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post #81 of 2423
Page 2 again!

A question for all you Mama's...Have you felt that your relationship with your DP has been jeopardised or negatively changed since the birth of your DC? I ask because it's probably the biggest worry I have about becoming a Mama. DP and I have had 7 very happy years together with never more than a minor tantrum/argument and only very rarely. I'd be so sad to cave under the pressure of new parenthood.
post #82 of 2423
i think that problems from before become pronounced after. so, i don't anticipate any real problems here.

our relationship has changed. ryan talked with me about how he feels very 'number 2' in my life, but also understands why. he used to be number 1, and of course when october j was dying, he was number 1, but that was temporary.

he just finished reading the continuum concept, and he totally gets how babies become number one, and also how our relationship has to adapt as well. he also read another article somewhere about when fathers really come to the fore in the child-parent relationships, which helped him a great deal.

he is involved, excited, etc--but he has to 'take care of' more things for himself than before. for example, i used to have way more patience for his whining, his piles of mess (clutter) and what not. he used to be able to really vent to me about anything ad infinitum until it was worked out.

not so anymore. i ahve other things on my mind/plate, and so he has to take care of a lot of that on his own. he's found this difficult, and he's found me "cold" because of it, but he's also understanding that my focus is on the baby and preparing for it, so i don't have a lot of physical or emotional energy to manage stuff that, technically, he should be ablet o manage on his own (and can and does, it's just that, before, he'd rely on me for "help").

so, we're finding balance. it's just new.

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oh, and i'm on my friend's computer. guess what? my computer STILL isn't done and they didn't call me to let me know. i was completely ticked about it, and about their attitude. i've called to talk to corporate about it, as well as complained to the manager on site.

it's such a PITA.
post #83 of 2423
Our relationship has changed a bit too, but in an enriching way. DH holds DD and asks her all the time how we lived before she arrived. It's very sweet. It's just one more thing we have in common--that we have this beatiful child together.

Of course, it also helps that DH was able to find work. He says that I'm smiling again.
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Zoe, I'd be raising holy hell! Don't mess with a ready to give birth mother!
post #84 of 2423
steph, that is so sad about your brother. your family must be under incredible stress right now. there are mh issues in my family too but that is more than i can imagine.

mujerista, yes things have changed, but almost 100% for the better. dh is a much more enamored dad than i would have thought possible. to be honest, i feel like i am #2 to dd to him (although he swears otherwise). the only "negative" -- or shall i say, things i want to work on -- changes have been that we don't have really any us time. our sex life is pretty inactive. part of that was my own fears/pain after the birth, part of it was the touched out feeling from nursing and babywearing and cosleeping (that was a relatively small factor, although i thought it would be bigger), a lot of it was that he was working way too hard for some period of time, and a lot of it was that we weren't laying the predicate romance because there was no alone time. so we went on a date on dd's first birthday. 1 date in 12 mos. that's it. my goal is to double that in the upcoming year. other impediments to sex: cosleeping, my falling asleep with dd sometimes when i nurse her down because the hormones are so strong, and of course the need for sleep. honestly i think if we unplugged from the net we might do better in the evenings after she is in bed. also getting the crib set up 10 mos. after the birth means that i can in theory put her down there for naps to give ourselves space.
post #85 of 2423
very rough day for me. left for work super early when dd was still asleep and when i came home somewhat late well before bedtime she was already down. and the judge told us that he wants us on trial till midnight next thursday. ua violation.
post #86 of 2423
Thread Starter 
Baby who's still not napping well, so I didn't have time to read thru all the posts. But I did see all the advice/support for me, and I truly appreciate that, mamas.

Steph, I saw your post about your brother. I'm so sorry.

I really, really need to get some sleep, but just wanted to say one last thing...







OBAMA ROCKS!!!

Did anyone else watch the speech tonight?!?
post #87 of 2423
loved the speech.

does anyone know why "good" nights are sometimes followed by "bad" nights? the night before last, dd woke only once to nurse (i stuck my boob in her mouth for a second session...) then last night she was up for 2 hours squirming and more awake than usual for a nurse. it sucked. i think it's because she didn't see me at all during the day -- her nursing sessions were more than triple their usual length, too -- that she was using nighttime to reconnect.

of course now work is blowing up.
post #88 of 2423
We're back!

zoebird...can't wait to hear some news.

Had a hellish weekend - put my hip out and it got so bad I couldn't walk. Thanks to my osteopath, I'm mobile again but it's gonna take a while before I can walk properly. And, thanks to supple pregnancy joints and hormones, the midwife suspects it's going to keep happening. Oh the joy.
post #89 of 2423
mujerista, glad you're on your feet again. pregnancy sucks but you get good and valuable rewards as soon as it's over! guaranteed...
post #90 of 2423
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Originally Posted by MujerMamaMismo View Post
We're back!

zoebird...can't wait to hear some news.
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Might want to head to Ryan's blog... http://holyembersofdreams.blogspot.com/

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post #91 of 2423
I had a feeling Zoe's baby was here, but I couldn't place when...hooray!!! Happy birthday Hawk!!! And congrats to Jenifer and Ryan!:::
post #92 of 2423
Woohoo! Welcome baby Hawk!: :

Congratulations Jenifer and Ryan!

thanks for the update TJ.
post #93 of 2423
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Originally Posted by cking View Post
Woohoo! Welcome baby Hawk!: :

Congratulations Jenifer and Ryan!

thanks for the update TJ.
Yay!

Welcome Hawk!!!! Congrats ZB & Ryan!!!!


What a cool name! I love it.
post #94 of 2423
wow! you did it! great photos with your ds. the pics of you at 36 vs. 38 weeks show a striking difference. can't wait to hear your story in your own words.
post #95 of 2423
: Welcome Hawk :
& congratulations Jenifer and Ryan.

I can't wait to hear all about the birth.
post #96 of 2423
DD is such a hungry girl. I feel like she is nursing ALL of the time...but it paid off. She weighed 8 lb 12 oz yesterday...a weight gain of 1 pb 10 oz in 2 weeks. Doc's not worried anymore But man, would I like a rest!

Off to reserach delayed vaxes more..doc wants to start on her on them, and I'd rather wait on most, if not all of them until she's 2.
post #97 of 2423
Welcome Baby Hawk!!!!!!!!!! ::::::::::
post #98 of 2423
thanks all!

we're napping in shifts, nursing is a bit of a struggle but we're getting there. hawk is eager, and when the "service" is slow, he is quick to lodge a complaint to management.

he was quite certain that this establishment catered to babies, but now he's not so sure!

right now, we try the breast, scream for 5 minutes, then i give him pumped milk with a dropper (about 3/4-1 oz), and then a bit of water (dr's orders on that one--when did i ever listen? anyway, it makes sense for the now), and then i try to pump and oz or more--whatever i can to create a reserve for the next feeding.

we have a small tube now, and surenge (sp?), to attach to the nipple and see if it will help him make the connection. we've only had one good nursing session--yesterday--but we have hope.

the LLL ladies are really greatl; the leader called today after we were at yesterday's meeting. that was really great.

night time isn't bad either. i'll need to learn some different ways of nrusing (not just sitting up), but we'll get there.

so that's us. not a lot of time here. having a snack before pumping, so i'll probably be reading and pumping while hawk and dad nap!
post #99 of 2423
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Originally Posted by zoebird View Post
thanks all!

we're napping in shifts, nursing is a bit of a struggle but we're getting there. hawk is eager, and when the "service" is slow, he is quick to lodge a complaint to management.

he was quite certain that this establishment catered to babies, but now he's not so sure!

right now, we try the breast, scream for 5 minutes, then i give him pumped milk with a dropper (about 3/4-1 oz), and then a bit of water (dr's orders on that one--when did i ever listen? anyway, it makes sense for the now), and then i try to pump and oz or more--whatever i can to create a reserve for the next feeding.

we have a small tube now, and surenge (sp?), to attach to the nipple and see if it will help him make the connection. we've only had one good nursing session--yesterday--but we have hope.

the LLL ladies are really greatl; the leader called today after we were at yesterday's meeting. that was really great.

night time isn't bad either. i'll need to learn some different ways of nrusing (not just sitting up), but we'll get there.

so that's us. not a lot of time here. having a snack before pumping, so i'll probably be reading and pumping while hawk and dad nap!
Hang in there Zoe Nursing was so hard for us, but once we got it, I was so glad i hung in there. We did finger feeding too.

By the way: He's gorgeous
post #100 of 2423
Dear God, I am in nesting mode for the next baby already.

It has something to do with:
-Planting season is over and I need to stockpile my seeds, and figure out what I need to order this winter. And that is a function of how much food I need 1 1/2 years from now
-Putting up food with this harvest, trying to figure out what to can, freeze, etc.
-Which leads me to fantasize constantly about how I'll stock my freezer for the next one, and plan to have a mothers helper for the next one
-Numerous newborns in my life (thanks Zoe plus my sister is TTC
-We're getting a bigger bed this week, and I'm worried about having spent so much money and it still doesn't solve the issue of how to co-sleep with 2
-Feeling crampy and eggwhitey, with no af in sight...
-Change in academic plans for DH means the world won't end if we get pregnant before January
-I finally saw some action this weekend!

And I have a suspicion that there is an irrational thought process going on here, that if I have another one, DS can't still be so demanding. Which is ridiculous.......

Sooooo......anyone know of traditional food meals that freeze well???
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