Tuesday Postpartum thread - 8/19 - Page 2

[veronicalynne]

Originally Posted by ~Megan~

veronica- can you just lay down with baby and do side lying nursing? Would that keep him happy so you can at least close your eyes?
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Oh he is the sweet easy one.....it is Yasmeen and Tamara who are the problem......I cant lie down with him and leave them downstairs. Yasmeen would be ok but I dont feel comfortable having Tamara downstairs kwim? And if I bring Tam upstairs she will jump on me to bf which normally I would not mind but not when I am trying to rest. I do sleep with Mr. J side lying and nursing during the night and I really find it restful but there doesnt seem to be anyway I can do it during the day with Yasmeen and Tamara around.

[naturegirl]

Oh yes he did. And I already know that when he comes in tonight, he's going to go about his normal rountine and not offer to do shyt. I'm in sort of pissy mood right now because I know this is exactly how it will go. I guess I didn't just have a child. Lord help me!

I have felt this way about my dh from time to time too. I would have been livid if he picked up food just for himself if I was home alone with baby. : Fortunately I have my mom here to help so I don't "need" his help much with the kiddos.

I have to admit, he is working on our house a lot so he isn't doing squat. But it sucks when they don't realize that we need some support too. I would have a chit chat with him and just tell him how you are feeling. I find that if I just nag my dh to do this and that he gets worse...if I express my feelings it isn't as bad and at least we have a semi-decent discussion.

Anyway, just wanted to give you a big and tell you that you aren't alone. Get some friends to help maybe? And it is amazing how the hormonal changes and lack of sleep can really turn your world upside down.

[veronicalynne]

Originally Posted by AKA_PI

Oh yes he did. And I already know that when he comes in tonight, he's going to go about his normal rountine and not offer to do shyt. I'm in sort of pissy mood right now because I know this is exactly how it will go. I guess I didn't just have a child. Lord help me!

I would come straight out and tell him you need help/food etc. Sometimes it seems like men think we are super women and we can do it all and they dont stop to think that maybe we need a helping hand kwim?

Does anyone elses baby cry in their sleep? It is as if he is having a nightmare or something the poor little guy. I just cuddle him and stroke his head when he does that. I dont remember Yasmeen or Tamara doing that at all.

[robertandenith]

wow Monique you do need to talk to him. Men are from mars and women from venus, they do not think - we have to pull their ears many times to get things through them :

[~Megan~]

Originally Posted by veronicalynne

Oh he is the sweet easy one.....it is Yasmeen and Tamara who are the problem......I cant lie down with him and leave them downstairs. Yasmeen would be ok but I dont feel comfortable having Tamara downstairs kwim? And if I bring Tam upstairs she will jump on me to bf which normally I would not mind but not when I am trying to rest. I do sleep with Mr. J side lying and nursing during the night and I really find it restful but there doesnt seem to be anyway I can do it during the day with Yasmeen and Tamara around.

Oh, ok. I thought you said one was asleep and a friend was going to take he other girl.
ask her to take them both tomorrow for a few hours, I bet she's willing.

[AKA_PI]

Well ladies, he took the hint and offered to do all of the cooking from now on so I can rest. we made a trip to the grocery store this evening (our first family outing) and then stopped by my parents house. He told me to sit down and somewhere and he will take care of things from this point. Wow. And to think I didn't even get a chance to open my mouth all the way about the situation. All I said that I really need to take it easy because I feel like my body is wearing down and he said, "well, stop doing so much. I'll take care of cooking and everything. You just sit down and rest." Wow.

Now if we can just get him to do a better job about cleaning up after himself and talking to the baby so loudly, all will be well. Do you know this fool suggested we put Kendall on his tummy and see if he will crawl?: After I cursed him out and reminded him that he is two weeks old, he shut up.

[bettie cracker]

Originally Posted by AKA_PI

Well ladies, he took the hint and offered to do all of the cooking from now on so I can rest. we made a trip to the grocery store this evening (our first family outing) and then stopped by my parents house. He told me to sit down and somewhere and he will take care of things from this point. Wow. And to think I didn't even get a chance to open my mouth all the way about the situation. All I said that I really need to take it easy because I feel like my body is wearing down and he said, "well, stop doing so much. I'll take care of cooking and everything. You just sit down and rest." Wow.

Now if we can just get him to do a better job about cleaning up after himself and talking to the baby so loudly, all will be well. Do you know this fool suggested we put Kendall on his tummy and see if he will crawl?: After I cursed him out and reminded him that he is two weeks old, he shut up.

Good progress!!

Just remember though, healing yourself completely and getting the rest you need is way more important than a perfectly clean house. So definitely keep letting him do stuff.

[kris4chloe]

Originally Posted by fridgeart

moms of boys and girls, did oyu find your boys were more ravenous? he just seems to eat and eat. i'm following his cues, but this morning it seemes like he was feeding every 30 minutes. yikes!

well my two best nursers have been my girls. i always had latch problems etc with my boys. my fourth child (boy) was not the best nurser and had to be constantly prompted to nurse.

now this one, she is a piggie.