my son (not my unborn baby).
I know this is a myth, but how do these things get started. And of course she said she knew best because she had six children, breastfeed them and weaned them all, and she told me to stop! I don't believe this story and neither does my DH, but he keeps bringing it up.

I only want to stop now to save my sore breasts and my lack of milk. I guess I am more reluctant to quit for my DH. I don't agree with him.
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