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Shanna, that is nutso. Well, I was coming here to say I didn't think it was your period. TCOYF (and another book, the Art of NFP) say to ignore any bleeding that occurs in the first 56 days post-partum. I know you are close to that, but I was going to say maybe it's just the very end of pp bleeding. At any rate, it also says that if your period returns within 6 weeks, (mainly for non-EBFing women) it is very unlikely that ovulation occurred before it.


I have so much more to say, but wish I had more time....


I know I'm in the minority here, but I think I will be comfortable using FAM long-term. It worked well for us for 4 years. I *know* it is not nearly so easy to use after having a child though. (I can't call this pregnancy a failure of that method, since it wasn't really being implemented, and I was so clearly at the middle of my cycle ). But IUD and vasectomy both creep me out, and fortunately V. is not at all an option since DH is not interested. I am bothered by the fact that the PP website and a few others post such high failure rates for FAM. These are user failure rates, not method failure. Anyway.....


TJ, so exciting that your wedding is coming up so soon! Congrats, and have fun!
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we haven't quite figured out "final" BC either. i do FAM very well and enjoy it; Dh doesn't completely trust it so he uses condoms as back up. he says he's happy with it, and i'm not unhappy with it, so it will likely be this.

oops! gotta jump offline to get a phone call.

love "ya'll" amd hope everyone is having a great holiday season so far. (we are doing awesome here, thx!)
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Are you pg???????
no, but i'm thinking about it...
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Originally Posted by ~Shanna~ View Post
Definately started my period. Which is nuts, it didn't come back until at least 18 months with Fenton, but I think it was longer. And definately longer than 6 weeks. The really nutso part is that I would have felt conservative using lac. annom. for only 6 months. I could have been possibly pregnant again by now .

Wonder why it came back so soon. Reece goes longer stretches, especially at night, but don't think it was much different with Fenton at this point. Worried about my milk supply .
I bled for 3 days at 10 week pp and then not again until last month (~11mths)... ??
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I am pretty down about ttc'ing and crazy late or annovulatory cycle.

something is wrong with dd and i am not sure what it is. clingy, impatient. overtired? bothered by dh's business trips? bothered by our working?
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pie pie, it sounds like you're under a lot of stress, could be contributing to late O. (I know, tat's like someone admonishing you to relax ) Are you charting or using predictor kit?

I'm so sorry that L isn't feeling like herself . I read your thread regarding, and could only come up with waking up early to spend time together, but a) that's at odds with real life and b) i've found that when F is in that place, nothing is ever enough . It could be that being with her in her suffering, doing exactly what you're doing, is what she needs. Will you have time off over holidays to see if more time together helps? I doubt she's clingy because you're working, but I understand mama guilt. my first thought when Fenton is sad and clingy is wondering if staying at home doesn't give him enough opportunity to grow in independance . We're damned no matter what we do.
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PiePie I'm so sorry things aren't going well for you right now. I wish I had advice to give...


bad news: Jaim is sick with whatever Maev had I think. we all slept poorly because of it. Calling the dr this morning. He's only ten weeks. Maev didn't get her first cold until she was almost six months.

good news: there is the most beautiful rainbow outside here right now!!
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I just realized that I've been unsubscribed from this thread for two weeks So sad I missed out on all the recent conversations.

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I know I'm in the minority here, but I think I will be comfortable using FAM long-term. It worked well for us for 4 years.
You're not the only one. It is true that every time I've gotten pg we've been CTA with FAM, but both times were definitely a user failure issue, not method failure. And with Calvin, it wasn't user failure so much as user choosing to blatantly disregard the rules I have no interest in other forms of BC so our choice is FAM/NFP or abstinence (which is what we used a lot during Calvin's first year due to my fear of closely spaced babies).

Shanna, I think it could be your period. I wouldn't rule it out, but I wouldn't say it was for sure either. You probably just need to wait it out with the assumption that you're possibly going to ovulate, and see if you get a second period after the 56 day mark. That said, while I got my period back at 11 weeks and had ovulatory cycles every single time thereafter, my body still wasn't fertile enough to sustain a pg until long after my fertility returned. Not sure if that helps at all, but it was my experience.

In this neck of the woods, we are also flirting with the idea of potty training/learning as I see many of you are. I'm waiting for a potty chair to arrive (Calvin's holiday gift from us) and the holiday chaos to subside, and then it's on.

In other news, it looks like I ovulated yesterday, so as soon as I can confirm it, we are officially not avoiding until I give birth Considering that we've been avoiding since I went off of the nuvaring 3 years ago (besides when I was pg of course), it is a hugely freeing prospect to not worry about where I am in my cycle and to be able to throw out the condoms. I'll still be temping and monitoring other fertility signs, but not recording them in chart form until after that cycle is over. I'm still harboring lots of hope of getting pg right away, but trying not to obsess about it.
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i think that ec/early learning techniques are really healthy for the kiddos. they have a greater sense of personal power, i think. and it's far les mess.

now that hawk's tooth is through (one of th e back teeth), he's back to signaling. it's so interesting how he doesn't signal when teeth are coming.
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not charting, just using clear blue easy fertility monitor. not really trying any more as it was too darn stressful. just counting this month as an off month and getting back in the game next time. will still be dealing with dh;s crazy work trips so who knows.

i was right that something was wrong with dd -- she is sick. hence the inarticulate fussing and clinginess. dh and i split today and i will be home with her tomorrow. have asked him to come home early so i can get some needed work calls in but i am not counting on it happening. she has yellow not so solid poop and a mild fever of 99 and was asking to sleep at abnormal times for extra long. in fact i had such a brutal wednesday and dh was all down on me for how short with her i was and then i was like, you'll see when it's your turn tomorrow. and she slept till 9, got up for 20 minutes and did puzzles, and then slept till i got home at 1! (and i was on duty) today she is much less grouchy than yesterday and was running figure eights and dancing tonight so maybe she is on the mend? at any rate i have got to get out of the house tomorrow, assuming she is up for it. thinking library would be low-energy and not involve exposure to other children but would give both of us a much needed change of scene. and then twice she said her ear hurts so maybe i should take her to the ped? again, fever is low, 99.5.

shanna, i think your diapering solution is the bomb. it wouldn't work here because dd poops only once a day if not sick, and never leaks (just doesn't pee as much?) but i think it's a very respectful answer to your conflicts.

i really should tackle the christmas presents needing to be wrapped but i feel wiped.
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So sebby is turning one on Monday and I'm a wreck. Is this normal? I can't stop thinking about his birth and I just can't get enough of him. I feel like a psychotic ex or something!!!
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Totally normal, MMM. i did the same thing.
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So sebby is turning one on Monday and I'm a wreck. Is this normal? I can't stop thinking about his birth and I just can't get enough of him. I feel like a psychotic ex or something!!!
Oh my goodness; he's going to be one already?! Wow.
I'm sure what you're feeling is normal, but I was/am totally the opposite. I'm not much of a baby person, and I was so excited for Maev to turn one. I'm counting down the days until Jaim is one (9.5 more months!). Is that awful? It makes me feel mean sometimes.
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mujer, i cried on her bday, also when she walked. but it gets more fun as they get more words, i promise!

af today. not sure what's up, if it was a very late o and then a very short lp or if it was annovulatory or what. thank god it's over. here's to a better next one! (okay, i am more bummed than that.)
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Sorry about af Piepie. Of course you're bummed. You need to allow yourself to be. It's good that it was a short cycle - a long anovulatory cycle is incredibly frustrating! Also, it is still possible that you O'd normally. This was your first month with the monitor, no? I've heard that is common as the machine is calibrating to your hormone levels. (again, frustrating.) Hopefully it'll work better next time. And, um, you could always try temping a few days just to confirm.
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My biggest pet peeve: People trying to get me (by doing things behind my back, teasing me, lecturing me, or just making me feel like I don't know my own kid) to parent differently than the way Dh and I want to.

Okay, vent over.
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My biggest pet peeve: People trying to get me (by doing things behind my back, teasing me, lecturing me, or just making me feel like I don't know my own kid) to parent differently than the way Dh and I want to.

Okay, vent over.
Ah, the holidays are here

I've had a couple of instances where a coy "you know, I've actually done this before " has worked well and given people an out from their rudeness.
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Not sure if it's *quite* the 22nd there but...
HAPPY BIRTHDAY CALVIN!
Sebby is sending you lots of Christmas birthday love.
xo
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happy birthday to calvin and sebby!
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