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post #2201 of 2423
Steph, I'm sorry your mom treated you that way.
post #2202 of 2423
Steph,

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, and your lack of support from your mom. I hope you can rest well at home for a bit.
post #2203 of 2423
steph, the book i was thinking of is called about what was lost. and if you feel like crawling under a rock, that's normal.

who else is nursing a 2 yo?
post #2204 of 2423
Oh Steph, I am so sorry for your loss. It is sad too that you were not given the proper environment to enable some healing. I fail to understand the modern day thinking. So sorry your "tribe" could not be there for you when you needed it.
post #2205 of 2423
Thanks, everyone. The good news is that after putting myself out there to about 20 friends, a few of them have volunteered to bring meals, take Calvin for a couple of hours, and one even came over and helped wash our dishes today (we don't have a dishwasher and every dish in our house was dirty). Several different ladies even thanked me for asking for help, which really diminished the feeling of taking advantage of people.

Thanks for the book rec, PiePie.
post #2206 of 2423
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Originally Posted by Sihaya View Post
Thanks, everyone. The good news is that after putting myself out there to about 20 friends, a few of them have volunteered to bring meals, take Calvin for a couple of hours, and one even came over and helped wash our dishes today (we don't have a dishwasher and every dish in our house was dirty). Several different ladies even thanked me for asking for help, which really diminished the feeling of taking advantage of people.

Thanks for the book rec, PiePie.
This is good to read Steph. It's so hard to ask for help - and I imagine even harder after the response you had from your mother.xo

So HOT here folks. Just like when S was newborn. We're cooped up in the house with every blind and window closed. We're in for a killer summer if this is November. What do you do during the day with an almost toddler when it's too hot to leave the house? Currently he's playing with containers of water on the kitchen floor. Fun and cool but not many minutes worth of entertainment in that!
post #2207 of 2423
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who else is nursing a 2 yo?
me! me!
post #2208 of 2423
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Originally Posted by PiePie View Post
who else is nursing a 2 yo?
me too; although it's only once a day before bed and I'm planning on weaning completely in January.
post #2209 of 2423
MMM, we would play outside with a container full of water. Usually at some point she would get in it too. If you have a shady tree to do this under, it's a lot of fun for a good half hour or more. And we'd go outside for walks or to work on the yard early in the morning (like 8-9AM) before it got too hot. Also do you have an air-conditioned bookstore/library nearby that you could go to for an hour or so? Maev always loves that. During the hottest hours we'd stay inside and play with her toys/read books. When I was pregnant we'd watch movies.
post #2210 of 2423
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Originally Posted by PiePie View Post

who else is nursing a 2 yo?
Still nursing
some days it's
other days it's

Hugs Steph. Glad you found ladies who were happy to help out!
post #2211 of 2423
Good ideas, thanks Maela. Playing in the garden and tending the vegie patch in the early morning on these days is my complete joy. So is going to the pool at the end of the day! Now if only I could find enough inside activities between 9 and 5! But your library suggestion is a good one - and works beautifully with the pool plan because it's across the road! We also spent the 20 bucks and got him a clam shell splash pool which he thinks is pretty cool!
post #2212 of 2423
[QUOTE=arelyn;14655708]Still nursing
some days it's
other days it's
[/QUOTE

yes, or rather, it's both at different times of the same day.
post #2213 of 2423
DS is almost 2.5 now and still nursing quite a bit. We just started night weaning a few weeks ago. (Nurse to sleep and then bubbies go to bed until the sun comes up.) Which has resulted in a couple nights of him waking up and crying and me having to walk with him, get him some water, etc. But for the most part he's started sleeping through. [Which is about 8 hours, since the sun comes up well before we get up & he goes to bed late]
We don't nurse at activities anymore (except church, doctor's waiting rooms, etc. when I just need him to be still and quiet whatever it takes) so On busy days he may not nurse at all, takes cat naps in the car. But when we are home he nurses at least every hour and takes 2+ hour naps in my lap or in bed with me where he dream feeds almost the whole time.

Sometimes I get tired of it. but overall am pretty glad he is still nursing. Especially with all the colds and everything, it really seems to help him not get hit so hard. He had H1N1 flu in August and it was so mild compared to DH and the man who lives with us.
Also it's the fastest way to diffuse a meltdown.
post #2214 of 2423
Ugh, I didn't think about H1N1. Maybe January would be a bad time to wean? Or does nursing once a day for 3 minutes even help?
I'm just really ready to be done nursing her. I've never had a problem seeing people nurse their 2 yo's and older, and I thought I would be fine going to 3yo with my own; but lately she just seems so old. It doesn't feel right, and it bothers me. It might just be having a newborn to compare her to, but if I still feel the same way in December, we'll be weaning completely in January.


Dh is cleaning our bathrooms right now! They haven't been cleaned since the day before Jaim was born.
post #2215 of 2423
i have been having mixed feelings on weaning/ebf. i know that for me the first step is developing clarity about what i want. i now think that i am not ready to wean. i believe it is really important to her emotionally -- she kisses the boobs good-bye -- and i also have discerned that for me, as of today, the inconvenience (she is big, damn near impossible to nurse and carry without a sling, and front carries aren't sustainable for my back based on her weight, which is at least 25 pounds. even sitting on the subway with her facing me means her feetsies intrude into the space belonging to the people on either side of us. but i love lying in bed with her nursing her and feeling her warmth as she falls asleep on my arm -- that feeling is the meaning of life! and i do love how quickly it diuffses a meltdown. i think it is 1 reason my kid has hardly any tantrums compared to most 2 yos.

in other, certainly related news, bfn this morning.
post #2216 of 2423
Oh my stars, this is a hard job. DS is kicking my ass. I am not being a patient, gentle, calm parent right now. My kid is on the verge of walking and I am really hoping that the screaming is frustration which will dissipate as soon as that happens. What I'm fearful of is that this is what our toddler years are going to look like. He has a shocking temper. He's back to waking every hour all night long. He only naps in a moving car. I am not going to survive.

I have just put him in his crib - where he NEVER goes, has never slept - and closed the door. I am letting my baby scream and I hate it but I can't do anything else.

Tell me it gets better.
post #2217 of 2423
it does get better. N is like that before every physical break through-she's easily frustrated and takes it out on mama. I, too, have had my leave them somewhere safe and walk away moments. it's completely overwhelming.
post #2218 of 2423
MMM - You are a good parent. I *try* to remind myself during hard times such as these that it will all change in a few days or at least weeks. Usually I get so upset because I am thinking that this is how it's going to be for the rest of my life and then I remember he/she will probably change in days/weeks. The great thing about parenting is that things change so often! What's hard one month changes to something else being hard the next month. I know that's really hard to remember during the rough times, though. I'm working on that right now. I just keep telling myself this too shall pass.

right now Dh and I are in complete agreement that we will only have two kids. Maybe we'll change our minds in a couple of years. I don't think so...
post #2219 of 2423
MMM, a big It does feel completely overwhelming when you can't seem to solve their needs, no matter what. It will pass, I promise.
post #2220 of 2423
mujerista, the toddler years are terrific, be not afraid. a bit of perspective: the time is nigh when he will no longer look like a baby, so get that shutter clicking mamacita!
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