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post #681 of 2423
i need to x-post, but any thoughts on discouraging the top-of-the-lungs piercing screaming that my lo has taken to lately?

i've tried ignoring, offering a "safe" place that she can do all her screaming, calmly explaining that it really upsets me, and sternly telling her that she needs to stop it. anyone?? Bueller?
post #682 of 2423
Farmama, sorry no advice. Dd doesn't scream much, unless she's really excited and then it doesn't last long.
Hopefully, someone else has some ideas.


This is a cute thread...
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post #684 of 2423
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Originally Posted by farmama View Post
i need to x-post, but any thoughts on discouraging the top-of-the-lungs piercing screaming that my lo has taken to lately?

i've tried ignoring, offering a "safe" place that she can do all her screaming, calmly explaining that it really upsets me, and sternly telling her that she needs to stop it. anyone?? Bueller?
dd's teachers say "no screaming" and she screams louder!

dh says hoo hoo hoo in a very low but loud voice, hoping she will copy. it has worked once.

i try to figure out what she wants and either give it to her or explain why she can't have it now (usually the thing is that she has to wait, something she is not at all good at).
post #685 of 2423
Thread Starter 
We fly out tomorrow at 7:30 am to go to MIL for xmas. Eek! Never taken Abby on a plane before. Also never BF in public before, so plane will be a 1st.

Still not packed so gotta run but had to say...

MMM, I'm thinking of you!
post #686 of 2423
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Originally Posted by snozzberry View Post
We fly out tomorrow at 7:30 am to go to MIL for xmas. Eek! Never taken Abby on a plane before. Also never BF in public before, so plane will be a 1st.

Still not packed so gotta run but had to say...

MMM, I'm thinking of you!


you've never NIP?!?!?! Wow! How have you managed that? I think our first was when Quinn was a week old, and by 10 months we'd done it hundreds of times. This is not any form of judgment in the least, just amazement!!

Flight will be fine! Quinn's first was at 13 months, he nursed on the way up and slept most of the way, then nursed on the way down. If she's doing any finger foods at all, have those. Raisins helped on the way home when he was awake. We also brought a few "toys" (not official toys per se, just fun things) for him to hold/look at. You'll be fine!
post #687 of 2423
kelly, flying with a baby is easy. all you need is the sling and your boobs. after they start walking it pretty much sucks. on our latest flight, the bigggest help was lift-the-flap books, e..g, where's spot? or where's maisy?
post #688 of 2423
Still here though with much more patience than previously. I've had a hell of a 24hours -

I was risked out of the birth centre by the consulting obstetrician yesterday morning. Just before I left she decided to do an internal where she discovered I was 6cm dilated and 100% effaced. Her conclusion was that I was in labour. She decided that I could go back to the birth centre straight away and they could break my water. Of course, it's against bc policy to intervene in any way, including breaking water. They, however, were happy to let me labour naturally there..YAY! I was back in.

I still wasn't convinced I was actually in labour but foetal monitoring showed that i was having contractions 2 mins apart, I just wasn't feeling them! Everyone was in awe. I was feeling very fortunate.

I called my doula and explained the situation and she came up to the BC for a few hours. Nothing was happening and I was bouncing around happily, still with minimal pain so we decided it would be fine to let her go off to her daughters Christmas concert. By 9.30 last night, still nothing was happening so we asked to come home. The consulting obstetrician said no - that if we left now, there was no coming back to the BC. So, against better judgement, we stayed the night and had a fairly peaceful nights sleep.

When we woke up this morning, I had still not really progressed so it made sense to come home and wait for my water to break. It all seemed very uncontroversial and one ob agreed to let us home. The most superior ob however, not only said I couldn't come home but that I had to be admitted immediately to the HOSPITAL for induction. This despite perfect blood pressure and endless perfect results from monitoring. I got very scared and very shaky. I felt bruised and blackmailed and bullied.

Anyway, after lots of tears and long conversations with our doula and the BC midwives, we made the decision to 'act against medical advice' and come home. The BC midwives were wonderful and have committed to do all they can to keep me with them when I do go into natural labour. They'll prob have to lie to keep me in there which makes me feel pretty lucky.

I feel completely traumatised but I'm also thrilled to be home and thrilled to have yet another opportunity to birth naturally. Even if I do end up getting thrown out of the BC, I will have more chance to birth naturally in hospital than I was being given today! I cannot believe that despite all my knowledge and preparation, I have been trapped in the web of intervention. Sure, thus far I've avoided it but I had to fight every.step.of.the.way. I can't imagine how it is for women who haven't had the opportunity to learn as much as me.

So, I'm actually hoping this boy stays in for a day or 2 longer because I need the time to recover and find some strength. And next time, I am having a homebirth, NO QUESTION!!!

Must go and have a nap. I'm completely drained and it'd be awful to actually go into real labour feeling like this.
post #689 of 2423
MMM, And WOW 6cm 100% effaced?! Did I read that correctly?? I'm glad everything is going well for you, but I'm sorry you had to fight so much. I'll be thinking about you!!!
post #690 of 2423
Oh, and another NO NAP day here. I was in a great, patient mood today though (I think it was the LLL meeting that helped), so it was fine. She conked out at 8PM exactly.

ETA: I'm very afraid that I am going to be pregnant with a 2yo that does not nap at all.
post #691 of 2423
MMM: I have to say, your BC midwives sound awsome!! And I really admire how well you seem to have handled all that. I would be in too much of a state to type about it! You are going to do wonderfully!!
post #692 of 2423
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Originally Posted by farmama View Post
i need to x-post, but any thoughts on discouraging the top-of-the-lungs piercing screaming that my lo has taken to lately?

i've tried ignoring, offering a "safe" place that she can do all her screaming, calmly explaining that it really upsets me, and sternly telling her that she needs to stop it. anyone?? Bueller?
Kai only did that scream when he needed help with something. Even something ridiculously silly, like I threw the ball and want you to throw it back, or the pages in this book are sticking together. I taught him the "help" sign, not really expecting much (it seems like such an abstract concept for a littel guy) and was shocked when he picked it up super fast and now only screams if I'm not looking at him and don't see his frantic signing. But screaming because she likes the sound. That's a whole different kettle of fish! I remember kids at daycare that did that but I don't remember how I dealt with it.
post #693 of 2423
MMM - Stay Strong! :


Kelly, I think you'll do fine. J usually refuses to NIP, but she did alright on the plane. I think she was a little startled by the engine noise during takeoff, so she didn't really hesitate to nurse. Have a good trip!
post #694 of 2423
MMM, you are one. tough. lady. I'm thinking of you constantly, wondering how things are going. Your BC sounds amazing, I have images of your MW chaining themselves to the door of the BC

Your faith in humanity will be in my prayers. The doctors don't know better, so they can't do better. I'm inspired by your strength, and exuberant over all you've managed so far :.
post #695 of 2423
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Originally Posted by snozzberry View Post
We fly out tomorrow at 7:30 am to go to MIL for xmas. Eek! Never taken Abby on a plane before. Also never BF in public before, so plane will be a 1st.
Good luck Kelly! It should be no problem - you probably don't have to see what you're doing as much as you did in the early days. And you'll be surprised how much privacy you have, if you want it, especially if you don't take an aisle seat. Have a wonderful trip - Fenton did great on a plane a year ago. As Pie Pie said, you couldn't pay me to try it with him now!
post #696 of 2423
MMM, what a long strange trip you are having. Kudos for sticking to your proverbial guns, and thank goddess for the BC and midwives you have.

I'm keeping my : for you.
post #697 of 2423
Mujerista, Yes it is a fight, but you have proven that you are a fighter!
post #698 of 2423
Oh, re: screaming, I think Arelyn is right on with teaching the sign for "help." That may be why Dd doesn't scream much. She signs help and uses it a lot.
post #699 of 2423
Hello Mamas!

I want you all to know that I have lurked this thread from the beginning. You all moved on from the NMY thread, and I ended up mostly lurking that one too while DP and I put TTC out of our heads pretty much, to be reevaluated in January 2011. I never even bothered to update my info in the NMY threads to reflect this. For various financial and professional reasons, I was resigned to not starting a family for a few more years. It is because I have lurked so much that I feel like I "know" you all so well, although I'm sure you don't feel the same. But I hope you don't mind that I share with you a little about my life lately. I need the support of mama-friends now more than ever.

On December 1st, my mom died. : Her long journey with early stage Alzheimer's Disease was finally at an end. Even though my mother had been sick for so long, her death still came as a shock. None of my family was expecting it; we all honestly thought -- based on what we knew of the typical progression of Alzheimer's -- that we would have her for at least another couple of years. I can't detail right now about the last months, and how things ended, because it is just too horrific. I am glad she is no longer suffering, but I am left without my mother. Needless to say, I still feel as though I will never stop crying.

Yesterday, December 19th, I got a BFP. This, from a single, sleepless, uncharted, unplanned, low-odds, grief-stricken, emotion-led, reason-absent night during the time of the wake and funeral. Needless to say, I still feel as though I will never stop crying. :

I hope you don't mind if I join you. : Like I said, I need the support of mama-friends now more than ever.
post #700 of 2423
AsYouWish, Yes I remember you!

Wow, what a rollercoaster you've been on this month. I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. We are going through something similar with Dh's grandfather (Alzheimers - it's getting really bad and now his health is deteriorating too). It's really sad, but I can't imagine how much harder it would be if it was my mother.
Congratulations on your BFP! : I don't know your exact situation, but I bet you can make this work in your life. I'm so excited for you!


, Congratulations! and We're here for you!!
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